DH just said he agrees with the parents in NZ

[Oliolo]

Sorry wasn't sure what to put as the title.

My DH has just said he wouldn't want his child treated with "vaccinated blood" either and wholeheartedly agrees with the NZ parents.

We don't have any kids but we are (were 😞) TTC.

He didn't have the vaccine which is his choice and I've tried not to discuss it with him too much because he can get very worked up about it.

He thinks vaccinated blood will give people cancer within 2-5 years. The "elites" know all about it and it would be child abuse to give a child vaccinated blood. He says deaths are up 10 fold since the vaccine.

I'm now seriously reconsidering TTC.

Wwyd in this situation? We've been together for 15 years. He never used to be an anti vaxxer. These extreme views started after the pandemic.

Nope. I am afraid that sort of twattery would be the end for me.

sorry.

Talk through other things about parenting including attitudes to:
-vaccinations for babies and children
-food
-formula/breastfeeding
-whose job it is to wake up repeatedly in the night with babies/children
-whose job it is to take days off work to look after sick kids (this happens a LOT).

Then maybe you can make a more informed choice without making assumptions about what you both believe.

I'd leave him. Don't inflict this nonsense on your future children,

Eh? Not sure what this even means. Asking on behalf of everyone else who's clueless.

Why would any child of yours even have a blood transfusion?

Why would you want to spend your life and the potential life of a child with someone so stupid?

Don’t have a child together. Could you forgive yourself, or him, if you don’t vaccinate your child because he’s gone all conspiracy theory believing and your child contracts meningitis and has a life limiting deficit as a result?
I’m a strong believer in vaccines after nursing at age 21 a girl the same age as me losing 3 of her limbs through meningitis. I’ve seen many more since including a 10 month old baby become totally deaf after hearing until she became ill.

Consider your future, very carefully

I think he's personally well within his rights to hold those beliefs, people are allowed to be idiots.

What I wouldn't do, under any circumstances, is knowingly TTC with someone with such views.

Do not have children with this man, whatever you do.

I'd leave.

Apart from anything else, if he thinks vaccines can have affects 2-5 years after they are administered, he doesn't have even the faintest clue as to how vaccines actually work. I couldn't raise children with someone that stupid.

@Oliolo I would get back on contraception immediately, though there's a fair chance he wouldn't get close enough to me to need it, but just in case.

Theres a lot to unpick here, but let's start with how often you decide not to 'push' things because you know he'll react badly??

secondly, I presume he knows you did get vaccinated?! How has he been about that?

He’s bonkers walk away and do not have kids with him.

That would be the end for me.

Someone who would willingly allow their own child to die (even in theory) to make some weird point is not a good person.

This is a good point and it almost makes it more difficult because he would be the first person to get up in the night, he wouldn't question me regarding breastfeeding etc. He is extremely supportive and caring in every way.

It's just this. He is completely against the vaccine and genuinely believes it's killing people.

It’s a nope from me too. Leaving aside the conspiracy theorist bullshit you need to be on the same page. What if he decides that childhood immunisations are bad as well?

What about other vaccines?

It might fade out , given time. But I know one thing ; logic will not work. I remember when conspiracies were fun. Sigh.

I'm not saying they would. However, I do think it is an important discussion to have.

This is a veeeery slippery slope. I wouldn’t be continuing TTC with him, that’s for sure.

He thinks the covid vaccines are not like other vaccines and will have long term effects.

I'm at my wits end. I am not a scientist and I don't know enough about it in order to argue back. Everything I say he just dismisses as me being brainwashed by the mainstream media.

No, I wouldn't have children with somebody who is unhinged. Because that is what he is.

Has he said why the government or whoever wants to make sure everyone has cancer in the next 2-5 years? It doesn't make sense.

The more you say about him, the worse he sounds.

He a conspiracy theorist, would allow his child to die, you don't want to challenge his views, and he is totally dismissive of your views.

He talks a lot about the world economic forum and depopulation.

He put a lot of money into crypto and thinks we'll be part of the "1%" one day.

I am so lost I don't even know what to think anymore. I'm mid thirties and I've been with him most of my adult life. I wouldn't know where to start or how to think about leaving.

Did he used to think people were going to die earlier? I remember reading posts from conspiracy theorists that it was going to happen sooner than 2-5 years. Of course in 2-5 years it will be moved to further in the future or change to something else. No one will reflect and realise they were wrong.

I wouldn’t be with someone like that. I have a sibling whose spouse was posting about how the vaccine was killing everyone who had it. They had to point out the people who’d had it and explain how it wasn’t the case. I just don’t know how you stay in a relationship like that. How can you respect them?

Well he's wrong, they can't. Vaccines do not stay in the body long enough to have effects years later, any effects are seen within days or, just possibly, weeks, but not years. This isn't my opinion, it's scientific fact.

And I do know enough about vaccines to say that with total certainty. Nothing to do with being brainwashed by the mainstream media either, I happen to have direct access to an expert in this field.