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Sliding into DMs

214 replies

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 20:41

I met a guy last night and there was a huge attraction- intense eye contact, lots of smiling and intimate looks.
There wasn't a chance to swap numbers - I can't go into why, but it was not appropriate.
He's a bit younger and I can see he has insta - should I DM him on there? I've never done this, I'm over 40 but he clearly uses inst. His profile is private but you can still message I believe.
Advice please??

OP posts:
Turnthatcrapdown · 12/11/2022 22:08

🙈😅

Winter2019 · 12/11/2022 22:08

You only live once, go for it

Butchyrestingface · 12/11/2022 22:09

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:01

Except I'm after 🍆 not love

I can see it already - Bognor Regis' answer to Antony and Cleopatra. This is gonna be one for the ages.

monsteronahill · 12/11/2022 22:09

@Chailatteplease

Oh do give over, it's not getting kicks - it's responding to an OP who's getting weirder and weirder, is probably a troll and using 🍆 emojis. Do tell me what sage advice you'd have offered!

Derbee · 12/11/2022 22:10

Well it’s all a bit gross if true, isn’t it?

You were at parents evening/a school play/whatever and decided you’d like to shag one of the teachers? Im glad you haven’t messaged him.

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:10

monsteronahill · 12/11/2022 22:09

@Chailatteplease

Oh do give over, it's not getting kicks - it's responding to an OP who's getting weirder and weirder, is probably a troll and using 🍆 emojis. Do tell me what sage advice you'd have offered!

It's not a troll but aware that it sounds stupid. There is a big part I'm having to leave out.

OP posts:
NalaNana · 12/11/2022 22:10

Weird how people are going out of their way to tell you he doesn't fancy you, was everyone else there?! I'd follow on insta before a message

Ontobetterthings · 12/11/2022 22:10

FatGirlSwim · 12/11/2022 21:47

I am old. I opened this thread to find out how you slide into Doctor Marten boots without undoing the laces. Genuinely.

I'm crying 🤣🤣

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/11/2022 22:11

So we are expected to believe you're trying to 'hook up' with a teacher at your teenage DC's school who it sounds as though is closer to their age than yours, because he 'eye fucked' you and the only reason he didn't ask for your number is that you were constrained by the presence of childrn?

There aren't enough Envy emojis in the world.

If this is real, and it's not, try not to fuck trusted people in the lives of your children. If you like them.

Justleaveitblankthen · 12/11/2022 22:11

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 21:35

He 110% started it

No such thing as 110%

Darbs76 · 12/11/2022 22:12

if you’re just after sex and he’s a teacher in your kids school, absolutely no

Butchyrestingface · 12/11/2022 22:13

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:10

It's not a troll but aware that it sounds stupid. There is a big part I'm having to leave out.

You did the vertical foxtrot in the classroom stationary cupboard?

Claudia84 · 12/11/2022 22:14

Butchyrestingface · 12/11/2022 22:13

You did the vertical foxtrot in the classroom stationary cupboard?

🤣

NC12345665 · 12/11/2022 22:15

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:10

It's not a troll but aware that it sounds stupid. There is a big part I'm having to leave out.

When you say "big part" do you mean 🍆 ?

MadelineUsher · 12/11/2022 22:15

When you said you were "constrained", I imagined a softly lit crowded scene involving a works do in a classy venue, the clinking of champagne glasses, and your role forcing you to limit conversation with the mingling throng...

Nah, it's you teenage kids' teacher at parent-teacher evening!

Irishfarmer · 12/11/2022 22:18

I don't know, I think send him a message!

I don't use instagram, but someone else said up thread he may not get a notification of the message but I don't see the harm in sending a message, but keep it very tame and if he doesn't respond don't send another one

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:19

It wasn't a parents eve and no kids were there.
It's a private school and I'm sure plenty of yummy mummies so he maybe has done it before

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badassbaby · 12/11/2022 22:20

MadelineUsher · 12/11/2022 22:15

When you said you were "constrained", I imagined a softly lit crowded scene involving a works do in a classy venue, the clinking of champagne glasses, and your role forcing you to limit conversation with the mingling throng...

Nah, it's you teenage kids' teacher at parent-teacher evening!

I thought of a bondage scenario 😂

nocoolnamesleft · 12/11/2022 22:20

I'd be careful of all this eyefucking. Some STDs can cause very nasty conjunctivitis.

TellMeWhere · 12/11/2022 22:20

I knew you were gonna say it was a teacher. Please don't 😫

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/11/2022 22:21

I thought of a bondage scenario 😂

Constrained not restrained. Important difference.

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:22

NC12345665 · 12/11/2022 22:15

When you say "big part" do you mean 🍆 ?

🤣

OP posts:
badassbaby · 12/11/2022 22:22

RealMousewives · 12/11/2022 22:19

It wasn't a parents eve and no kids were there.
It's a private school and I'm sure plenty of yummy mummies so he maybe has done it before

Oh do give over.
If this is real - which I doubt - don't humiliate yourself.
He's a teacher and 10 years younger.

ljs22 · 12/11/2022 22:23

FatGirlSwim · 12/11/2022 21:47

I am old. I opened this thread to find out how you slide into Doctor Marten boots without undoing the laces. Genuinely.

😂😂

MissAmbrosia · 12/11/2022 22:24

I had a night like this once. Lots of flirty shit, great fun. I thought he was a mechanic with the Williams Formula One team. He turned out to be Jacques Villeneuve who was the world champion at the time, and then going out with Danni Minogue. I'm glad I left it at the "eyefucking" stage and didn't humiliate myself. 😂😍