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[RealMousewives]

I met a guy last night and there was a huge attraction- intense eye contact, lots of smiling and intimate looks.
There wasn't a chance to swap numbers - I can't go into why, but it was not appropriate.
He's a bit younger and I can see he has insta - should I DM him on there? I've never done this, I'm over 40 but he clearly uses inst. His profile is private but you can still message I believe.
Advice please??

Except its the same scenario.

The point is; don't fuck a teacher at your child's school. Get yourself on tinder. There's a million thirsty men on there you can have your pick of.

Just to be clear, I’d find you equally as disgusting if you were a dad “eyefucking” a teacher at your kid’s school, and wanting to follow her on Instagram because you wanted a quick shag.

No double standards. I think shitting on your own doorstep is ill judged

Reversing the gender roles wasn't the double standard I was pointing out.

what was the double standard you were pointing out? Was it that a man leering over you is sleazy but because you’re a woman doing it you think it’s fine?

He was doing it over me.
The double standard was if I'd said it was a guy and I DIDN'T LIKE it, nobody would have gaslighted me and said - well he probably just has big eyes, or I misinterpreted it because I was horny.
Women know when they are being checked out. Women mostly seem to hate it. On this occasion I loved it.
Cue the non belief....

When will your youngest leave school? He might not dare as long as he has to work with your kids.

One of my friends is a teacher who isn't into relationships but does like sex. To protect himself he never had sex with a pupil or their parent until they had left school for at least over a year. He also kept all contact professional even when he was flirted with until then. I think that that is the way to go to prevent any problems.

but most replies aren’t ‘I don’t believe you’, they’re ‘fuck me this is so cringey how could you think this is appropriate with a teacher at your child’s school’

It wasn't that most people didn't believe he was doing it, OP. Most people just thought it was grim and sleazy and even more gross when you revealed it was your kid's teacher.

To be fair I have heeded them.
The I don't believe you ones stuck out as particularly mumsnet x2

@RealMousewives Because no one on this earth has ever thought someone was into them when they weren't. (Actually it's really common, especially as you've said in your concurrent thread that you're horny as hell.)

Eye fucking

Sliding into DMs

?????

Finding it hard to believe that this was written by a grown woman in her 40s tbh. I'm 43 if that makes a difference.

If this is genuine however, then absolutely no way should you be getting into that sort of relationship with a teacher at your child's school. Conflict of interest and all that.

I don't deny it happened. We know when we mutually find someone attractive. It's the fact it's a teacher for me.

There's a younger teacher at my child's school who is always looking at me etc. He's probably around 23. I'm 32. I mean you can tell, completely ignore him, mind. A teacher is just so horribly inappropriate. Just imagine how awkward it would be if it all went wrong 😬😬