Friend not giving me a lift home...aibu?

[greenbradket]

Night out with friend last night
Met her in her city which is around 20 min drive but 1 hr 20 mins by bus.
As we were drinking I couldn't take my car.
So I stayed at her house
This morning she says "sorry I can't take you home,I don't want to use petrol unnecessary "
So she drops me off at the bus stop
The Sunday service is 1 a hour and I've just missed it.
Aibu to think it's a bit crappy?
Bare in mind every time she stays over mine I drive her home or if I feel too hungover I'll pay for her Uber

Could you not have given her some money towards petrol? Seems the most logical of solutions.

Time to treat her as she treats you?

A bit but I guess you could have taken your car and parked at hers before your night out?

Ask her to give you a lift back if she wants lifts in the future. It's not a one way friendship.

You can't control what she offers you. But you can control what you offer her.

Yeah that is a bit selfish of her, 20 mins of petrol is barely anything. But at least you know what to do the next time she stays at yours!!

@Skinnermarink that was my original plan but she didn't want to wait till I got there to then drive back into town as she was dropping her kids off at her dads near city centre

Depending on how much you were drinking would she have even been sober enough to drive you home?

Also, why do you pay for her uber? I would expect to pay for my own uber from a friends house (and vice versa)

Why didn’t you offer the money for the return trip?

If you pay for her to get an Uber couldn’t you have got one?

This woman is not your friend.

I wouldn't make a big deal of it but If you meet up again make sure it's near YOUR house.
If she isn't up for meeting near your house next time, then reassess......

A taxi would have been better, If it's only 20 minutes it can't be that far? Sometimes public transport leaves you taking convoluted routes because there's nothing direct.

I could have but that was like £45 plus and I didn't want to waste that much
I only pay for hers if I'm not feeling up to driving her home and wouldn't want to leave her to get bus home etc

I definitely don’t feel I have to pay for my friend’s Ubers if I’ve put them up at mine, that would be odd.

So what did she say when you offered her petrol money?

Next time drop her off at the bus stop

Next time leave her to get the bus home

I've offered her £10 petrol money but she said she can't top up less than £20 at her local garage
She said she only has 100 miles in her car
Mine and back would only be 27 miles

WHAT?

You pay £45 to get her home if you are unable to chauffeur her - but she won't even give you a 20 minute lift when it's her turn?

She's not your friend.

£45 for a 20 minute uber drive? Really??? (Not that I disbelieve you but it's nowhere near that much where I am and I am shocked if that's the case)

Its really odd that you pay for her uber home if she's at yours tbh.

Sounds like she was hinting for petrol money, which is fair enough I suppose, then when that wasn't forthcoming she dropped you at the bus stop.

Take this as a sign that she should be paying her own way home next time she's at yours.

Is there a huge difference in circumstances? For example, is she a single parent on an extremely low income whilst you live mortgage free with a massive income?

If not, she's being rude. You didn't do anything to upset her on your night out did you?

It's only the one time I paid her Uber the rest of the times I drive her home.
I'm not a big drinker so the one time I drink more than 3 I wasn't feeling great next day

Even if this was true, seems odd though, why couldn't she just keep your £10 until she next tops up.

She's making shit up because she couldn't be arsed. Now you know, don't drop her home again and never pay £45 for a bloody taxi for her!!!