Friend not giving me a lift home...aibu?

[greenbradket]

Night out with friend last night
Met her in her city which is around 20 min drive but 1 hr 20 mins by bus.
As we were drinking I couldn't take my car.
So I stayed at her house
This morning she says "sorry I can't take you home,I don't want to use petrol unnecessary "
So she drops me off at the bus stop
The Sunday service is 1 a hour and I've just missed it.
Aibu to think it's a bit crappy?
Bare in mind every time she stays over mine I drive her home or if I feel too hungover I'll pay for her Uber

Why are you being such a total mug?

Who would accept that bullshit about a petrol station only accepting £20? I would have said, “that’s bullshit - so why are you saying it?”

How did you end up being dropped off too late for the bus, and not refusing to get out of the car?

@Testina she dropped me in the wrong place and I'm not familiar with the city so I got lost looking for the bus stop

So Her return trip would be 40 mins? Against an hour on the bus, and you have already stayed at hers, using sheets, hot water, breakfast etc?

It is very generous of you to drive her home when she stays at yours, in general I would never expect a lift if reasonable public transport is available.
Was it her fault you missed the bus? If so it would have been reasonable for her to drive you home.

Next time sort the timing so you can leave your car at hers.

I dont get why you pay for her Uber, yes you can't give her a lift si what she's an adult with money...Next time I'd be going from mine and lift to bed stop

Yeah that’s shit of her. I wouldn’t be staying at hers again or visa versa.

I haven't had breakfast at hers or a bath
I literally woke up and went home

Even if the petrol station did have a 20 quid limit, she didn't need to fill up on the journey but she could have taken the tenner.

Clearly she didn't want to drive but why not check the bus times before she drove you to the bus stop and say, can we hang on til the next one cos I'll be standing about for nearly an hour now?

I can understand it if she’s desperately short of money and doesn’t even have £10 to top up the petrol to the £20 minimum, but if that’s the truly case, then she shouldn’t be prioritising drinking on a night out over saving money. For that reason, I am putting on my judgy pants and calling her a tight arse.

*truly the case

I'd assume moneys tight til pay day - especially if she's got kids - and she'd already set money aside for the night out.

and wouldn't want to leave her to get bus home etc

Why not? What is the big deal with anyone getting the bus?

I don’t think I’d be going out with her again.

That's quite rude of her if you offered money. Not buying that the minimum she can top up is £20 though.

Was she hungover?

I don’t live in your area, but located it in seconds using Google maps to check part words in the area where the coast, and 2 numbered roads run in 3 parallel lines. Not that it really matters - but if it matters to you, get that deleted!

She's a shitty person and a shitty friend.

You’re being a mug. Stop.

Well now you know what to do.

drop her at the bus station.

ffs, this isn’t how you should treat a mate, how much is it to take you home? Less than. The price of a sodding drink these days!

I do agree that she is mean to not treat her in the generous way that you treat her, but in general I would say that you have no need to take responsibility for her transport home, and vice versa.

Is any of this reflected in other areas of your friendship?

So she didn’t even take you to the bus stop?

Is it some complicated one way system where you walking the last 100m saves a 15 minute traffic nightmare? (my town is like this - 100m walk through shopping centre, or you have to circle the whole damn thing).

Even if there was a good excuse not to take you to the bus stop - and I doubt it - I wouldn’t see this person ever again for the petrol bullshit.

It’s kind of on you that you’re mug enough to drive her home or pay a taxi (wtf?!!!) and doesn’t obligate her really. But… that bullshit about the petrol is just ridiculous. As is not accommodating you driving over in the first place.

But you need to look at your own actions too. Why didn’t you drive over anyway? Why didn’t you make a firm agreement with her that she’d drive you home?

That would have pissed me off no end.
There would be no more nights out with her. She'd have shot herself right in the foot.

Offer her the same next time she stays at yours, drop her at the bus station. Easy.

Aside from her treating you poorly, she shouldn't be replying on the mileage gauge sating she has 100 miles. They are an approximation, taking into account speed and driving conditions and notoriously unreliable.

I'd say nothing but secretly think a little less of her and would also stop driving her home- and definitely not pay for her uber! Thats madness! She's taking the piss accepting it.

I agree with the she is not your friend posts.