Friend not giving me a lift home...aibu?

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Night out with friend last night
Met her in her city which is around 20 min drive but 1 hr 20 mins by bus.
As we were drinking I couldn't take my car.
So I stayed at her house
This morning she says "sorry I can't take you home,I don't want to use petrol unnecessary "
So she drops me off at the bus stop
The Sunday service is 1 a hour and I've just missed it.
Aibu to think it's a bit crappy?
Bare in mind every time she stays over mine I drive her home or if I feel too hungover I'll pay for her Uber

Citi mapper App tells you how to get anywhere its not like she's a child.

The fair thing would be taking turns at staying over and either both of you or neither of you offering lifts. That way you are both having the pleasure of rack others company and both equally inconvenienced by the need to catch buses the next day.

Annoyed at what?

This, although you may not have expected that response from hwr

Drive your car as near to the place you are going for drinks as you can/ to her house, they if needed a short taxi trip to the venue. I make sure I am wholly independent of others. It has taken me a long time to realise most people will not put themselves out for you, not even reciprocating. I used to get really upset about this, and disappointed in people. Now I bear this in mind and don´t do things I don´t want to do for people who don´t reciprocate and am never disappointed now.
She´s not really a close a friend as you thought she was, would be demoted to drinking buddy.

Plan ahead FFS.

If you did not think about this before and simply assumed she would drive you home then you are being unreasonable

If it was arranged for her to drive you home the next day then she is being unreasonable.

It is definitely crappy. Just know where you stand now with her, and start to distance abit. Not a real true friend who would do anything for you, didn't want to go out of her way for you.
Obviously at the same time you could've got a taxi, and or just wait for the bus. You can still get home, it's just that this girl wouldn't do anything for you, to make your life a bit easier.
I personally would love to make my friends journey much quicker for a 20 min drive, no issue, I wouldn't think twice or be selfish.

Yes, given she always accepts you driving her home or (even paying her cab the time you couldn’t) she was very unreasonable. In future, you know you can let her take the bus as well.

You shouldn’t give, to expect the same in return.

You made your choice and she made hers. I think it’s unfair of you, as a friend to expect that from her and to act so entitled.

I would never expect someone to take me home, that's my responsibility.

I think you should be grateful she took you to the bus stop.

Next time she stays at yours return yhe favour

I think you have shuttled her back to her place for the last time.

Two can play at this game. Never forget.

It all sounds like she would rather meet you there and you both make your own way home after the night out.

She could probably stay at her dads with the kids but because you're expecting to stay at hers it's causing her more work/inconvenience before and after - rather than having that conversation with you she's purposely making things awkward.

If you want to keep the friendship you might want to rethink arrangements and approach her saying 'would it be better for you if I did x, y z'. Going out & only having 3 drinks doesn't mean you'll be legless & need taking home but she might be happier if you got a taxi home rather than staying at hers. Does she drink a lot?

I'm not being mean, just trying to unpick what's up with her.

Or maybe you just end the friendship if she feels unable to talk to you about it.

You pay her Uber?

Pay for your own uber then

Duh

After a few bad experiences, i have decided to never rely on a friend for transportation (I do not have a car but I use my bike or public transport or taxi). If your friend offers you a ride, then great, accept the offer, but always have a plan B in case she doesn’t. Next time she says she can’t wait for you to drive your car to her place for a night out, you will know better and can remind her of her behaviour of the previous time. Best

This makes no sense! You'll waste £45 for her but not for you?

More fool you!

I would not be happy either

Not a friend.

You should have planned your own return home before assuming you would get a lift. Whether you gave her one in the past before is irrelevant - never rely on other people to sort your shit out.

Are you really friends or just drinking buddies. Sounds abit sharp and I would definitely cut her off as she seems selfish or like a user.

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If you drive her home or pay for an uber she should return the favour. It was mean of her,

Seems to me it's all about her. When she stays at yours make it all about you.