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AIBU?

To have a party this weekend even if the Queen dies

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HmAndAh · 08/09/2022 15:32

We have been planning the garden party for two months, 30+ people invited for this Saturday. Now with the news on TV about Queen's health we are unsure whether we should cancel it, and what to do if the sad news happens tomorrow or Saturday.
Would you find it appropriate to come to the big party in case of the Queen dies on the day?

YANBU - proceed with the event as planned.

AIBU - cancel the party, it will be inappropriate and awkward

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DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 18:51

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 17:38

I had a feeling you'd start tone policing once it was pointed out that you absolutely had said most people feel like you do. There was nowhere else for you to go after that direct quote.

So let's take this opportunity to point out: this is a thread asking for views about whether to cancel a garden party, on a forum whose selling point is a robust exchange of views. Which you clearly understand, given your comments about this being predictable on MN. You have said various things that many of us find ridiculous and that some would even consider offensive, and now appear to think you have some kind of moral high ground in flouncing because you didn't like what you read. That'll be a no.

A robust exchange of views is certainly what MN is about. Something I like and respect.

Being nasty and rude is not.

You can try and conflate those things to justify your nastiness all you like.

It's a sad day. I am a little more sensitive to deliberate goadiness than normal.

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PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 18:54

DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 18:50

A robust exchange of views is certainly what MN is about. Something I like and respect.

Being nasty and rude is not.

You can try and conflate those things to justify your nastiness all you like.

It's a sad day. I am a little more sensitive to deliberate goadiness than normal.

Oh you're back? Quelle surprise! Pointing out how ridiculous and entitled you were being isn't being nasty though, and if you don't want things like that being said to you there are much better threads for you to post on.

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DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 18:54

Omg I got an MN error code and it seems it multiple posted.

Certainly gets my point across!😬

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LollingAround · 08/09/2022 18:56

It literally wouldn't have crossed my mind. I'm sorry for everyone who was actually close to her but no more than any other person I don't know. I can't imagine any of my friends or family would care much either. She was 96 πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

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DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 19:00

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 18:54

Oh you're back? Quelle surprise! Pointing out how ridiculous and entitled you were being isn't being nasty though, and if you don't want things like that being said to you there are much better threads for you to post on.

I just love talking to you, so had to return. One would think you enjoy it too!

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Allywill · 08/09/2022 19:02

Foronenightonly22 · 08/09/2022 16:40

It’s not a Queen tribute night is it?

Weirdly my daughter has tickets to see a open air showing of bohemian rhapsody (film) on Sunday. I did wonder if it might be cancelled or rescheduled.

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PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 19:02

DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 19:00

I just love talking to you, so had to return. One would think you enjoy it too!

Then you'll be honoured to be the first to know that if nothing's open on the day of the funeral, I might end up hosting a get together myself.

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ShinyMe · 08/09/2022 19:04

I'd go ahead. But to warn you - Diana's funeral was on my birthday, and all my friends cancelled and refused to come. So you may find the decision is out of your hands.

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Christmasiscominghohoho · 08/09/2022 19:06

Distasteful to go ahead.

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Yesthatismychildsigh · 08/09/2022 19:06

Of course you should have your party. Did you even know her? People die everyday, some very young. It’s sad for her family, of course, but why would you change your plans?

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DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 19:07

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 19:02

Then you'll be honoured to be the first to know that if nothing's open on the day of the funeral, I might end up hosting a get together myself.

And good for you!

Will you be raising a glass?

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PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 19:09

DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 19:07

And good for you!

Will you be raising a glass?

Lots. Not to the queen though, although I can't guarantee nobody will be drunk enough to find the idea amusing.

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vera99 · 08/09/2022 19:09

My sick heart shows
That I must yield my body to the earth,
And, by my fall, the conquest to my foe.
Thus yields the cedar to the axe's edge,
Whose arms gave shelter to the princely eagle;
Under whose shade the ramping lion slept:
Whose top-branch overpeer'd Jove's spreading tree,
And kept low shrubs from winter's powerful wind.
Henry VI, Part III (c. 1591), Act V, scene 2, line 8.

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FourChimneys · 08/09/2022 19:12

Something very significant happened to one of my DC today. They will always be able to say "That happened on the day the Queen died".

Go ahead and have a great party OP, I doubt if we are all expected to change our plans. I certainly am not.

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Loics · 08/09/2022 19:25

Not all neighbours will mind, I won't be mourning and if we had neighbours, wouldn't mind if they had people over. It's sad that someone died, but that's it for me. She was 96.

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PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 19:36

Loics · 08/09/2022 19:25

Not all neighbours will mind, I won't be mourning and if we had neighbours, wouldn't mind if they had people over. It's sad that someone died, but that's it for me. She was 96.

Yeah, I think as long as you don't make it Prince Andrew themed most people are going to be unbothered.

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Sunnytwobridges · 08/09/2022 19:57

Why would people's lives stop just because she has died? I'm sure mot people won't care, I'd still have a party without even thinking about it.

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FOTTFSOFTFOASM · 08/09/2022 20:13

ShinyMe · 08/09/2022 19:04

I'd go ahead. But to warn you - Diana's funeral was on my birthday, and all my friends cancelled and refused to come. So you may find the decision is out of your hands.

I'd have changed my friends at that point.

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DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 20:27

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 19:09

Lots. Not to the queen though, although I can't guarantee nobody will be drunk enough to find the idea amusing.

Saying that, I do think there's a propensity for people to consume more alcohol this weekend! Queenly toasts may happen!

That said, I take back my umbrage at your 'deranged' take. I'm on my way to Bucks Pally as I type, although there seems to be some sort of ruckus on the bus, so god knows what time I'll get there. Haven't even got a candle to light and it's peeing down anyway.

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JudgeJ · 08/09/2022 20:30

Itwasntright · 08/09/2022 15:42

Why the hell would you cancel because a woman you don't know died?

When Diana died the place we were going for our anniverssary lunch was amazed that we didn't want to cancel!

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tigger1001 · 08/09/2022 20:31

I would go ahead.

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the80sweregreat · 08/09/2022 20:34

Yes , go ahead !
Life does go on

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namedhange · 08/09/2022 20:37

10HailMarys · 08/09/2022 15:33

Unless you are Prince Charles, I reckon you're fine to go ahead

🀣

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JudgeJ · 08/09/2022 20:38

giveovernate · 08/09/2022 18:04

I remember my DS1 being invited to a bouncy castle party on the day of her funeral, still went ahead!

I got shouted at my the nosey neighbour for cutting the grass during the funeral.

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Whatup · 08/09/2022 20:57

Unless you have a title you are not required to do anything. But the done thing by most posh people will be to treat it like a sunday and spend the day at home with family and to watch the funeral on tv.

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