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To have a party this weekend even if the Queen dies

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HmAndAh · 08/09/2022 15:32

We have been planning the garden party for two months, 30+ people invited for this Saturday. Now with the news on TV about Queen's health we are unsure whether we should cancel it, and what to do if the sad news happens tomorrow or Saturday.
Would you find it appropriate to come to the big party in case of the Queen dies on the day?

YANBU - proceed with the event as planned.

AIBU - cancel the party, it will be inappropriate and awkward

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?


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Cas112 · 08/09/2022 15:53

Cas112 · 08/09/2022 15:53

YABU.. life carries on

YANBU sorry


mondaytosunday · 08/09/2022 15:55

Um I think it's fine unless you know her personally!


JOFFCV · 08/09/2022 15:55

10HailMarys · 08/09/2022 15:33

Unless you are Prince Charles, I reckon you're fine to go ahead


I'd go ahead. I'm sure she wouldn't want to spoil your party.


bellabasset · 08/09/2022 15:58

My friend's family have a wedding planned for Saturday and obviously that will go ahead.


Funkyblues101 · 08/09/2022 15:59

InsertPunHere · 08/09/2022 15:36

Unless the Queen's relatives are invited to your party I would go ahead

I suspect the Queen's relatives will cancel their attendance rather than expect entire events to be cancelled! Good grief. Scuse the pun.


Spidey66 · 08/09/2022 16:00

I read the title amd thought you'd throw a party this weekend if she did died, not that that it was already planned!

I'd go ahead tbh, but I'm no royalist, and the death of a 96 year old woman who I don't know, have nothing in common with, and who I don't actually have more than the tiniest bit of respect for, wouldn't affect my plans.


fruitbrewhaha · 08/09/2022 16:01

Eh? Unless you actually know her I'd say carry on.


fruitbrewhaha · 08/09/2022 16:02

I want to say YABU because its the most ridiculous thing I've read on here today


OldFan · 08/09/2022 16:04

I would go ahead. You can always all give her a toast.


WaltzingWaters · 08/09/2022 16:04

Carry on! Wouldn’t think twice about it.


nilpois · 08/09/2022 16:05

I think our Queen is a wonderful woman and I will be sad when she does die,
I would still hold a preplanned event though, and as others have said I would also make a toast to her.


PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2022 16:06

How is this even a consideration? Of course you go ahead.


DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 16:06

I'm going to disagree and say it will be in bad taste.

I can't quite articulate how I feel properly in words, but i would find it disrespectful as a guest and would likely decline. And I wouldn't want to hear my neighbours celebrating in their garden at a national period of mourning.

Even if you don't like the Queen I think it ultimately is about respect. And maybe a teenie amount of nationalism.


Bramshott · 08/09/2022 16:06

Party at home - carry on
Party in a venue - you may find that the venue cancels


PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2022 16:07

If my friend cancelled a party because the queen died, I’d think she’d gone nuts.


KettrickenSmiled · 08/09/2022 16:07


Sorry had to take a few moments to tug m'forelock there so no nobs saw the impertinent laughter.

I think you're ok to go ahead OP.
The royals, & royalists, love to party.

It's us republicans you need to watch out for.

Just a word to the wise ... it's not very likely, but you know how ridiculously soon supermarkets start stocking festive items: do NOT be tempted to buy any mince pies you see on early offer.
Because if Her Maj carks it over the w/e & there's a rebublican coup, the roundheads will have you in the stocks before you can say "Oliver Cromwell."
Better lay of the dancing too, that's likely to become a capital offence.


Stellaris22 · 08/09/2022 16:09

Unless you have friends that are hard core royalists don't cancel your plans. Would royals cancel because someone from your family died?


FruitPastilleNut · 08/09/2022 16:09

The situation with the Queen wouldn't even register with me in terms of throwing or attending a party, whatever happens.

Considering the actions of the BBC I suspect an announcement of her death is imminent and will happen today - but in reality its not going to affect the vast majority of people's lives in any way.


KettrickenSmiled · 08/09/2022 16:09

FourChimneys · 08/09/2022 15:45

Will any of the royal family change their plans for your funeral OP? I would base your decision on the answer.

Veeeery neatly put @FourChimneys 😘


vera99 · 08/09/2022 16:09

Venues won't be cancelling and nor should they - crack on and enjoy yourself. This isn't North Korea.


Hobbesmanc · 08/09/2022 16:09

Bramshott · 08/09/2022 16:06

Party at home - carry on
Party in a venue - you may find that the venue cancels

Really? It would be tough on venues to feel pressure to cancel- so many on their knees anyway with post covid crap and now a recession looming.

I'd not even think of cancelling anything


DwightShrutesYFronts · 08/09/2022 16:09

Why would you even have a thought like this never mind post about it? Honestly. If this is how it's going to be just kill me now.


NellesVilla · 08/09/2022 16:10

You’re lucky to live in the UK, OP. In other countries (not going to mention them as feel that’s not needed) it’d be frowned upon…and worse.

I reckon the Queen would advise you to go ahead and enjoy yourself in the event of her demise anyway!


TabithaTiger · 08/09/2022 16:11

This feels like an appropriate thread to ask something I've been wondering about... festivals... will they go ahead this weekend if the news is what we think it is?


Tlolljs · 08/09/2022 16:11

Yeah we’ve got a bbq planned for Sunday. Weather permitting. My birthday, bad enough being 911 we will go ahead and raise a glass.

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