AIBU?
To have a party this weekend even if the Queen dies
HmAndAh · 08/09/2022 15:32
We have been planning the garden party for two months, 30+ people invited for this Saturday. Now with the news on TV about Queen's health we are unsure whether we should cancel it, and what to do if the sad news happens tomorrow or Saturday.
Would you find it appropriate to come to the big party in case of the Queen dies on the day?
YANBU - proceed with the event as planned.
AIBU - cancel the party, it will be inappropriate and awkward
Am I being unreasonable?
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PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 16:31
DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 16:06
I'm going to disagree and say it will be in bad taste.
I can't quite articulate how I feel properly in words, but i would find it disrespectful as a guest and would likely decline. And I wouldn't want to hear my neighbours celebrating in their garden at a national period of mourning.
Even if you don't like the Queen I think it ultimately is about respect. And maybe a teenie amount of nationalism.
It probably is about respect for her and nationalism yeah, as I have neither and find your view incomprehensible. If I found out one of my neighbours was unhappy at me hosting a party because the queen had just died I would genuinely wonder if they were on drugs.
Bramshott · 08/09/2022 16:32
In terms of venues cancelling - yes some might. They may wish to open a book of condolence, or they may feel it doesn't look good to be open under those circumstances (council owned venues for example). I work on events and I've had to sign a few venue contracts now which stipulate that in the event of the death of the monarch the contract is null and void and the event will be cancelled.
DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 16:35
PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 08/09/2022 16:31
It probably is about respect for her and nationalism yeah, as I have neither and find your view incomprehensible. If I found out one of my neighbours was unhappy at me hosting a party because the queen had just died I would genuinely wonder if they were on drugs.
DysonSphere · 08/09/2022 16:06
I'm going to disagree and say it will be in bad taste.
I can't quite articulate how I feel properly in words, but i would find it disrespectful as a guest and would likely decline. And I wouldn't want to hear my neighbours celebrating in their garden at a national period of mourning.
Even if you don't like the Queen I think it ultimately is about respect. And maybe a teenie amount of nationalism.
Do you truly have no hidden remnants of nationalism? Most people do even if they are generally neutral. It's tends to lurk in the background and come to the fore at certain moments. I'm not talking about huge nationalistic 'we are the greatest' sort of thing
It's the nation's Sovereign.
I'm clearly really alone here!😕
nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 16:36
PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2022 16:34
What difference does that make?
I am genuinely baffled by some of the suggestions on this thread.
nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 16:32
Maybe move it indoors.
Because if the rest of the neighbourhood are feeling somber about it it's a bit out of order to be laughing and talking loudly outside. Like when Diana died. Just be a bit respectful.
PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2022 16:37
nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 16:36
Because if the rest of the neighbourhood are feeling somber about it it's a bit out of order to be laughing and talking loudly outside. Like when Diana died. Just be a bit respectful.
PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2022 16:34
What difference does that make?
I am genuinely baffled by some of the suggestions on this thread.
nachoavocado · 08/09/2022 16:32
Maybe move it indoors.
It really isn’t out of order to continue with a planned party.
Againstmachine · 08/09/2022 16:38
Because if the rest of the neighbourhood are feeling somber about it it's a bit out of order to be laughing and talking loudly outside. Like when Diana died. Just be a bit respectful.
You shouldn't have to curtail your plans because someone of you and your neighbours have never met wanting party's cancelled is bizzare.
IHateWasps · 08/09/2022 16:39
Do you truly have no hidden remnants of nationalism? Most people do even if they are generally neutral. It's tends to lurk in the background and come to the fore at certain moments. I'm not talking about huge nationalistic 'we are the greatest' sort of thing
I see the continuation of the Monarchy as something to be embarrassed not about. A shame on this country, particularly while more people than ever are having to resort to food and fuel banks. It isn't something to be proud of imo. So party on I say.
ginnybag · 08/09/2022 16:43
Civic venues may well cancel events, yes, as may other places with the Queen's patronage or other ties. Churches, particularly COE, as well. Lots of places do have a 'death of the Monarch' clause in contracts.
I wouldn't worry about a private party at home, although I wouldn't attend one.
I'd be more concerned for events in ten or so days after she dies, as the day of the funeral is more likely to close venues and shut down events.
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