He had fun in the shower ...

[clawflirt]

And was vocal about it all.... right after an argument with me.
When he finished and came out of the bathroom and when he saw me in the bedroom he immediately reverted back to being stony faced and the argument continued.

I cannot get over the hurt I feel, especially as we had not been intimate the night before or that morning.

AIBU.

I find it weird @FirewomanSam .
Didn't want me and made sure I knew it .
He made it personal.
At the time it just unsettled me as I felt threatened by if that makes sense.
It was a Jekyll and Hyde moment for sure.
I feel a bit duped having been with him for a couple of years and not seeing this fuckwittery from him before.
Thanks.

Are you alright OP? Have you been drinking? Please be careful

The next time he has a loud pedal and crank give him a round of applause

It would make SPAG more interesting.

"Remember class, it's 'you're wanking' when pointing out to your partner that they are wanking right now, present tense. But 'your wanking' when talking to your partner about their masturbation in the past tense."

No drinking. I'm ok. I feel humiliated I suppose.

Can't believe some of the responses 🙄 , but your now ex bf, sounds like an arse, and your well rid .

Responses here are disgusting.
He sounds like a nasty shit bag trying to make some sort of point at you. Rejecting you and being angry but then totally happy by himself even whistling after to emphasise to you just how happy he really was. Then comes out to be nasty again.
Piece of shit, glad you're rid

Good for you for getting rid of the idiot. Now he can sort himself out in the shower all the time.

Come back, I want to know what he was saying when he was rage wanking.

Seriously though, you can do much better OP

At the time it just unsettled me as I felt threatened by if that makes sense

In the context of abuse and harassment it makes perfect sense, @clawflirt , because that's exactly how it was supposed to make you feel.

The responses of other posters here, especially the one that has accused you of drinking, are disgraceful.

Come back, I want to know what he was saying when he was rage wanking.

There she blows......

Do people also think it’s funny when men phone charity helplines and loudly masturbate down the phone to intimidate the (usually female) call handlers for kicks?

Or when men expose themselves to women in public as a form of sexual harassment?

What OP’s ex did was an act designed to make her uncomfortable and punish her for something. It’s along the same lines as above, a man forcing a woman to listen to/watch him masturbate as a form of intimidation.

It’s not funny and those laughing and cracking jokes should be ashamed of themselves.

I got what you meant about the whistling and singing too OP. My ex used to do that too. He’d stonewall me and refuse to talk to me but would walk around the flat singing merry tunes to himself, basically as a way to say ‘fuck you, I’m pretending you’re not even here’. Extremely immature behaviour!

When he comes back have a rage wank of your own. That will put you on equal footing. Show your dominance.

She's a woman, not a f*ing baboon

It was a really immature but unsettling response.
He was letting me know that despite me wanting him, he didn't want me and a wank the middle of a serious argument was more preferable to being intimate with me or sorting it out.
Of all the things that were said and done through the argument, this upset me the most.
Those that have been at the hands of a nasty,sulky man will get this .
He had lost control of the argument so this was his master move 🙄

What was the argument about? I don't think it's unusual to not want to be intimate with someone you're arguing with. His behaviour was very passive-aggressive, though.

Well rid of a wanker like this. Chin up, you did the right thing OP.

Rage wank😂
I can imagine the blur.

The argument centred around me doing something on my own that he didn't want to do so I went off and did it anyway . He sulked , stonewalled and ignored me.

Did he take more than 4 minutes?

I'm sorry I made a joke, even though mine wasn't about you OP but was riffing off someone joking about trolling being taught at school.

I wouldn't want to give the impression I don't think this sort of behaviour can happen, or that it isn't passive-aggressive and deliberately intimidating. I wouldn't like it either OP, and I'm glad you have dumped them.

<Sitting on my hands now though to resist making a quip in response to you saying "this was his master move" >

What Firewoman says.

He's very childish and petty. Keep him as an ex.

“You’re wanking”.

Capital “Y”.

I remember our lovely English teacher who told us ( We were 5th Form then) about a flasher she sat opposite on the Tube.
Mrs F. said “Oh put it away- I’ve seen bigger”.