He had fun in the shower ...

[clawflirt]

And was vocal about it all.... right after an argument with me.
When he finished and came out of the bathroom and when he saw me in the bedroom he immediately reverted back to being stony faced and the argument continued.

I cannot get over the hurt I feel, especially as we had not been intimate the night before or that morning.

AIBU.

Next time play this very loud so he can hear it...

The title is misleading btw. What was it? Rage or fun?

Sorry OP I’m confused.

Are you saying he was being nasty to you and in a bad mood.

Then he went in the shower and was whistling like he was in a good mood.

And then when he came out he was nasty again?

Now you have dumped him all his satisfaction will be found alone in the shower.

Good riddance.

If this is the case then why are you writing about this using tenses as if it has just happened?

what do you want people on Mumsnet to say to you?

”oh he’s a dick?”

seriously, what do you want from this post @clawflirt other than to emotionally do the equivalent of what he has done physically in the shower?

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amazing

Poor taps.

Wait. Did you split up before or after the passive aggressive shower wank?

See - in my head it's more gritted teeth, theatrically loud grunting and growling. Like someone trying to move a wardrobe alone.

But, you know, i guess there's no right or wrong when it comes to the rage wank ....

YABU OP. If he had his fun after you split (but guessing still living in the same house) then let him get on with it. I would just roll my eyes and get on with my day

If this was before the split and was the final straw for your relationship then you would have likely split anyway so again YABU

I have to say, I’m a bit thrown by the ‘loud’, performative element. 😂 Also, a mid-argument wank feels different to a post-argument wank…

I’m not really sure what my thoughts are. 🧐

Yes, YABU. So what if he 'pleasured' himself. You should try it, it's fun!

Shame on him for having fun in the shower

What a load of toss.

Why are you with him?

See, I came in to say this but there’s some nuance that swayed me. I mean not to the other side but just onto the fence. 😂

@Laiste I imagine it's more

Fuck you, and you, and you
I hate your friends and they hate me, too
I′m through, I'm through, I′m through
This that hot girl bummer anthem
Turn it up and throw a tantrum

Now I have that song stuck in my head.

I’m so confused. I need a definitive timeline. These are the events as I understand them:

Massive argument (at the weekend?)
End of relationship
No sex in the evening or following morning
Passive aggressive shower wank
OP feels hurt

Is that right? That can’t be right.

This is hilarious… I would of walked in and asked if he was ok 😂

what responses were you hoping for on this thread?

She's not.

Stop giving this head space. He's allowed a wank. It's a great way to de-stress.

😂 what a carry on

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Well done for ditching him - what a knob. And performance wanking <vom> my fanny would clamp shut before I'd have sex with him again after that!