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AIBU?

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He had fun in the shower ...

193 replies

clawflirt · 06/09/2022 20:16

And was vocal about it all.... right after an argument with me.
When he finished and came out of the bathroom and when he saw me in the bedroom he immediately reverted back to being stony faced and the argument continued.

I cannot get over the hurt I feel, especially as we had not been intimate the night before or that morning.

AIBU.

OP posts:
Wonnle · 06/09/2022 21:27

Was he squealing like a piggy ?

Stravaig · 06/09/2022 21:27

What have you been fighting about generally, OP? It's likely more relevant than fixating on the shower.

Why were you loitering outside the bathroom door? If you're fighting for days, cool down, take space, get some perspective.

Pixiedust1234 · 06/09/2022 21:28

Well...hes an ex now. Forget it all.

rocketfromthecrypt · 06/09/2022 21:28

To be fair, he's entitled to turn you down if you offer sex. You don't get to sulk because he wasn't up for it.

Stravaig · 06/09/2022 21:30

'How very dare he find 5 minutes peace or pleasure without me flounce stomp.'

Cenosillicaphobia · 06/09/2022 21:30

@clawflirt I don’t know why this thread has gone the way it has but I understand what you mean.
Nothing wrong with a wank but to be purposefully spiteful like that…no, sounds a twat.

clawflirt · 06/09/2022 21:31

He has form for giving me silent treatment and 'punishing ' me in arguments. Stupid shit like the exaggerated and cringe performance wank 🙄
No interest in tolerating the immaturity and disrespect anymore.

OP posts:
AverageJoan · 06/09/2022 21:31

😂 this thread 🤦‍♀️
FWIW OP, YABU

HebeSunshine · 06/09/2022 21:32

clawflirt · 06/09/2022 21:26

Think I'll slope off now. I was hurt and took it personally
Glad to have entertained you all.
I have my answer now !!!

Yes go and get your rubber ducks in a row.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 06/09/2022 21:36

@clawflirt

A lot of exaggerated vocals followed by whistling and humming gleefully to himself whilst in the bathroom.

To be fair, I do this when I'm having a good shit.

Dreikanter · 06/09/2022 21:39

clawflirt · 06/09/2022 21:24

I wanted sex the night before and the morning of the argument. He was not interested in me and proceeded to sort himself in the shower instead.

This does make it sound like the relationship had run its course.

Hope you find the one next time.

sweetsalted · 06/09/2022 21:44

🤦🏻‍♀️ YABVU

SkirridHill · 06/09/2022 21:45

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NSx · 06/09/2022 21:47

What have I just read 😩

Leafy3 · 06/09/2022 21:47

See i recall a very similar thread sometime ago where there responses were quite different and the overall conclusion was that it was aggressive behaviour designed to intimidate like sexual harassment.

He is of course entitled to enjoy his shower in this way but there's definitely a nasty undertone to the behaviour and i think most people would be upset. Best reaction would be to laugh.

Make sure he stays an ex, @clawflirt

Leafy3 · 06/09/2022 21:48

*the

FirewomanSam · 06/09/2022 21:52

Some really mean replies here. This is exactly the kind of shit my abusive ex used to do when he was angry with me. It’s a fucked up way to punish someone. It’s not remotely funny and I guess those laughing their heads off at the mention of wanking (grow up!) are lucky they haven’t had the misfortune of being with someone like this. I’m glad he’s your ex, OP, hope you’re ok.

MsBullseye · 06/09/2022 21:53

Never has one single post on MN had the word 'wank' in it so many times

🏆

ShandaLear · 06/09/2022 21:53

GingerScallop · 06/09/2022 20:59

I have learnt two new things today. Rage wanking and performance wanking. Both will come in handy one day.

this thread made me laugh after a miserable day and a saddening realisation

These could be categories in the World Wanking Championships, along with Speed Wanking, High Wanking, and Long Wanking.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 06/09/2022 21:54

Sharon, is that you and the wasp?

ShandaLear · 06/09/2022 21:54

And Distance Wanking.

Blanca87 · 06/09/2022 21:54

@WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps 🤣🤣🤣

mycatisannoying · 06/09/2022 21:55

I understand OP. It seems really passive-aggressive to be deliberately loud about it.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 06/09/2022 21:58

CaptainBarbosa · 06/09/2022 20:59

Ok then....

I'm just imagining against my better judgement how does one rage wank with vocals.

Is it like "fuck you, fuck you fuck you, yeah yeah, I'm angry, so angry right now, yeah, yeah yeah"

🤔

I LOVE MY BRICK!

WhoAre · 06/09/2022 22:00

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