AIBU to think this wedding invite comes across as intentionally luke warm? From my cousin whom I always thought I had a good relationship with, if not a close one. We live in the same city, I received the following via text:
“Hey BatFink,
I’m getting married in two weeks’ time.
Obviously you’re invited but I do understand with baby you may not want to come
The wedding will be at such and such church at such and such time, followed by dinner at 6pm”
That was all. As I say we’re not close but grew up together and see each other a few times a year. It doesn’t seem like a genuine invitation to me at all. Thoughts?
AIBU?
Rude wedding invite
BatFink260 · 28/04/2022 17:33
Am I being unreasonable?
1297 votes. Final results.
POLLBatFink260 · 28/04/2022 19:32
Yes, this is how I’ve read it too.
Rococococo · 28/04/2022 19:18
I read “obviously you’re invited” as “obviously I’m obliged to invite you”. It sounds like she’s hoping you take the hint and say no.
Bizawit · 28/04/2022 20:38
But why?? Why not read it as “obviously you are invited” which is what she wrote!!
BatFink260 · 28/04/2022 19:32
Yes, this is how I’ve read it too.
Rococococo · 28/04/2022 19:18
I read “obviously you’re invited” as “obviously I’m obliged to invite you”. It sounds like she’s hoping you take the hint and say no.
DefiniteTortoise · 28/04/2022 20:37
I think 'Thank you but no - I'm afraid we already have plans for a fortnights' time' would do.
BatFink260 · 28/04/2022 17:33
AIBU to think this wedding invite comes across as intentionally luke warm? From my cousin whom I always thought I had a good relationship with, if not a close one. We live in the same city, I received the following via text:
“Hey BatFink,
I’m getting married in two weeks’ time.
Obviously you’re invited but I do understand with baby you may not want to come
The wedding will be at such and such church at such and such time, followed by dinner at 6pm”
That was all. As I say we’re not close but grew up together and see each other a few times a year. It doesn’t seem like a genuine invitation to me at all. Thoughts?
BlueOverYellow · 28/04/2022 17:57
It sounds like you weren't invited originally, so someone has either said something (parents perhaps?) or dropped out.
Just decide if you would like to go and celebrate with her or not. It really doesn't have to be any deeper than that. Who cares if you weren't 'first' on the invites... we all make tough decisions when numbers have to be limited.
lightisnotwhite · 28/04/2022 22:57
This is not how wedding planning works.
You get engaged, you find somewhere you like with a budget because places you can have a wedding book years in advance . They tell you how many guests you can afford on that budget.
You send out invites with RSVP’s. Some respond, some hedge their bets. You have no idea who is coming or how much it will cost.
BlueOverYellow · 28/04/2022 17:57
It sounds like you weren't invited originally, so someone has either said something (parents perhaps?) or dropped out.
Just decide if you would like to go and celebrate with her or not. It really doesn't have to be any deeper than that. Who cares if you weren't 'first' on the invites... we all make tough decisions when numbers have to be limited.
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