To tell colleagues what happened with boss? Am I allowed to say if I’m still employed?

[SofieM0]

Grievance at work partially upheld. Advised (by friends, peers, other HR colleagues) not to appeal as it’s basically end of my career, outcome unlikely to change and I’d have to resign anyway.
Grievance against boss so he definitely has influence. It was a drunken verbal and physical attack, witnessed by many. I can’t stay in the job. Feel let down by company not to mention the working relationship is untenable for me.
AIBU to tell colleagues (inc other female direct reports to him) why I’m leaving, am I even allowed to whilst I’m still in employment? What about new employers, can I tell them the truth whilst I job search?
I’ve asked my HR but they’ve said they can’t discuss that until the grievance is formally closed (believe pushing me to not appeal).

Ah I see there was a good outcome. Well done op

it was OP who resurrected the thread to give updates. Hardly a random zombie thread just learn to read all OPs posts or check the date before you waffle on.

Yes alcohol again…
Its a good topic to debate - every single grievance, disciplinary or other sketchy workplace situations I have known about in the last 20+ years have been alcohol related (mostly)
but that’s a thread in itself!!

i'm not a lawyer but this is what i would do. i would appeal the decision and wait for the process. I would then ask for a compromise agreement with your employer to go. This should involve money as compensation.

Gosh, OP, what a turn up.
Are you still in the same industry? (the cheek of the fuckers offering you your job back at a reduced salary!)

Folks, this is why you should join a union or at least have legal insurance.

So pleased for you. I remember this one from April.

I hope you're enjoying your new job

Great outcome, OP, I bet they wished they'd taken your grievance more seriously and got shot of him before he laid hands on your colleague.

I sometimes think that cases like this are stacked against the complainant, so it's good to see a half-decent outcome.

Wow I remember this thread I'm glad you are happy with the outcome he clearly believed he was untouchable.

What a great update.

Well done OP.

Wishing you continued success.

Thanks everyone 💐

for those asking, yes I am in a new role and company…just! I took most of the 6 months off and fortunately could survive on the settlement. I hadn’t planned this but turned out I was overdue a break. Best investment I’ve ever made and really what the money should’ve gone to anyway (despite my initial thoughts of replacing the car! Albeit it got a new tyre 😂).

also for those asking - inc loss of earnings, holiday, benefits, bonuses, payment in lieu of notice etc it was circa £40k. But I think there was a decent chunk of that taxed that went over the threshold.

i want to be as transparent as poss for anyone else going through, or thinking of going through it, what it took vs outcome. I didn’t put figures to gloat. More so others have a benchmark and can be reassured that if you have to leave, it’s enough to live on whilst you find somewhere better x

im pretty sure the second female will take them to the cleaners though!!

Also a pp mentioned it but yes, a MN thread where we all come together to support is a nicer read, whatever the circumstances x

The OP updated the thread with some very welcome news, if you read all OP posts you'd see that. Plus I wouldn't rate a 6 month old thread as zombie 🙄

Superb update well done OP. Thank you for letting us know.

Wow what an update. Hope you’re in a great new role.

Well done OP, great news.

I didn't have any advice for you at the time but did read the thread and I am delighted that things have worked out for you @SofieM0.

I wish other contributors to this thread would read it from the start, or at the very least, click to read only your posts, so that they wouldn't come back with comments like this being a zombie thread or advice on what to do (as the thread was started back in April and it's now November)...

Anyway - onwards and upwards! Well done to you and I seriously hope the other complainant here takes this company to the cleaners and that because it is multi-jurisdictional because of the perpetrator, that it hits the headlines everywhere! Sleezeball is what he is!!!!! Yeuch!

Aww. Look at you blaming the OP for your lack of reading comprehension….🙄

@SofieM0 Great update! Glad things have worked out for you! Hopefully the other poor woman will get her justice!

Christ what an update, I'm glad things have improved op and sending best wishes to you and your colleague, how disgusting that a dangerous man has been allowed to abuse multiple women and be protected by this company, nobody should ever feel unsafe at work. Your.old company is a sack of shit, 40k is nothing to what they should have had to pay out.

Wow! I didn’t see original thread but I’m glad you updated. Well done you!!
im currently going through a similar situation (though I wasn’t an employee) with the NHS after I was assaulted by a doctor- they only upheld the bare minimum.
I’m due for my first court hearing in February and I seriously can’t wait. It’s been 3 years of hell.
I’m so so proud of you (if that makes sense).
In my case it did not involve alcohol but his excuse was “accidental touching”.
I’m so glad to hear this outcome!!

Could I ask why you didn’t involve the police if you were physically attacked by your boss? Really glad you got what you wanted out of this though.

Great update.

It’s infuriating though that you went through all that and so did others when this company should have sacked him instantly. Now they have lost a valuable staff member (you), cost themselves a lot of money and damaged their reputation. All for a ridiculous loser of a man

It’s worth checking your home insurance to see if you have free legal advice.
failing that, I had a free 10 minute conversation within a day of contacting them with this company, best of luck www.monacosolicitors.co.uk

Asking nicely - would you have had an issue with reading the OP's posts and I mean just their posts, before posting the above message yourself? 🙄

Ah I remember this thread the first time around, glad it had a good outcome for you OP.
Just a shame it couldn’t have been dealt with properly previously, sounds like many people could have avoided being harassed by him had someone held him to account initially.
Hope your witness takes him to the cleaners

Op please answer the following questions:

How long have you worked at the company?
When did the last incident took place?
Date raised grievance?
Is there any sexual discrimination at play do you think ?

Bearing in mind you are near to the conclusion of you grievance you must be near to the end of your limitation period.

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Have a read of the updates!