Hit me with some hard truth

[Newmama93]

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this article has me really depressed and feeling so miserable for a while now. Is this what it’s really like? I was so unprepared for the pain of this.

The vastness of the internet has to be filled, as nature abhors a vacuum. That's the only good reason I can see for utter shite like this seeing the light of day.

Just enjoy your life and your son and don't worry.

I don’t feel like it yet because he’s 1. But I won’t get to see his little face that I see today like I do in 15 years and that’s a really
sobering thought. Ahh I’m a wreck. Maybe it’s weaning hormones. I just want my little baby forever

Oh ffs

Op I mean this nicely, get a grip and get off the internet.

What an absolute load of pish! I love the kind, funny, strong man my son has grown into, and I am now enjoying every moment of my grandson.

No, this is bollocks. He won't be your lovely baby in 15 years, he'll be grumpy teenager who you've bought up as best you can to prepare him for life as an adult. You'll be looking forward to seeing him grow up and live his life.

Stop reading this utter sentimental garbage and be thankful that you will be able to see your son grow up to be a man. Look around the world at what some mothers are facing while trying to keep their children safe and alive.

I couldn't even get past the first couple of paragraphs of that utter twaddle.

We raise our kids to be independent, not codependent.

My oldest is 20, he moved out at 18 into a flatshare.

I hear from him and see him regularly, he introduces his girlfriends, calls me for advice, tells me about his life.

Its not like a slow break up at all, its like I've done a brilliant job of raising a successful, happy, confident adult who still chooses to make me a big part of his life.

That article is self indulgent crap.

And do you see every other parent mooning around in a 15 year long ‘break up’?

What self absorbed nonsense.

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the honesty!

does it feel like this to some degree? I guess I’m feeling a little nervous on how I’ll handle the adjustment as my son and I are inseperable.

Oh my goodness what a awful article! Such drivel. I can't understand how such meaningless nauseating articles get published. It's terribly written and the content feels like it was written by someone who writes Hallmark cards for a living.

OP don’t take this the wrong way but if you want your son to remain a baby for ever perhaps you should have got a reborn doll instead. Please enjoy every moment of your son’s childhood and be proud when he is a man

I have two sons in their 20s. No, it is not like this. It's hard to say goodbye to a child of any sex when they move out but it's not the end. It's just different and we had them to grow them and become adults who would go on to live independent lives.

Of course you're inseparable, he's 1!

You can choose to either whine on like this woman, or look forward to every next stage that comes along.

I'd suggest choosing to become the latter, it's a much nicer life and doesn't leave everyone you know scratching their heads wondering why you're still desperate for them to be at the tantrum/toilet training/night waking stage.

Thank you, I definitely don’t I guess the article just made me nervous that it’d be some awful thing everyone e goes through. Then I read online other parents agreeing and Saying it’s really hard as they go from cutie toddler to pulling away from you.

Good god. I mean this nicely but you do realise some parents have the actual loss of their children to bear?
I hate all this self absorbed I’m grieving for the small child I had nonsense. It’s life. Kids grow up.
Go have fun with your son and put this rubbish out of your mind.

I have seen some nonsense on here, but this is another level.🙄

Who in the class can spell “Enmeshment?” Anyone???

my son and I are inseperable

He's 1, of course you're inseparable. But he won't stay that way. That's life.

We want our children to grow and find their independence.

Now turn off the Internet and go and have fun with your boy.

Raging at that utter bollocks.

DS is 17 with SLD and the mental age of a 4 year old. Still in nappies, totally non verbal, partially sighted etc, etc, etc, and will never live an independant life.

I would sell my soul for the "problem" of seeing him grow up to live a "normal" life.

Don't worry, these days they are unlikely to be able to afford to move out until they're at least 30

No. @CounsellorTroi Is right. I hope this is not offensive to anyone, it’s not meant that way. You would be upset to have a child that never learned, never grew, developed, never changed. That would be a doll. Raising a human being is about delighting in who they are every day.

Are you grieving for the foetus you carried?

Seriously get a grip, any one and and I mean any one can write any old shit on the the internet. I seriously do not understand how so many people now day believe any old clap trap they read on the internet. It`s prevalent on Mums Net how many people have no critical thinking about the source material they are reading and believing in daily life and then start to worry and attempt back up their new found beliefs with random webpages knocked up by Josephine and Joe Blogs in their basement, or click bait news articles and produce them as facts.

Once of the good things about going to university especially in science subjects it teaches or attempts to teach people critical skills to analyse all data and facts. You have literally either searched or come across one persons wacky views on life and are assimilating it into your own life.

I also think it's super creepy to see your son growing up as a 'break-up' but not your daughter. He's not your boyfriend, he's your child.

Babies turn to toddlers who become children who morph into teens, and each and every stage is magical and fabulous in its own way.
I adore my teens, my favourite people in the world to spend time with, have to lure them with dinners out but so worth it 🥰.
When they were babies, they were the most gorgeous beings of course, as toddlers, unforgettably funny and fabulous, now as teens they are still all that, only much larger scale and oft grumpy and growling and stinky- but utterly hilarious and clever and, yes, vulnerable, which they try to hide.
Baiting them with treats works brilliantly to get them open up and confide and absorb a fraction of the wisdom one is constantly pouring over them. Hopefully.
I am so daft and my post is so gushing but hey, that's how it is.
Apart from the times when I'm considering building Alcatraz and stuffing them in the deepest cell🧐