Hit me with some hard truth

[Newmama93]

herviewfromhome.com/motherhood-son-growing-up-slowest-breakup/

this article has me really depressed and feeling so miserable for a while now. Is this what it’s really like? I was so unprepared for the pain of this.

Sounds like the book
Love You Forever by Robert Munsch

This is utter rubbish. If you went by the threads on here everyone's parents were abusive when they were growing up, all husbands are either controlling, having affairs or else an utter waste of space, and everyone lives next door to a lunatic.

In reality most people have decent husbands and rub along ok with their neighbours etc.

In real life most women have perfectly nice relationships with their mothers in law, and encourage a good relationship between their children and their grandparents.

@MurmuratingStarling I may be weird but I'm not that weird

What a load of old crap. I've got 2 sons, and am still close to them - one lives 1/2 a mile away, the other 3 miles. They've got their own lives - careers, girlfriends, one has got children. They're good, kind, polite and hard-working men now and I'm proud (as is my husband) to have played a part in them turning out so well.

This describes (in terms of closeness) most of the men of my aquaintence. My DH was brilliant with his parents, his brother lived next door to his parents and literally saw them every day. My brother was brilliant with mine, and my son and DDIL are super close to us and always popping over.

I don't recognise this MN trope that men are not close to their families. At all.

If anyone needs a break from their teenage sons, send them that poem. Sorted.

I'm going to send it to my 17yo and see what he says 🤣🤣

Is the French Foreign Legion recruiting?

😁😁😂

It was creepy enough to warrant coming out of his room to call me a creep, tell me he has muted me on WhatsApp now and inform me he is moving to the most spidery region of Australia he can find because my hate of spiders is stronger than my love for him 😂

I'm pretty sure he just locked his bedroom door too 😂

Hahaha!! Sorry OP, I'm not laughing at you, the comments on the first page have tickled me.

This reminds me of my best friend. Her baby was similar age to yours and she met me for coffee and said the exact same things. She was so tearful and breaking her little heart. I think definitely hormonal 😅😅 we giggle about it now. She was thinking 15 years ahead to the dating stage when she'll "never see him" 😭😅

You raised him well. 😂😂

I'm trying really hard, but everything I put down looks trite and awful.

My eldest has autism, but nowhere near your struggles. I feel so lucky that even with his issues, he will lead a mostly 'normal' life.

You won't want to see his little face all the time in 15 years

Yes it is painful but you know that when you have them.
I looked at my youngest when he was 17 and realised that I had less than a year before he left for University (overseas). I was very sad but he was full of optimism and excitement so you really have to pretend a bit even though your heart is breaking.
Make the most of the time you have left and congratulate yourself on doing a good job!

That article is bordering on fucking creepy.
Slowest break up 🙄
Ridiculous.

@Newmama93
As the mum of 2DSs I can understand your feelings...my boys changed so much in their teen years...they were becoming men....
beards, deep voices, hairy legs and chests....unlike my daughter who looked more like her prepuberty self.
I wouldn't trade my grown sons for their little baby selves for anything...they haven't pulled away at all and it's been amazing to watch them grow and mature into the men they are today...The years went by so quickly but that's a good thing because I've an adorable grandson to enjoy now.
Another thing...I find that I have the loveliest dreams about them . They are always little kids or babies in them...makes me smile. Hug your sweet little one for me...there is nothing like it, is there?👼🏼👼🏻👼👼🏾👼🏿

You love their 15 year old face just as much.

Articles like that make it weird.

Probably the worst part of them growing up is people making crappy comments about how 'awful' teenagers are. I'd dread that more than them actually growing up.

I work with men in their late 20s and early 30s, and whether they have young families or not they talk fondly of visiting their mums, share family anecdotes and are openly affectionate and proud of their family. They're a lovely generation. One had an artsy rendition of a family portrait tattooed on his forearm. They're a much more loving bunch than perhaps men were in the past.

My son will he fourteen this year. He’s bigger than me with a man voice. Am I sad? Nope. He’s hilarious and I like him (although the stroppiness can do one).

A previous poster has already pointed out that it’s a privilege to have a healthy child that grows up. To have a child that stays entirely dependent on you means there are health or developmental problems, and that’s heartbreaking for the parents.

Agree that this is short sighted emotional guff, frankly it’s an insult to those parents who sadly don’t see their precious children grow up to be independent.