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Date night cancelled. DH needs to sleep.

224 replies

mag2305 · 08/04/2022 16:28

DH and I haven't been out for absolutely ages, just the two of us. We have a 3 year old and 9 month old. Both sets of grandparents have kindly offered to look after a grandchild each today (both together is quite a lot). So we had the opportunity from this afternoon until this evening to go out and do something. However, my dh is currently asleep as that's what he's chosen to do with this time. I feel like I'm stuck in the house so much, I just want to get out. Feel a bit upset and disappointed by DH (AIBU?) but it's his choice. So what can I do on my own this evening that won't look like I'm a sad loner, lol! Any ideas?
I don't want to waste this evening. Unfortunately, being last minute, my friends have other plans otherwise I would have seen one of them.

OP posts:
Mumdiva99 · 08/04/2022 16:29

Go to the local theatre or cinema.

missymarrk · 08/04/2022 16:30

Wake him up! What a shit head.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 08/04/2022 16:31

Go see a movie or a show, also eat at a Wagamama if you have one, its a great place to eat along and people watch :)

WTF475878237NC · 08/04/2022 16:31

I'd wake him up too unless he's ill.

HangingOver · 08/04/2022 16:31

Take a book and go to a restaurant. Have a nice pizza and read.

ReadyforEaster · 08/04/2022 16:31

It's still early. Can't you wake him up? Surely a nap will be sufficient.

ViaBlue · 08/04/2022 16:32

Don't wake him up!!! If my DH woke me up when my DC was 9 months I would have hated him!

Shoxfordian · 08/04/2022 16:33

Wake him up so you can do something
Is he usually this disinterested in time with you?

Borracha · 08/04/2022 16:33

I would go to a Thai or Japanese restaurant by myself because DH doesn’t like Thai or Japanese food. Then I would buy a massive bag of sweets and a little screw top bottle of wine and go to see something at the cinema that DH would have no interest in watching.

Enjoy!

arethereanyleftatall · 08/04/2022 16:34

I'm always surprised by this notion that doing anything on your own looks weird to others. It's the absolute opposite. I often am jealous of those sat on their own in restaurants with a book or their phone enjoying the peace and quiet and a meal made for them.
I was in a restaurant the other evening on my own (a hotel for an event the next day). I worked my way through a bottle of red, half the menu, and several juicy mn threads. I was literally in heaven. Two women (lovely of them) independently came up to me to see if I wanted to join them. No thank you, said I.

luxxlisbon · 08/04/2022 16:34

It’s only half four, the whole night doesn’t have to be cancelled. Surely he’s hit asleep from now until morning?

Lucienandjean · 08/04/2022 16:35

Unless he's ill, I'd let him have a short nap and then wake him. Decide beforehand what you want to do. "I've booked the restaurant for 7 and cinema tickets for afterwards. Time to get ready!"

Teeturtle · 08/04/2022 16:35

How infuriating. I would maybe go and book a hotel for the night, order room service or go for a swim or massage.

arethereanyleftatall · 08/04/2022 16:35

I'm horrified at those suggesting wake him up! What a horrible thing to do! Why does what you want to do, trump what he wants to do?

Fireflygal · 08/04/2022 16:36

Maybe he needs a nap and will wake feeling refreshed.

Go for a walk, get a coffee and enjoy the sense of quiet.

Itsbackagain · 08/04/2022 16:37

Why does what you want to do triumph his?.Go out on your own?

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 08/04/2022 16:37

It's only half four! No need to write off the whole evening.

Give him until five, wake him up and go!

CrotchetyQuaver · 08/04/2022 16:37

Is he not just having a nap now? Still plenty of time for him to wake up and you go out later???

Jobseeker19 · 08/04/2022 16:38

I think I would nap too and then I could have a better night.

Why dont you have a little sleep?

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 08/04/2022 16:38

@arethereanyleftatall

I'm horrified at those suggesting wake him up! What a horrible thing to do! Why does what you want to do, trump what he wants to do?
Equally, why do his wants override hers?
OutingHobby · 08/04/2022 16:38

Sushi?

Do what you want and let him do what he wants

44PumpLane · 08/04/2022 16:38

Honestly I'd bask in the glory of my own company! As someone else suggested the cinema is a great please to go alone, the expectation is you don't talk!

Cinema, get an I've cream, bag of sweets, gin in a tin, then go out for a meal and take a book or headphones and something downloaded to your phone.....ideal!!!

With two young children I couldn't begrudge him the sleep to be honest!

ISpyCobraKai · 08/04/2022 16:38

Cinema and a nice meal out is what I'd do.

OutingHobby · 08/04/2022 16:39

Equally, why do his wants override hers?

Because her wants involve him, his don't

luxxlisbon · 08/04/2022 16:39

Equally, why do his wants override hers?

I honestly doubt anyone would say this if it was OP wanting to use her baby free night to sleep.