Date night cancelled. DH needs to sleep.

[mag2305]

DH and I haven't been out for absolutely ages, just the two of us. We have a 3 year old and 9 month old. Both sets of grandparents have kindly offered to look after a grandchild each today (both together is quite a lot). So we had the opportunity from this afternoon until this evening to go out and do something. However, my dh is currently asleep as that's what he's chosen to do with this time. I feel like I'm stuck in the house so much, I just want to get out. Feel a bit upset and disappointed by DH (AIBU?) but it's his choice. So what can I do on my own this evening that won't look like I'm a sad loner, lol! Any ideas?
I don't want to waste this evening. Unfortunately, being last minute, my friends have other plans otherwise I would have seen one of them.

I don't think he's done anything wrong Tbh, 2 young kids are exhausting, if he wants to catch up on some sleep why shouldn't he, if you want to go out then go out 🙄

@thedancingbear

I'd bin him. The exhausted wanker.

Women get tired and need to sleep. Men are lazy.

What a load of stupid bollocks, let’s hope your partner doesn’t dump you your tired…

I love my OH and absolutely love date nights, but honestly I equally love time to myself! I would defo go out for gallery, shops, walks, then finish with food and wine! Home for some tv and more wine and snacks. Bliss!

I'd bin him

Really? You'd break up a marriage and a stable family of two very young children just because your partner was exhausted when you wanted a night out? Really? Really really? Or are you just poking your stick into a stranger's relationship?

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow @gingerhills

I think that poster was being sarcastic about the difference in how men and women are spoken about in threads like this?

@youvegottenminuteslynn
I think the poster was just making a stupid and idiotic comment

[quote youvegottenminuteslynn]**@HowlongWillThisTakeNow* @gingerhills*

I think that poster was being sarcastic about the difference in how men and women are spoken about in threads like this?[/quote]
Oh good. But you do see genuine LTB posters about really petty things, it's hard to tell sometimes. I shouldn't rise to the bait.

I hope he woke and you had a chance to go out together.

I always feel like sleeping when we have a date night opportunity. Busy and tired. Husband usually drags me out anyway and I’m never sorry that I’ve gone. Need to make the effort even when you don’t feel like it sometimes.

I suppose the issue is she knows he will be angry if she wakes him up.

But he could also be angry if he wakes up abs she had gone out without him in a "why on earth didn't you wake me up when I nodded off"

She can't win it appears. Subject to be being stuck waiting for him to wake of own accord. When he could sleep anytime whilst she looks after kids as normal.

The thing is, until the OP comes back and answers the questions about the planning of this, we are all speculating.

Let's hope she is doing something lovely either with, or without her dh, and that maybe she will update us tomorrow.

@luxxlisbon

It’s only half four, the whole night doesn’t have to be cancelled. Surely he’s hit asleep from now until morning?

It's not clear whether the grandparents are having the children overnight. So unless OP's husband woke soon after she posted it would be too late to go out.

It's not clear whether the grandparents are having the children overnight. So unless OP's husband woke soon after she posted it would be too late to go out.

Sorry, meant to say it might be too late to go out.

@Itsbackagain

Why does what you want to do triumph his?.Go out on your own?

Where does OP suggest that her needs should trump her husband's? It's right there in the opening post that she is asking for suggestions for going out on her own.

Once my in-laws took our kids for the day so we could go out to celebrate our anniversary. We went for lunch, came home, had sex then both fell asleep. The best part of the whole day was that nap, it was fucking glorious. The opportunity for uninterrupted sleep when you have small children should never be taken for granted!

[quote HowlongWillThisTakeNow]@youvegottenminuteslynn
I think the poster was just making a stupid and idiotic comment[/quote]
No, youvegottenminuteslynn has it right.

Sorry you're a bit hard of thinking. I'll try and spell it out more next time.

I have 2 under 2 and if I had the same opportunity I would have a long bath and then sleep and relax, I wouldn’t be happy with being forced out or woken up at all

I would absolutely catch up on my sleep if such opportunity were offered to me ,& i have a 2 & 5 year old! My husband would not dare to wake me up! You should absolutely do something for yourself though.

I’d book a swanky hotel last minute and go to the spa and get a fabulous nights sleep!! X

OP what happened in the end? Did he wake up from his afternoon nap?

I know the conversation has moved on a bit now, but I just wanted to add that I think it's a totally normal thing to go and have a drink or a meal alone. If I'm in a bar or restaurant and I see someone sitting alone I never think "what a loser". They're just having a quiet drink/meal by themselves. I really don't get where this idea comes from!

OP please can we have an update? I've read the whole thread and feel unreasonably invested in how your evening turned out 🤣

Once again on mumsnet, so so glad I'm single. Just do what I want, when I want, not because someone else demands me to do what they want.

@emmajane90

OP please can we have an update? I've read the whole thread and feel unreasonably invested in how your evening turned out 🤣

Same! How long were the kids away, as afternoon to evening could technically only be 12-5...! Or 3-5 even!

What a waste of babysitters. Hopefully OP got out somewhere and got chatting to someone (male or female) who was interested in spending time with her.