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Holiday dilemma.

222 replies

helbel34 · 26/02/2022 21:44

I have booked a weekend on a caravan park with my DH and our 2 children. I have asked my friend and her daughter to join us. I drive she doesn't.

Park is only 1 hour drive away, since we won't fit in my car I was expecting my friend to possibly to get the train and I couldn't collect them at the station. We will be going after the kids finish school on the Friday so leaving at 3pm or so.

My friend has suggested that we could hire a 7 seater for the weekend so we could go together, I looked up the cost and it will be £300+, she suggested that the adults pay £100 each. So myself, DH and DF.

Considering it would only cost is £30 in petrol in our own car for the trip, I really don't want to pay £200 + petrol. Considering we are paying for the caravan.

After reading another thread tonight I am wondering if I'm been unreasonable.

OP posts:
Lime37 · 26/02/2022 21:46

Yanbu that is completely different circumstances.

mdh2020 · 26/02/2022 21:47

I think you just have to explain to your friend that you can’t justify spending that money but are happy to pick her up at the station. Explain you hadn’t budgeted for it.

Stressedout1009 · 26/02/2022 21:47

Yanbu, very cheeky of her to suggest this. Why would you spend 200+ when you don't have to. You are picking her up so what's the issue. Are you paying for the accommodation as well?

kitcat15 · 26/02/2022 21:47

If shes picking her kids up at 3pm then getting to the station...train ride....then ? Bus/taxi to caravan park....its going to be very late when she gets there....there doing it all again on the Sunday 😒..... she was probably the wrong friend to ask...you can't blame her for wanting to go in a car

DanielRicciardosSmile · 26/02/2022 21:48

YANBU, but I am wondering why you say you couldn't collect them from the station?

Original poster
helbel34 · 26/02/2022 21:51

Sorry I supposed to say that I would collect them at the station near the caravan park. Then same on the return on the Monday.

OP posts:
DanielRicciardosSmile · 26/02/2022 21:53

Definitely YANBU then.

Sparkletastic · 26/02/2022 21:53

She gets train or she doesn't come. No great loss if the latter.

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/02/2022 21:56

You invited her to come on your holiday and she now thinks it’s okay to cost you £200 and a lift?

Nowomenaroundeh · 26/02/2022 22:01

No you already pay for a car, why would you pay again (twice what she is proposing paying) and also drive her. Either she gets the train or she pays for the seven seater.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 26/02/2022 22:01

Hmm.

I think it's a bit odd to invite her on holiday with you and then expect her to fork out for the train there and back Blush

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 26/02/2022 22:02

She’s a cheeky moo! On what planet should you and DH fork out two thirds of the cost of hire car!

Darbs76 · 26/02/2022 22:03

I think this is different but you should have probably made it clear about making her own way. No way should you pay £200 and her £100 for a car hire when you’ve already got a mode of transport

Momicrone · 26/02/2022 22:03

She should get a train and taxi

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 26/02/2022 22:04

@fairylightsandwaxmelts

Hmm.

I think it's a bit odd to invite her on holiday with you and then expect her to fork out for the train there and back Blush

Not really. If the friend could drive would you expect the op to pay their petrol money?
Totalwasteofpaper · 26/02/2022 22:04

I am guessing you had extra space and said “hey want to join” to be nice and let her have a cheap break?

she’s being fucking cheeky.
Just say you don’t need a 7 seater to go on holiday. Your car is fine.

If she wants one because she doesn’t want to take the train you are happy to drive it for her but she needs to arrange and pay for it.

If she doesn’t want to get the train she doesn’t need to come…

Porcupineintherough · 26/02/2022 22:04

Does your dh drive and have a second car? If so could you take both and she pay petrol? Assuming the train journey is a long and difficult one.

Totalwasteofpaper · 26/02/2022 22:05

@Porcupineintherough

Does your dh drive and have a second car? If so could you take both and she pay petrol? Assuming the train journey is a long and difficult one.
Confused

That really isn’t the solution….

Porcupineintherough · 26/02/2022 22:07

@Totalwasteofpaper its a solution. But not one that makes much sense unless there is a real issue about taking the train I grant you.

2tired2bewitty · 26/02/2022 22:08

Also, a 7 seater with 6 people in it will not also have room for 6 people’s luggage.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 26/02/2022 22:11

Not really. If the friend could drive would you expect the op to pay their petrol money?

I wouldn't invite someone on holiday with me in the first place if they had to make their own way there like that.

I just think it's a bit odd.

R0tational · 26/02/2022 22:12

Ugh. I think she should have declined if it was difficult to get to. Lesson for future to phrase it as a non-committal offer ? e.g. "come if u fancy, we have room" vs "shall we go away together and plan arrangements together?".

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 26/02/2022 22:13

It’s catching a train people go on holiday by train all the time 😵‍💫

WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe · 26/02/2022 22:14

@WhatTheWhoTheWhatThe

It’s catching a train people go on holiday by train all the time 😵‍💫
Sorry that’s to @fairylightsandwaxmelts
BendingSpoons · 26/02/2022 22:14

It would be cheaper for her to get a taxi. She IBU to expect you to pay (and pay 2/3!) when you have perfectly reasonable transport. Just point that out and offer to collect them from the station.