Am I Mad...advice please!

[Dazedandconfusedm11]

:50Dazedandconfusedm11

I am 50 and have a lovely and bright 6 year old..conceived naturally. Dad is 42.

I tried for a 2nd soon after but had a few losses. So decided to look at IVF. Due to COVID it delayed the process and I am now at the stage where I can choose a donor egg and try to get pregnant.

I am fit, healthy and financially secure.

Am I Mad for wanting a sibling for my child and a much loved and wanted child?

Anyone out there have a child at 50?

If I miss this chance of having a child this year, then I would not pursue any further.

In one way it is a crazy idea..but the next my child is not too old for a sibling.

My dad was 16 when I was born and he died when I was 9..so I would have loved to have had my dad more than 9 years but young parent did not mean long life...

Also, my m was 16 when I was born and worked all the way through my childhood. Me and my siblings never saw her, played games etc..not her fault that is what she had to do.

I will be mortgage free in a year, could go part time etc and am around every day for my child.

What do you all think?

I think the consideration here is what age you're going to start needing care all things being well, you say 'fit and healthy' so have you done enough to stave off needing care at about 80, when your child will be 30 and just starting her own family perhaps?

Many people are still spritely at that age but a standard diet and exercise and stress regimen that is typical of this country renders most of us incapacitated at 80.

It wouldn't be nice for you or her to have to spiral into incontinence and dementia while she is supposed to be having the best time of her life with young children or starting a career for instance.