To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?
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ashorterday · 23/01/2022 16:58
MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.
DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.
Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.
Octomore · 23/01/2022 17:00
I wouldnt wear pyjamas for a visitor, no.
Context might change it though. How close are you? How often does she visit? Does she pop in often?
Toanewstart22 · 23/01/2022 17:00
Always curious
What is your relationship like with your DH?
And is she regularly over or over on a rare occasion for dinner?
ExtraOnion · 23/01/2022 17:01
I find it astonishing that people are bothered by stuff like this. Who gives a rats arse about what anyone is wearing ?
Is your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.
pussycatunpickingcrossesagain · 23/01/2022 17:01
No. Wear what you want.
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂
forrestgreen · 23/01/2022 17:01
Is it casual after dinner, then that's fine. If she's here for a meal I'd throw something on
Didioverstep · 23/01/2022 17:01
Depends I would in front of my MIL when she was alive. But we lived with each other for a hit so comfortable and I would infant of my grandparents. But if we weren't close then no I wouldn't
VickyEadieofThigh · 23/01/2022 17:01
@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂
THIS!
singlenamestar · 23/01/2022 17:01
@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂
Hahaha
ashorterday · 23/01/2022 17:02
She comes every week, it's not a formal dinner just coffee and a chat up.
What's my relationship got to do with it 😂 DH just said "Aren't you going to get dressed? MIL is coming soon" Not "I demand you get dressed you filthy whore!"
fairylightsandwaxmelts · 23/01/2022 17:02
It depends - personally if I knew we were having guests, I'd not change into my pajamas.
Don't you have other comfortable clothes - leggings and a jumper or something? It does feel a bit rude to be hosting someone in pajamas, tbh.
tvcc · 23/01/2022 17:02
Eating dinner together, get dressed.
Chatting and watching tv, pyjamas
Tullig · 23/01/2022 17:03
@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂
That's an adorable idea. And a monocle.
RegardingMary · 23/01/2022 17:04
Go for it.
I doubt my MIL would bat an eye, but then she does also have a key and comes and goes, we don't stand on ceremony for her, she takes us as she finds us.
Kite22 · 23/01/2022 17:05
Yes, YABU.
Pretty odd to know someone is coming to visit, and putting your pyjamas on. Different thing altogether is someone dropped in unannounced.
Merryoldgoat · 23/01/2022 17:05
I don’t get dressed on the weekend unless going out.
Crack on.
Toanewstart22 · 23/01/2022 17:06
@ashorterday
What's my relationship got to do with it 😂 DH just said "Aren't you going to get dressed? MIL is coming soon" Not "I demand you get dressed you filthy whore!"
So he asked a question rather than thinking you should!
heldinadream · 23/01/2022 17:06
#teamnotgivingaratsarse
#teampjs
ashorterday · 23/01/2022 17:06
s your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.
She probably would judge me, but only silently!
QuestionsorComments · 23/01/2022 17:06
I'd definitely be dressed. Not smart, but dressed. I've never seen my own mother downstairs in her PJs, even when I was a child.
pussycatunpickingcrossesagain · 23/01/2022 17:08
Let her silently judge your PJs...
Has DH got some nice cufflinks and a fancy waistcoat to add to his top hat n tails? 
Envoitrevisage · 23/01/2022 17:08
I’d get dressed. If you own nothing sufficiently comfortable for a cup of coffee than pyjamas, then you’ve got bigger problems.
I’d think it rude if someone wasn’t dressed.
Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 23/01/2022 17:09
I'd stay in my pjs in your position.
Not only do I wear pj's when in laws (and my parents) visit, dh and I regularly go to my parents and inlaws in pjs/loungewear. Both my mum and mil tend to be wearing pjs/loungewear when we go over, unless we're going out.
No one bats an eyelid.
TimeForTheChristmasTree · 23/01/2022 17:09
We had my inlaws here last night for chinese food.
I wore Harry Potter pj bottoms. I didn’t even think about it!
AtillatheHun · 23/01/2022 17:10
if I did that, it would generate a few phonecalls from MIL to her son, daughter and possibly some of the church group, complaining and judging. Hard. (I should probably do it next time)
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/01/2022 17:10
From this thread, and others on the subject of pyjamas, it’s clear there is a market for pyjamas that don’t look like pyjamas - anyone want to come on Dragons’ Den with me?
If I turned up to visit Ds1 and his fiancée, and she was in pyjamas, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid, nor would I judge. It isn’t something I’d do, but I can really understand the pleasure of having a bath, and putting on comfy pjs, and just relaxing.
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