To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

It's not like you are slinking around in lacy lingerie (is that assuming too much ?), nor are you wearing an egg stained tatty t-shirt of dubious origin. You're wearing what shopping channels etc call "lounge wear". You are comfortable and freshly bathed in your own home and probably more relaxed and welcoming than if you had to doll yourself up to receive company. To me it's a sign that you have a healthy positive relationship with your MIL. Keep up the good work 👏

I'd get dressed if I knew someone was coming over.

I wouldn’t feel welcome if I turned up to find the person I was visiting was in their night clothes. I also wouldn’t feel it appropriate to not be dressed if someone was visiting me.

Just dress is something comfortable… leggings and a jumper or similar.

I'd wear the pyjamas.

I lived with my inlaws for 9 months and we used to race to see who could be the first to be in pjs when we got in the house. She brought round slippers and a dressing gown style cardigan as a housewarming gift for herself to keep at our house.

I work nightshift so I'm pretty much either in pjs or scrub trousers. If anyone sees me in pjs who doesn't approve I would just say I was on shift that night.

My own parents are horrified, they are very formal people who wear shoes in the house all the time. They wouldn't come down the stairs without proper attire on. Each to their own, no sure if its a coincidence but I don't spend much time with them.

Surely your MiL is family? People on here are weird in that family should be allowed to come round whenever, and stick their nose in your business but may also keel over with shock at the sight of you in your PJs. As far as I'm concerned you are a 'guest' ie i will dress appropriately, host while you are here and do a manic tidy before you arrive or you are 'family' (inc close friends) in which case they take you as they find you and help themselves to tea/coffee/wine/whatever from the kitchen

I’d honestly just shove some jeans and a hoodie on but I don’t think I could sit in my pjs when visitors popped over, only when I’d just given birth!

I wouldn't personally, but I'm older and the product of a somewhat strict Scottish upbringing! No-one but immediate family ever saw you in nightwear or dressing gown! However, things are very much more casual now, and it is becoming the norm. Maybe joggers and a sweatshirt is just as comfortable, but you are "dressed"?
I think there's a gap between "dolling yourself up" and wearing pyjamas.

I have a PH wardrobe that consists of sleeping PJs, hanging out PJs, and (as DH puts it) 'formalwear'. 'Formalwear' are PJ bottoms that are either a solid dark colour or have a print that 'could' be mistaken for casual trousers. If 'not really company company' are coming I'll put on my 'formalwear' with a longish t-shirt or tunic.

OP, you need a PJ wardrobe.

PJ, not PH.

@AcrossthePond55

I have a PH wardrobe that consists of sleeping PJs, hanging out PJs, and (as DH puts it) 'formalwear'. 'Formalwear' are PJ bottoms that are either a solid dark colour or have a print that 'could' be mistaken for casual trousers. If 'not really company company' are coming I'll put on my 'formalwear' with a longish t-shirt or tunic.

OP, you need a PJ wardrobe.

I too need a PJ wardrobe, I like your style.

I lived with my inlaws for 9 months and we used to race to see who could be the first to be in pjs when we got in the house. She brought round slippers and a dressing gown style cardigan as a housewarming gift for herself to keep at our house.

Love this!

@Vloggamamma

Might come across a bit rude and that she's in the way ? My SIL does stuff like this but I don;t know your relationship with your MIL. My SIL regularly makes us feel unwelcome, she'll put her coat on when we come and pretend she was on her way out or have her jammies on to make us feel we are depriving her of bedtime. But like I say, I don't know the nuances of your relationship with MIL.

But if she has her coat on, how do you know she is pretending — mightn’t she be legitimately on her way out if you call unannounced?

And judging by Mn, it’s perfectly normal to put on pyjamas as soon as you come home if you’re not planning to go out again?

Have some self respect and get dressed. Nobody should be in pyjamas at 5pm, unless you're ill, working nights, or a baby.

@stingofthebutterfly

Have some self respect and get dressed. Nobody should be in pyjamas at 5pm, unless you're ill, working nights, or a baby.

🤣🤣🤣

It does feel a bit rude to be hosting someone in pajamas, tbh.

Does it?
My my circles, it's the opposite. "Mate I'm so comfortable with your company I can wear a binbag & a tiara & you won't even blink".

It's about acceptance, innit. MiL is family!

If someone was coming over in the evening (even if I didn't want them), then yes, I'd be properly dressed if only in tracksuit bottoms/leggins. However, if it's a case of coming over every Sunday evening and outstaying her welcome when I wanted to go to bed, then I'd drop a hint I was tired, if that wasn't taken then just say I really need to go to bed and relax.

@stingofthebutterfly

Have some self respect and get dressed. Nobody should be in pyjamas at 5pm, unless you're ill, working nights, or a baby.

Good lord and unclench!

5pm is a perfectly acceptable time, but 3pm on a Sunday!

@ifonly4

If someone was coming over in the evening (even if I didn't want them), then yes, I'd be properly dressed if only in tracksuit bottoms/leggins. However, if it's a case of coming over every Sunday evening and outstaying her welcome when I wanted to go to bed, then I'd drop a hint I was tired, if that wasn't taken then just say I really need to go to bed and relax.

Why are tracksuit bottoms or leggings more appropriate than PJ bottoms? More or less the same thing but with a funkier pattern

MIL here. DD and her partner came round at 4.30 yesterday for dinner.

I had already changed into my PJs. Just texted and here is the conversation - he is a keeper.

@AtillatheHun

if I did that, it would generate a few phonecalls from MIL to her son, daughter and possibly some of the church group, complaining and judging. Hard. (I should probably do it next time)

DO IT, @AtillatheHun

I know a couple in their late 70's.
They get dressed up for their evening meal every night!!

@stingofthebutterfly

Have some self respect and get dressed. Nobody should be in pyjamas at 5pm, unless you're ill, working nights, or a baby.

This has to be the winning comment 😂

I'm a MIL. My ddil is often in her PJs when I arrive, and it has been know for me to still be in bed when she visits! Who cares? We're family!

I agree. I blame all this “hygge” nonsense.

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