To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

[ashorterday]

@Envoitrevisage

Do soft jeans/yoga pants/leggings and a jumper not literally fulfil that criteria completely? It’s not hard.

Or even a jersey cotton dress with leggings or tights. Wouldn’t the right one feel like a nightie? Mine do. I never wear PJs except after about 10pm if I had an evening shower/bath. I don’t spend my life uncomfortable.

They do yes but I don't have any. I'm a jeans every day person but I have found a pair of black trousers that are more comfy than jeans and put them on. Decided to save myself being judged.

[pussycatunpickingcrossesagain]

@Sideswiped

Unless your first name is Catherine and hers is Elizabeth, I reckon pjs will be fine...

[crazyjinglist]

There are some funny people on here! Some of the replies sound like you’re living in downton Abbey.

Yep, wearing jeans and a t-shirt rather than looking like you're going to bed definitely makes someone sound like they're in Downton Abbey

I don't think it's odd at all. The 'must get into my jammies so that I'm super comfy and cosy' thing seems to be a relatively recent phenomenon (for adults anyway). Did your parents or grandparents hang around in their pyjamas in the early evening or daytime or when they had visitors? And if not, was that really because they were members of the landed gentry in a period drama?

[user1492809438]

Puzzled as to why your DH thinks he has the right to comment on your clothes? Wear what you like, it's your house.

[Sharrowgirl]

I wouldn’t wear pyjamas when I have a guest in my home, no. I would be dressed.

But I’m not surprised you’re getting some people here who feel differently. There was a thread on here once about a couple having friends over for dinner and wearing pyjamas and loads of people thought it was acceptable. So I’d say MN is quite a pyjama-friendly place

[breakdown19]

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

From this thread, and others on the subject of pyjamas, it’s clear there is a market for pyjamas that don’t look like pyjamas - anyone want to come on Dragons’ Den with me?

If I turned up to visit Ds1 and his fiancée, and she was in pyjamas, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid, nor would I judge. It isn’t something I’d do, but I can really understand the pleasure of having a bath, and putting on comfy pjs, and just relaxing.

Yes. This.

[NoSquirrels]

This is literally what ‘loungewear’ is for. Get some, OP!

[Thefaceofboe]

I’d get dressed if it was a friend coming over but absolutely not for my parents/siblings or MIL/FIL.

[moomee12]

@AtillatheHun

if I did that, it would generate a few phonecalls from MIL to her son, daughter and possibly some of the church group, complaining and judging. Hard. (I should probably do it next time)

Same! whenever mil pops round usually unannounced and far too early in the day) if I'm not properly dressed with my hair sorted she'll look concerned and ask if I'm ill.

She's never gotten over seeing me put the wheelie bin out in my pyjamas. Absolute scandalous behaviour.

[ChiefAdjusterOfRubensShorts]

I’ve been to my IL’s for tea in my pyjamas, they’re always clean and ironed.

I have a chronic illness and my MIL is just happy that I’ve been able to get out of the house, they don’t give a monkeys what I’m wearing.

[crazyjinglist]

I think if my MIL or DM came over and I was in my pyjamas, they'd assume I was ill.

[Octomore]

@Sharrowgirl

I wouldn’t wear pyjamas when I have a guest in my home, no. I would be dressed.

But I’m not surprised you’re getting some people here who feel differently. There was a thread on here once about a couple having friends over for dinner and wearing pyjamas and loads of people thought it was acceptable. So I’d say MN is quite a pyjama-friendly place

It's interesting. With the exception of very casual visits to extremely close friends, I have never seen my friends or family wearing pyjamas to visit people or when visitors are coming. Maybe I mix with weird people!

[DoctorSnortles]

Get dressed. I don't get all this slopping about in pyjamas. Put some clothes on. It's really disrespectful to visitors to be in your pyjamas. I know I'm old fashioned, but I really do think it's horrible to have people round when you aren't dressed.

[ten987123]

Could you tell her you've adopted naturism?

[ahcmonnow]

Your house.
Your rules.
Your spotty arse.
Your choice.

LEAVE em' on!!

[Holly60]

As a mother in law I love that my DSIL and DDIL feel relaxed around me. They are often in their PJs round me and I don’t think anything of it. If I pop over to them i take them as I find them. I’m not a guest, I’m family!

[Mamanyt]

Eh, that's going to kinda depend on the relationship with your MIL. I've had two of them, and very different beasties they were, indeed! The first one, there's no way. The second one, I'd offer a spare set of pajamas to! And she'd be likely to have taken it.

[Grapewrath]

I’m really interested as to why someone would be offended by spotty pJ bottoms versus ‘lounge wear’ which are essentially non spotty pj bottoms

[Holly60]

@DoctorSnortles

Get dressed. I don't get all this slopping about in pyjamas. Put some clothes on. It's really disrespectful to visitors to be in your pyjamas. I know I'm old fashioned, but I really do think it's horrible to have people round when you aren't dressed.

Do you see yourself as a guest when you are visiting close family like a son or daughter and their partners?

I don’t ever feel like a guest in my children’s homes, and likewise they aren’t guests when they visit us. We are family and that’s totally different.

[2022HereWeCome]

Oh christ my standards are dreadful then. Not only do I go outside in my penguin onesie I wear a grey fleecy hoodie with stars on it for zoom calls with my manager. Who seriously cares about these things? DS rarely gets out of a onesie some days.

I remember being in Boston 10 years ago and going out for breakfast and seeing people wearing pjs in diners. They were HCP who had just finished worked, showered and put on comfy loungewear (ie pjs)

[TillyTopper]

Wouldn't bother me, my MIL or my DH... I can't see why it would bother anyone to be fair.

[InFiveMins]

I'd stay in my PJs if my MIL was over for a catch up. It's absolutely fine.

[ancientgran]

My DIL sometimes has pyjamas on when I see her, doesn't bother me and she does have really nice pyjamas and she irons them. Mine tend to be ancient and unironed so I wouldn't wear mine. Maybe I need new pyjamas and to iron more.

[ouchyoubiteybugger]

My family its more a competition to be in yiur pj's first, when your in from work so any visitor should expect pj's

[ThanksIGotItInMorrisons]

Yanbu. You’re wearing pjs in your own house after your bath. Nothing wrong with that.