To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

@Envoitrevisage

I’d get dressed. If you own nothing sufficiently comfortable for a cup of coffee than pyjamas, then you’ve got bigger problems.

I’d think it rude if someone wasn’t dressed.

I think you're right, I'm missing some "smart loungewear" that would do the trick for this sort of occasion. So I'd feel like I'm in pyjamas but she wouldn't know I was, and think I'd made an effort.

I wouldn’t care if I dropped in on my DIL on an evening and she was wearing pyjamas. She’d probably find me in mine if she dropped round here.

YANBU

I wouldn't be in my pyjamas if someone were coming round, no. And it wouldn't make any difference who they were - it's not because I'm worried about being judged. I just wouldn't want to - it would feel weird. I only wear pyjamas to go to bed. If I'd had a bath in the late afternoon/early evening I'd put clean clothes on, not pyjamas.

I find it astonishing that people are bothered by stuff like this.

'Astonishing'. Really? It's hardly something to be 'astonished' about.

OP wear what you like. I'd put something other than PJs but if you feel you don't need to then don't.

"Don't judge me, MIL, but I'm exhausted and wanted to relax." She couldn't say anything after that, could she?

I wouldn’t see guests wearing my pyjamas, no.

@crazyjinglist

I wouldn't be in my pyjamas if someone were coming round, no. And it wouldn't make any difference who they were - it's not because I'm worried about being judged. I just wouldn't want to - it would feel weird. I only wear pyjamas to go to bed. If I'd had a bath in the late afternoon/early evening I'd put clean clothes on, not pyjamas.

On a cold winter day, I love to have a bath and laze about all afternoon in PJs, it feels like a small indulgence.

I have to confess it's also related to the fact I've put a bit of weight on and my jeans are all a bit tight, and I had a large Sunday lunch.

I'm a mil. My dil sometimes wears pyjamas when I visit. Really doesn't bother me in the slightest. Her home so I don't expect her to stand on ceremony for me. But I get that everyone is different.

So long as the rose petals are lovingly strewn, I don't think it matters.
Seriously, these horrible months of January and February find me permanently in pjs. And if you don't like it, don't visit. ( Come to think of it, no one does 🤔).

Lol is it some kind of formal event? Is she the queen?

Of course you can have pjs on on a Sunday evening when someone whose supposedly meant to be family is coming over.

People fascinate me. I don't think there's many folks we know that haven't seen me in my pjs. In fact my friend/neighbour felt my forehead the other day when I was dressed.

Unless your first name is Catherine and hers is Elizabeth, I reckon pjs will be fine...

This is clearly a 50/50 split. I'm going to have to hunt out some elasticated waist trousers from my wardrobe.

Do soft jeans/yoga pants/leggings and a jumper not literally fulfil that criteria completely? It’s not hard.

Or even a jersey cotton dress with leggings or tights. Wouldn’t the right one feel like a nightie? Mine do. I never wear PJs except after about 10pm if I had an evening shower/bath. I don’t spend my life uncomfortable.

Text mil in advance.. Tell her it's a pyjama party and suggest she comes suitably dressed. Imagine dh's face!!

@TheCanyon why? What’s the fascination? Mumsnet is full of grown women wearing pyjamas all the time; it’s another example of MN being a parallel universe I don’t recognise.

I wear pyjamas no matter if people are coming round. In fact my bestie often has an open house on Christmas night. I usually turn up in my brand new pyjamas as they are comfy and lovely. Couldn't give a shit who else is there and if they judge me so crack on in your own home.

YANBU

When WFH I cycle between day pyjamas and night pyjamas so definitely wouldn't change for a visitor

Unless it's the queen

My relationship with my mil is pretty non existant so I'd get dressed

I think you're right, I'm missing some "smart loungewear" that would do the trick for this sort of occasion. So I'd feel like I'm in pyjamas but she wouldn't know I was, and think I'd made an effort.

Do you really not own any leggings and over-sized jumpers you can throw on? They're just as comfy as pajamas but look a bit more put together.

There are some funny people on here! Some of the replies sound like you’re living in downton Abbey.
Pjs are fine. No difference between Pjs or tracksuit bottoms (although I’m sure they wouldn’t be suitable attire either to some)

I'd be wearing a cravat and smoking jacket for weekend visitors. I don't know what the female equivalent is, perhaps pyjamas?

Sunday evening is the perfect time for PJs and relaxing, not hosting a guest so for me YANBU and you MIL is being unreasonable for popping round - would be different if she had been around earlier for lunch/dinner

PJs with a hoody over it sounds like a perfect compromise

I'd get dressed, but I live in the Southern US. It's not the done thing where I live to entertain visitors in your nightclothes unless you are ill (non-contagious, hopefully) recuperating from recent surgery, or just had a baby.

I don't possess PJs, but half the time when my MiL pops in, I am wearing my dressing gown.