To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

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MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

@2022success

To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

I really agree with @GTAlogic on this.

Also - those of you who say your day clothes are just as comfortable as your Pyjamas - you must have really horrible PJs.

Or very comfortable day clothes? I’m all for comfort, but that’s for all my clothes, not just pyjamas. I do genuinely get baffled by people who seem to find their ordinary clothes —and their underwear — uncomfortable to the point where they take them off immediately they arrive in. I get it obviously if they wear a scratchy nylon work uniform or heavy protective clothing, or if their idea of normal outdoor wear involves heels and a corset,, but otherwise it sounds as if they must be wearing a size too small or the wrong size bra. I’m working from home today as I have an ill child off school. I won’t be leaving the house. I’m wearing jeans, a jumper, a scarf and Uggs (draughty old house). I feel perfectly comfortable, and have no urge to replace what I’m wearing with pyjamas.

Sorry, hit ‘post’ too soon. I’m just sitting here trying to think what part of what I’m wearing would be less warm or comfortable than pyjamas.

It’s not a moral judgement. I have no issue with pyjama-wearing. I just wonder whether other people’s clothes are somehow far less comfortable than mine!

And conversely, I would be extremely uncomfortable wearing PJs in front of people, including MIL. Because I would feel embarrassed and exposed.

For me personally, I think it depends on the relationship you have with someone. I have a pretty chilled relationship with my MIL and I've known her for 20 years, so I just think of her as close family and someone who's fine to see me in pyjamas or emerging from the bathroom in a towel, rather than a 'guest' in a more formal sense. My MIL lives at the other end of the country so she doesn't come to our house very often but when she does, she usually stays for a couple of days and I always change into my pyjamas after dinner just like I do at home. Actually when she was with us over Christmas, she changed into pyjamas on a couple of evenings as well, round about the time we were cracking open the Bailey's for her...

Wear what you want in your own house. It doesn't matter if there are people on here who don't feel they can wear PJs in the presence of their MIL; that's totally up to them and I get why they feel that way. But it's a completely personal thing.

I do genuinely get baffled by people who seem to find their ordinary clothes —and their underwear — uncomfortable to the point where they take them off immediately they arrive in

To be blunt, I have a fat stomach! I also have a small chest so my stomach extends further than my chest does! It's not a good look!

So my "outdoor" clothes are chosen to try and disguise that. Therefore they are uncomfortable to a degree. There's no immediate way around that. Yes I should be looking at exercise and diet but that takes time and a large dose of motivation. Meanwhile I still don't want to go out looking a lumpy mess! So, when I've been restricted in my outdoor clothes, it's nice to take them off and just be comfortable.

I also find it a real nightmare to find any clothes to wear out and about, let alone comfortable ones. I have long arms and broad shoulders (something I can't change) so getting something that fits me there, often then doesn't fit in the body/chest so well. Or vice versa. Skirts and trousers are difficult because of my stomach. So when I rarely find something that "looks" decent, I put up with it if it isn't the best comfort wise because it's so difficult to find anything.

I'd love to have the type of body where I could just throw anything on, but I don't and only some of that is changable.

This makes sense. If outdoor clothes are chosen to change the appearance of your figure/shape, then they will probably be fairly uncomfortable.

My outdoor clothes are all pretty comfortable. Today I'm in a dungaree dress (pretty loose), wool tights, a merino long sleeve top (very cosy), and a hoody over the top of the dress. None of that is uncomfortable in any way, because it's got a loose fit.

I went out early this morning for a run - got soaked and cold. Came home, had a shower and put on clean pj’s. Am working at home today with a Zoom call free day. Am warm and comfy for a day working at home and not going anywhere this evening.

My bra size is 32H. NOTHING feels better than getting out of my bra!! Also, I work in legal sector. Jeans and a jumper just would not cut it even online.