To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

@burnthur5t

No but then I have standards

Everyone's got standards @burnthur5t

They may differ from yours, doesn't make them inferior or superior.

Believing they do doesn't mean you are superior. It just means you are being a bit of a Hyacinth, & could maybe find happier thoughts to occupy your time ...

Agree @Warmduscher !! It’s not like the fashion is corsets and pelmets is it?

You need some black leggings and longline tops that make you feel like you're in PJs when you're not. Sainsburys £10 leggings would do it.

@burnthur5t

No but then I have standards

And a superiority complex!

It depends if your pj's are clean on? And do you wear knickers underneath?

Your house. Wear what you want. MIL is family, if she is offended by your spotty pyjamas then that's on her 🤣

@Theoldwoman

It depends if your pj's are clean on? And do you wear knickers underneath?

My goodness ... such very personal questions!

Do you interrogate people about their laundry routines & undergarments in real life, @Theoldwoman? If so, do they answer the interrogation, or back away slowly, shifting their eyes desperately from side to side?

i do .unless im going outside i dont get dressed.
bugger anyone who dont like it.
saying that in the dark i pop up the shop in my pyjamas as its 4 mins up the road and no ones about.

i live in my pyjamas and slippers. i dont do dressing gowns though as my house is always boiling
its oversized pyjamas(ie a size or 2 bigger)and novelty slippers.
as im a mans 12 i have big slippers
in fact i own more pyjamas than clothes

its your house you do what you want. quite frankly bugger your partners opinion, his mother is not royalty(saying that i wouldn't get dressed for royalty either)

if you come in to my house you get what i am comfortable with. i aint putting on clothes to please you.

situations like this i say respect your self and put up boundaries.
why "should" you get dressed for anyone its your house, they are coming to you like it or not.

now see to me by getting dressed when you dont want to means in the background mil or your partner is in charge and has got one up over on me.
that would never happen with me

For me not getting dressed is a psychological issue. I feel unmotivated and as if the day hasn't begun if I am still in my nightwear. I like to separate day and night to feel like I have achieved something.

I had to buy some.leather clogs to wear for wfh. It was psychological as I just couldn't work in my slippers. I don't tend to go downstairs until I'm dressed.

@ChargingBuck you can use words and that’s fine. To me etiquette is important and I wouldn’t wear pyjamas out or to host, because it’s nightwear. Equally I tend to wear smart clothes to a black tie event, black for funerals, no white at weddings etc…but I know not everyone has my standards. I socialise accordingly. You do you.

@TolkiensFallow - you don’t host your MIL - she is family. Why would family be bothered with what you are wearing?
We have my parents and DH’s to stay for at least a week at Christmas. My sister and sister in law also come with their families. On Christmas Day we put on big fluffy socks, new PJ’s and silly hats - all three generations and no one gets dressed. We aren’t hosting, we are family enjoying each other’s company and having lots of fun, good food and drinks. We don’t need to dress for that.

@RampantIvy

For me not getting dressed is a psychological issue. I feel unmotivated and as if the day hasn't begun if I am still in my nightwear. I like to separate day and night to feel like I have achieved something.

I agree, but I had got dressed and gone out walking for hours. I'd just put PJs on because I'd had a relaxing afternoon in the bath.

I love how much judgement there is on here! I have my pj's on all the time! I love getting dressed up and make an effort every day when I am leaving the house, never don't wear make up etc however I love lounge wear or pj's when indoors and don't care if I have visitors such as close friends or family round when wearing them.

I'm a total scruff when at home, just not in pyjamas.

I love wearing my PJs. I've been at work today and when I came home I got straight into them. If I have to go and get dc 2 from a friend's house up the road, or walk that friend back to their house if it's dark, I go in my PJs, slippers and either my big fluffy top or my dressing gown. Other people on the street here do the same. To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

I wouldn't think twice about it and I doubt my MIL would either. She's seen me in my pjs countless times and is over here often.

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

@IrishMama2015

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

I guess it depends on how skimpy the PJs are. I wouldn’t wear frilly shorts and a cami, but have no issues with PJ trousers and a T-shirt.

I am now grumbling because I have to take off my PJs and put on trousers to go pick up DH. Oh, the Humanity!!!!!

PS It's about noon where I am.

@IrishMama2015

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

My boobs are large and I still wear my PJs, vest and jumper or dressing gown without a bra and I don't feel "on show".

On Christmas Day we put on big fluffy socks, new PJ’s and silly hats - all three generations and no one gets dressed. We aren’t hosting, we are family enjoying each other’s company and having lots of fun, good food and drinks. We don’t need to dress for that.

And equally @Parker231, I’m sure people who do like to get dressed out of their nightwear on Christmas Day don’t feel that getting dressed makes it impossible for them to enjoy their guests’ company, have lots of fun, good food and drink.

The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

No I couldn't do this.
My own mum would have felt really awkward as a guest in this scenario too.
I would feel I am being really bad mannered.
You could always pop some loose joggers/sweatshirt on over the top?
No dressing gown unless you are ill either..
But then I would NEVER put the bins out in my dressing gown either ( unless it was 3am, under cover of darkness )

To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

I really agree with @GTAlogic on this.

Also - those of you who say your day clothes are just as comfortable as your Pyjamas - you must have really horrible PJs.