To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

[2022success]

My bra size is 32H. NOTHING feels better than getting out of my bra!! Also, I work in legal sector. Jeans and a jumper just would not cut it even online.

[Parker231]

I went out early this morning for a run - got soaked and cold. Came home, had a shower and put on clean pj’s. Am working at home today with a Zoom call free day. Am warm and comfy for a day working at home and not going anywhere this evening.

[Octomore]

This makes sense. If outdoor clothes are chosen to change the appearance of your figure/shape, then they will probably be fairly uncomfortable.

My outdoor clothes are all pretty comfortable. Today I'm in a dungaree dress (pretty loose), wool tights, a merino long sleeve top (very cosy), and a hoody over the top of the dress. None of that is uncomfortable in any way, because it's got a loose fit.

[DressingPafe]

I do genuinely get baffled by people who seem to find their ordinary clothes —and their underwear — uncomfortable to the point where they take them off immediately they arrive in

To be blunt, I have a fat stomach! I also have a small chest so my stomach extends further than my chest does! It's not a good look!

So my "outdoor" clothes are chosen to try and disguise that. Therefore they are uncomfortable to a degree. There's no immediate way around that. Yes I should be looking at exercise and diet but that takes time and a large dose of motivation. Meanwhile I still don't want to go out looking a lumpy mess! So, when I've been restricted in my outdoor clothes, it's nice to take them off and just be comfortable.

I also find it a real nightmare to find any clothes to wear out and about, let alone comfortable ones. I have long arms and broad shoulders (something I can't change) so getting something that fits me there, often then doesn't fit in the body/chest so well. Or vice versa. Skirts and trousers are difficult because of my stomach. So when I rarely find something that "looks" decent, I put up with it if it isn't the best comfort wise because it's so difficult to find anything.

I'd love to have the type of body where I could just throw anything on, but I don't and only some of that is changable.

[PollyFlint]

For me personally, I think it depends on the relationship you have with someone. I have a pretty chilled relationship with my MIL and I've known her for 20 years, so I just think of her as close family and someone who's fine to see me in pyjamas or emerging from the bathroom in a towel, rather than a 'guest' in a more formal sense. My MIL lives at the other end of the country so she doesn't come to our house very often but when she does, she usually stays for a couple of days and I always change into my pyjamas after dinner just like I do at home. Actually when she was with us over Christmas, she changed into pyjamas on a couple of evenings as well, round about the time we were cracking open the Bailey's for her...

Wear what you want in your own house. It doesn't matter if there are people on here who don't feel they can wear PJs in the presence of their MIL; that's totally up to them and I get why they feel that way. But it's a completely personal thing.

[Sharrowgirl]

And conversely, I would be extremely uncomfortable wearing PJs in front of people, including MIL. Because I would feel embarrassed and exposed.

[Tullig]

Sorry, hit ‘post’ too soon. I’m just sitting here trying to think what part of what I’m wearing would be less warm or comfortable than pyjamas.

It’s not a moral judgement. I have no issue with pyjama-wearing. I just wonder whether other people’s clothes are somehow far less comfortable than mine!

[Tullig]

@2022success

To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

I really agree with *@GTAlogic* on this.

Also - those of you who say your day clothes are just as comfortable as your Pyjamas - you must have really horrible PJs.

Or very comfortable day clothes? I’m all for comfort, but that’s for all my clothes, not just pyjamas. I do genuinely get baffled by people who seem to find their ordinary clothes —and their underwear — uncomfortable to the point where they take them off immediately they arrive in. I get it obviously if they wear a scratchy nylon work uniform or heavy protective clothing, or if their idea of normal outdoor wear involves heels and a corset,, but otherwise it sounds as if they must be wearing a size too small or the wrong size bra. I’m working from home today as I have an ill child off school. I won’t be leaving the house. I’m wearing jeans, a jumper, a scarf and Uggs (draughty old house). I feel perfectly comfortable, and have no urge to replace what I’m wearing with pyjamas.

[2022success]

To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

I really agree with @GTAlogic on this.

Also - those of you who say your day clothes are just as comfortable as your Pyjamas - you must have really horrible PJs.

[Justleaveitblankthen]

No I couldn't do this.
My own mum would have felt really awkward as a guest in this scenario too.
I would feel I am being really bad mannered.
You could always pop some loose joggers/sweatshirt on over the top?
No dressing gown unless you are ill either..
But then I would NEVER put the bins out in my dressing gown either ( unless it was 3am, under cover of darkness )

[Warmduscher]

On Christmas Day we put on big fluffy socks, new PJ’s and silly hats - all three generations and no one gets dressed. We aren’t hosting, we are family enjoying each other’s company and having lots of fun, good food and drinks. We don’t need to dress for that.

And equally @Parker231, I’m sure people who do like to get dressed out of their nightwear on Christmas Day don’t feel that getting dressed makes it impossible for them to enjoy their guests’ company, have lots of fun, good food and drink.

The two aren’t mutually exclusive.

[GTAlogic]

@IrishMama2015

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

My boobs are large and I still wear my PJs, vest and jumper or dressing gown without a bra and I don't feel "on show".

[AcrossthePond55]

PS It's about noon where I am.

[AcrossthePond55]

I am now grumbling because I have to take off my PJs and put on trousers to go pick up DH. Oh, the Humanity!!!!!

[StarsAreWishes]

@IrishMama2015

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

I guess it depends on how skimpy the PJs are. I wouldn’t wear frilly shorts and a cami, but have no issues with PJ trousers and a T-shirt.

[IrishMama2015]

Ehm...... as a large bosomed lady I would not wear pyjamas around anyone bar DH and DC as I would be bra and underwear less under them. Am I alone in this?

[Juanbablo]

I wouldn't think twice about it and I doubt my MIL would either. She's seen me in my pjs countless times and is over here often.

[GTAlogic]

I love wearing my PJs. I've been at work today and when I came home I got straight into them. If I have to go and get dc 2 from a friend's house up the road, or walk that friend back to their house if it's dark, I go in my PJs, slippers and either my big fluffy top or my dressing gown. Other people on the street here do the same. To me, my comfort is important and I am respecting myself by recognising that.

[RampantIvy]

I'm a total scruff when at home, just not in pyjamas.

[PugInTheHouse]

I love how much judgement there is on here! I have my pj's on all the time! I love getting dressed up and make an effort every day when I am leaving the house, never don't wear make up etc however I love lounge wear or pj's when indoors and don't care if I have visitors such as close friends or family round when wearing them.

[ashorterday]

@RampantIvy

For me not getting dressed is a psychological issue. I feel unmotivated and as if the day hasn't begun if I am still in my nightwear. I like to separate day and night to feel like I have achieved something.

I agree, but I had got dressed and gone out walking for hours. I'd just put PJs on because I'd had a relaxing afternoon in the bath.

[Parker231]

@TolkiensFallow - you don’t host your MIL - she is family. Why would family be bothered with what you are wearing?
We have my parents and DH’s to stay for at least a week at Christmas. My sister and sister in law also come with their families. On Christmas Day we put on big fluffy socks, new PJ’s and silly hats - all three generations and no one gets dressed. We aren’t hosting, we are family enjoying each other’s company and having lots of fun, good food and drinks. We don’t need to dress for that.

[TolkiensFallow]

@ChargingBuck you can use words and that’s fine. To me etiquette is important and I wouldn’t wear pyjamas out or to host, because it’s nightwear. Equally I tend to wear smart clothes to a black tie event, black for funerals, no white at weddings etc…but I know not everyone has my standards. I socialise accordingly. You do you.

[RosesAndHellebores]

I had to buy some.leather clogs to wear for wfh. It was psychological as I just couldn't work in my slippers. I don't tend to go downstairs until I'm dressed.

[RampantIvy]

For me not getting dressed is a psychological issue. I feel unmotivated and as if the day hasn't begun if I am still in my nightwear. I like to separate day and night to feel like I have achieved something.