To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

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MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

@SenecaFallsRedux

I'd get dressed, but I live in the Southern US. It's not the done thing where I live to entertain visitors in your nightclothes unless you are ill (non-contagious, hopefully) recuperating from recent surgery, or just had a baby.

I wouldn't say it's 'the done thing' here either (southern England).

For me, the main difference between lounge wear and PJs is pants... and I wouldn't receive visitors with no undies on. I can't even sit and work like that, it feels wrong!

@Technonan

My DIL sometimes wears pyjamas when I'm visiting. I'm glad she can be relaxed with me.

Why do people think you can’t relax when you’re wearing clothes?

I think it depends on your relationship. My MIL is not a guest or visitor - shes part of the family. I would wear my PJs in front of her just as I would DH and DC. She keeps slippers in my house and happily makes herself cups of tea etc. She watches younger DC here while we go out. Shes not a guest.

This is hilarious! Most of my friends and family see me in my pyjamas regularly. Unless I was having people over for a meal and/or special occasion I wouldn’t be changing out of them. I think it’s fine.

My daughter in law wears an animal print pyjama onsie when she comes to mine in an evening.

I was a bit surprised the first time but now I barely even notice.

I would wear my pyjamas if my in laws visited late on a Sunday evening. They'd have to be my best ones though not scruffy old ones. Otherwise I've got some nice loungewear that I'd put on. Still comfy but looks a bit more dressed.

Surely she's coming to see her family not a fashion show?

If it was the middle of the day I'd make sure I was dressed.

On the flip side I wouldn't even notice what someone was wearing when I visited and if I did I'd never judge. My old neighbour would always answer the door in her nightie and dressing gown in the middle of the day and I didn't think anything of it other than she was getting cosy for the afternoon.

I would draw the line at going to the shops or school in pyjamas.

If you're comfortable in pjs then go for it!

A nice looking pair of trackie bottoms or leggings that you keep relatively smart, and a nice long thick jumper are a bit of a lifesaver to have for these 'i need to get dressed but I really don't want to wear jeans or put a bra on' kind of situations.

As a guest, I would feel a little unwelcome like I was intruding if the person I was visiting was in PJs. So I would never do it to someone else, each to their own though, you do you OP, but I think the takeaway from this thread is you've now earned yourself a little shopping spree for some super comfy loungewear! I love leggings and a comfy zip up jacket in the house, or I often find gym leggings (don't actually see much of a gym.. ever) and a long t-shirt are super comfy too!

I always wear pj bottoms in the house. I put them on the second I walk through the door. I wouldn't change out of them for MIL coming.

We don’t stand on ceremony with friends and family. On Christmas Day everyone stays in PJ’s all day - all three generations which includes MIL.

Haven't read it all and am 60. You are you and downstairs l, therefore, unless you are ill, you get washed and dressed before going downstairs.

Would I be arsed if future dil didn't probably not but she is really nice and I'm proud that she will be my dil and has agreed to marry my ds. The last gf, I'd have judged.

Gosh standards have gone downhill havent they! My Nan used to change into a dress or skirt for dinner every day, even if it was just her and my grandpa. Just to look and feel nice for dinner.
People don’t even get dressed out of what they slept / sleep in now it seems! 🤣

Not a chance. MIL and I are often in PJ's when the other visits if it's after 6pm. Once I even ended up wearing her spare pjs but then there was wine involved and I decided to sleep over.

PJs go on when I get home from work or when to decide to stop for the day at the weekend. So unless I'm hosting a dinner party there is no way I will be dressed.

Take me as I am. Mummy pig PJ's and all.

Might come across a bit rude and that she's in the way ? My SIL does stuff like this but I don;t know your relationship with your MIL. My SIL regularly makes us feel unwelcome, she'll put her coat on when we come and pretend she was on her way out or have her jammies on to make us feel we are depriving her of bedtime. But like I say, I don't know the nuances of your relationship with MIL.

Sorry Op I would get dressed too,

@Vloggamamma

Might come across a bit rude and that she's in the way ? My SIL does stuff like this but I don;t know your relationship with your MIL. My SIL regularly makes us feel unwelcome, she'll put her coat on when we come and pretend she was on her way out or have her jammies on to make us feel we are depriving her of bedtime. But like I say, I don't know the nuances of your relationship with MIL.

Do you turn up unannounced?

@Notcontent

Just to turn this around: the people saying PJs are fine, would you be happy for your DH/DP to wear PJs if you had your parents or a friend coming?

Depends on the relationship and the formality of the visit.

If they are one of the family and we are just hanging out as a family, yes, it would be fine.

If someone comes to my house after 5pm the can expect to find me in my pjs, unless it's an occasion like a party/meal.

I reckon on a Sunday evening in the middle of winter you should wear what you like!

I adore my daughter’s in law because they are amazing wives and mummy’s. I couldn’t give a rats arse what they wear and in fact would be glad if they’re comfortable around me. Be your lovely self. 😘

I have PJs on when DiL comes over and vice versa. We are very casual like that.

[quote DoctorSnortles]@Holly60

It’s funny, isn’t it, because absolutely no-one in my family would be seen dead slobbing about in pyjamas. We are a close family, but one that manages to dress itself.[/quote]
Do you dress immediately after you wake then? My family will quite happily get into pyjamas at night to watch a film, or get up in the morning to make a coffee.

I wouldn’t expect my children or their spouses to put on clothes to come down and make the coffee, and they wouldn’t expect me to either.

But you are right, all families are different, and some are more formal than others.

I probably would get dressed, but that's because my wonderful inlaws weren't the type to ever wear nightwear downstairs, so it kind of transferred.
I don't think they'd have judged me at all, because they didn't have a judgy bone in their bodies. But had they come round when I was in my pyjamas I'd simply have said 'sorry about the PJs but I've just got out of the bath, hope you don't mind' (knowing they wouldn't).

I wouldn't let people see me in the morning in pjs before a shower but I think what you describe is fine.