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My partner sent me a screenshot and at the top there was an arrow <plenty of fish he is saying he was on twitter

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Lolabray · 08/01/2022 22:58

Please can you give me your opinions.

I screenshotted my partner a funny picture of him on a day out where he was in some gardens waving and sent it over to him with giggles on the photo remembering the day.

A minute later he sent me a screenshot back but I noticed at the top of the page there was this written above the picture as if to say go back to the previous page

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Lolabray · 08/01/2022 23:40

@ Thedogscollar so sorry that’s my mistake it wasn’t to you I do apologise x

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FortniteBoysMum · 08/01/2022 23:41

The do a search for me shit is the same cocktail attitude my ex used to give me when confronted. He thought he was clever because he used his middle name and the next city over. What he forgot was that I'm not stupid.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 08/01/2022 23:42

@TheHamburgler

The words plenty of fish are in bold so he manually searched for it in order to pretend it came up accidentally, in his second screenshot to OP. If his story is true (and I’m faaar from convinces) I would assume he searched for ‘plenty of fish’ after being confronted, so as to find the ad again.
But all that would prove is if you manually search for the term plenty of fish, you also get an advert for it. And it's not even an ad I don't think, just the official account due to searching for it. He's bare faced lying!
AdultingInTheCountryside · 08/01/2022 23:43

He’s lying and he is definitely on pof and gods knows what else. You won’t find him now either because he could’ve suspended or deleted his account.

sarah13xx · 08/01/2022 23:43

Although I’d guess if he’s on plenty of fish he’s not brazen enough to be on there as himself with his own profile picture surely? 🤔 If he’s ‘just’ (doesn’t make it any better) on it for a nosey or to flirt with people but not actually looking for a relationship then you probably won’t be able to find him on it as himself if he’s going by a different name and picture 🤦🏼‍♀️ What is it with these men! So sorry, hope there is some innocent explanation to bail him out here

Itsalmostanaccessory · 08/01/2022 23:44

Stop putting a space between the @ and the username of the poster you want to tag. It wont tag them with a space between them.

He was 100% on PoF. He is going to lie to you obviously and he will have deleted his profile now so you wont find him but, he was 100% on the PoF app. It really is up to you what you do now but I would be ending it and ignoring anything h says from now on. Up to you though but he absolutely is using Pof.

Greenfields124 · 08/01/2022 23:45

So sorry OP what a horrible shock.

Thedogscollar · 08/01/2022 23:45

[quote Shallwegoforawalk]**@Lolabray* you've made a mistake, @Thedogscollar wasn't having a go at you, they quoted @YesIHaveAntOrDec* and were telling them their first reply was being an arsehole. Can you see the quoted post on their reply? [/quote]
Thank you goforawalk.

I just hate bullies and see people who need support on here and you get one post in with the snide comments.
Yes Antanddec that's you I'm talking to. Why are some people on here such arses. I know it's AIBU but she isn't so keep the nasty comments to yourself Antanddec.

emsmar · 08/01/2022 23:46

100% he's talking shite. He's searched plenty of fish on Twitter as the words that have been searched are in bold. If he was still on Twitter it would have said Twitter - not POF. Genuinely so sorry, he's lying. What a horror!

ENDOFMESSAGE · 08/01/2022 23:46

Sorry to say it OP, he is playing you and he is lying to you. My ex played me with dating sites like this one and many others for years and always got cross and denied everything until my friend who was on one found and screenshot his profile. He's looking for an upgrade. He thinks he can do better but he doesn't want to drop you until what he considers to be a better offer is on the table. Whether he's deleted the account or not, this won't stop. It'll always be his fallback and go-to. He'll always be texting, dating and having flings with women in secret, if he doesn't use contraception with them there could be diseases and other kids coming from these interactions. It's hard to accept your significant other is lying to you but from the moment he made that account he knew his goal was not to drop you until there's a guaranteed upgrade. He will try to continue stringing you along. If you reverse Google search a photo he's likely to use of himself you might find it on a lot of other sites too.

You can do better than this OP!

Thedogscollar · 08/01/2022 23:46

@Lolabray

@ Thedogscollar so sorry that’s my mistake it wasn’t to you I do apologise x
No probs. Goodluck with your partner whatever happens.
FatFucker · 08/01/2022 23:47
  • He was on POF while also messaging you
  • He's a liar
  • He's a gaslighter
  • He has no respect for you
  • He thinks you're stupid

Sorry OP you know what to do :(

Nikkic2123 · 08/01/2022 23:47

I’m really sorry, he was in plenty of fish

sociallydistained · 08/01/2022 23:48

Cheaters always get caught 🙄 be glad you've seen this now, Op but I'm sorry.

GodspeedJune · 08/01/2022 23:50

Hope that you are ok. It must be difficult to hear posters confirming your suspicions.

PickAChew · 08/01/2022 23:54

Of course, a lot of us have probably looked at either POF or their twitter, now!

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Lolabray · 08/01/2022 23:55

Thanks everyone, I’ve been married to a player, left him became a single mum, I’m not going to put up with this bullshit from a man who is supposed to love me, I’d rather be alone.

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Maz2021 · 08/01/2022 23:59

I definitely believe he was on POF and you should send him packing!

Notwithittoday · 09/01/2022 00:00

#busted
Just next him

Alicenwonderland · 09/01/2022 00:00

I was on POF and there are loads of married men on there. Lots don't have photos or have pictures of someone else so it would be impossible to find him. So sorry

CharlotteRose90 · 09/01/2022 00:00

He’s defo on pof sorry. I’ve just checked it as I have an account and it shows the exact same way for me sorry.

MrsMadderRose · 09/01/2022 00:01

Yes as soon as he realised you were suspicious, he could have got rid of his profile, suspended it etc, if he had one that was active, then told you to search. Or he could have one with amended details, or he could have one that's already suspended but he still looks to see if he wants to restart it. Not being able to find him on it doesn't let him off the hook.

Sorry OP :( but well done with the eagle eyes and for not intending to put up with it.

shoopashoop · 09/01/2022 00:01

Do you have family share on your phones? If so you can see apps he has downloaded in App Store

moremoony · 09/01/2022 00:02

He was on it

AnnieSnap · 09/01/2022 00:02

@YesIHaveAntOrDec

can’t be bothered sitting up all night as I’m old and past drama

Yeah, you don’t sound “past drama”

What do you get out of posting such an arsey response? Just go somewhere else 🙄
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