Not sure anting Dh to go to New Years party

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We hosted Xmas for PIL and SIL families. SIL left already bit PIL are leaving tomorrow. This morning Dh told me that he has been invited to a house party on New Year's Eve. I was thinking we would have relaxed home party as a family after hosting Xmas. AIBU want to him stay with us?

What does he want to do?

He wants to go to the party.

It seems weird someone has invited him and not you.

You've got four days to relax before New Year

Are you not invited?

I feel that after cooking for nine people and tidying up I want to relax on New Year's Eve. I had already planned what to do etc.

Yes only he is invited to the party.

That's very odd that only he is invited?

How much hosting did he do when his family were staying?

Were you only 'thinking' or had you voiced this to him? If not then he's not being unreasonable to want to do something different from the plan in your head. The inviter is being weird to only invite one of you though.

Are you back at work tomorrow or do you have more time to relax together before NY without the in-laws?

Who invites only a husband and not his wife to a New Year party? Rude, quite frankly.

He can go parties at other times. No problem.

I don't really like PIL so it has been stressful Xmas.

That's very very odd

Surely you can relax much better alone than with your DH? I mean TV to yourself, snack and drinks on the table - win win

It's his old colleague's party. I don't know why we are not invited.

@BarefootHippieChick

Who invites only a husband and not his wife to a New Year party? Rude, quite frankly.

I agree. Odd and rude.

I'm not joined at the hip to my DP, but I would think it really odd for him to be invited alone to a NYE party. Tbh, I doubt he'd want to go - he'd want to see the New Year in with me, whether that's at home or at a party.

I think that is poor form on your DH's part - he should want to be with his wife as the year changes.

Rude and odd. Dh goes to the party and lefts wife and dc to home.

I regularly do things separately from my dh and neither of us would bat an eyelid if one went to a party, old colleagues wedding reception, afternoon drinking session etc by ourselves. But no way in hell would either of us go to a NYE party without the other!

I would say fine go but make sure you have somewhere to sleep as I will not be dealing with a pissed up DH rolling in well after midnight waking up the house.

You sure only he’s invited and not he’s just telling you that? That would be more likely. No one has New Year’s Eve parties and says partners not welcome.

No it's just him going. Apparently he has a lift already.

Or does he just need you to babysit?

I would expect my husband to decline a New Years invite that didn’t include me, that’s seriously rude.

The fact he's happy to see in the New Year without you is a bit strange tbh

Oh so he's already decided its happening...nice