Why men always quickly bring out their wife or girlfriend in a non personal conversation

[SophieHasOneQuestion]

Not every time but enough for me to ask the question.

I never bring up my boyfriend up in a conversation with almost strangers. Especially the conversation is not personal at all, why?

I was not flirtatious (wearing an oversize black coat and no makeup.) - in case someone asks.

@SophieHasOneQuestion

Not every time but enough for me to ask the question.

I never bring up my boyfriend up in a conversation with almost strangers. Especially the conversation is not personal at all, why?

I was not flirtatious (wearing an oversize black coat and no makeup.) - in case someone asks.

Some people I guess, are more open conversationalist than others,

I've had this loads of times.Once I was having a pleasant conversation with a man and he dropped in the conversation he had a wife. And then kept doing it even though it had no relevance to our conversation.
Basically I just said to him " don't worry I'm not hitting on you and I know your not hitting on me".
Probably put a big dent in his ego but I'd just had enough as I knew what he was aiming at. Honestly men are so full of themselves they can't believe their not irresistible to every woman on the planet. Felt so much better saying it out in the open.

He was far from being a pin up either!!

My optician did this recently. Thought it was a bit strange. Second appt, I was a bit dizzy at the end and he asked me to wait in the lobby for twenty mins before I went home. Came to check on me then and started talking about his Christmas plans in a very nervy, excited way and then mentioned he was going away with his gf. We do not have that ‘chummy’ relationship and I thought the poor guy is desperate for a holiday. I had to see him again a few days later and he was quite curt with me.

I definitely got a sense that there was something else driving his words - whether he thought I liked him or that he had crossed a line, I don’t know. Nice guy, Northerner in the big smoke.

Sometimes you just aren't sure where the conversation is going. So you draw that boundary. No harm, no foul.

Perhaps just making conversation and needs something not controversial? Sort of thing oh would do talk about me and the girls otherwise you'd be hearing about steam engines/old cars/engines etc.

@Marzipano

When chatting with women I haven't meant before, I do sometimes deliberately mention my wife to make it clear that I'm actually interested in the conversation I'm having rather than it being a pretext for trying to get in their knickers.

That doesn't mean I think I'm irresistible, or that I automatically think every woman I meet is interested in me. In fact, quite the opposite! I'm if anything worried that the woman I'm taking might assume I'm attempting to be flirtatious and cut the conversation off.

That's interesting, I guess it can be a bit of a mine field for guys too sometimes especially in these 'woke' days.

@DickMabutt73962 I thought that scene was so funny, Samantha's face for one and how true this can be!!

@NeverDropYourMoonCup

Yes!!! I've unfortunately been on the end of that having worked in a very male dominated industry!! I'm not interested, we work together!!

That’s weird, it’s the opposite to my experience.

When I was single it used to annoy me that men never mentioned their partner or even used words like ‘we’. Even married men never mentioned their wives.

@Bollocks2Covid @pictish I’ve heard him doing it when he hasn’t realised I’ve been there and also other people have mentioned to me that he does it

[quote colourfulpuddles]**@Bollocks2Covid* @pictish* I’ve heard him doing it when he hasn’t realised I’ve been there and also other people have mentioned to me that he does it[/quote]
Tosh.

So to summarise:

Man mentions his wife/gf in conversation = wanker

Man doesn’t mention his wife/gf in conversation = wanker

Thanks for clarifying everyone. MN at its finest 😂

@pictish Yeah I’m not bothered whether a randomer on the internet believes me or not 😂

Just wish people wouldn’t post rubbish.

I do this and I'm not a man.

I find it excruciatingly awkward to be asked for my number, so it's easier to just make it clear I'm extremely married.

Rule of fives - mentioning a partner usually arises in the first 5 mins of conversation or will be alluded to in the first 5 topics discussed
I see it from both men and women
I dont think its a bad thing if done right eg as part of a convo, not shoehorned in out of context

Yes op, happens to me too. I'm definitely no looker. No idea why

I find the opposite

Especially when I was younger now not so much

I find women bring their partners into a conversation far more than men

I find it insulting. I want to say, I'm not hitting on you (for god's sake!), I have absolutely zero interest in you that way. I was just conversing with a fellow human, or so I thought. It really hurts my feelings, actually.

I also note they never bothered doing this when I was young and in their eyes 'viable'.

@OnGoldenPond

Men think any woman who strikes up a conversation with them is hitting on them.

Egos the size of a planet, all of them.

This.

Men think any woman who strikes up a conversation with them is hitting on them.

Egos the size of a planet, all of them.

This.

And women don't?

Call me crazy, but I can tell when a man is hitting on me.

It's how they assert their manliness; to show they are wanted, adored and a provider. Nothing to do with anything else. Good for you you're taken, mate. 😂

I don't think I've ever had this.