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To wonder why this has come through the post for DH..?

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namechangedaily · 07/12/2021 14:43

Saw an opened perfumed shaped parcel on the side and curiosity got the better of me so thought I'd sneak and see if it was the Chanel perfume I'd be hinting about. Found this..
Would you assume it's a secret Santa?
Or I've just had a baby and he clearly isn't getting enough...

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Nap1983 · 07/12/2021 14:45

Just ask straight out and gauge his reaction

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/12/2021 14:47

Nice nails!

DeclareThePenniesOnYourEyes · 07/12/2021 14:47

I mean, I couldn’t get too mad about this if it’s for him. I’ve got a vibrator. Just ask, surely?

999caffeineplease · 07/12/2021 14:48

I’d just ask him, and not go snooping again.

Either way I don’t actually think there’s an issue. Plenty of people have sex toys while also having a satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship with their OH.

ginislife · 07/12/2021 14:48

Someone sent it him as a joke ??

5thnonblonde · 07/12/2021 14:48

They’re expensive aren’t they? Occam’s razor and all that.

TakeYourFinalPosition · 07/12/2021 14:49

It’d be a pretty random and inappropriate Secret Santa… and it’s £15, so above the limit for most of the ones I’ve been involved in. But I have seen people being given sex toys (and cringed hard!) at work secret santas, so it’s possible…

All you can do is ask him, really.

Marvellousmadness · 07/12/2021 14:49

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simpledeer · 07/12/2021 14:49

Is he the sort of man who would buy something that juvenile as secret santa?

Either way - shame on you for snooping!!!!!

userxx · 07/12/2021 14:51

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Marvellousmadness · 07/12/2021 14:52

Ps why are you snooping???

User156 · 07/12/2021 14:52

It’s obviously something he has bought for himself. Is this an issue for you? I don’t think it’s a big deal for people to have sex toys, so I wouldn’t get upset. I might be slightly embarrassed but that would be my fault for snooping.

Fetchthevet · 07/12/2021 14:53

Urgh

CombatBarbie · 07/12/2021 14:54

Do you own any sex toys? Do you masturbate alone? I don't see what the issue is tbh

BIWI · 07/12/2021 14:54

Why on earth would you open a parcel that's not addressed to, or for you?!

Marvellousmadness · 07/12/2021 14:55

@userxx harsh? Its just reality really...

A lot of women stop having sex 1-2 months before having their baby and then don't engage is intercourse for 2-3-4 months more after the baby is born

Why do you think most marriages fall apart the first year after the baby is born? Having a newborn is tough. But having no sex is tough too!...cut the man some slack

Bellyups · 07/12/2021 14:56

That’s not a secret Santa gift Grin

MarbleQueen · 07/12/2021 14:57

Ugh.

katieg03 · 07/12/2021 14:58

Love honey is a pretty genuine site. How are you going to wrap it back up and pretend you didn't open it? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Youll have to fess up and ask now I guess. I'd say he bought it for himself tho

Starcaller · 07/12/2021 14:58

Secret Santa GrinWho does he do SS with to get something like that?!

Snooping never ends well!

askingforafriend80 · 07/12/2021 14:58

But if it’s open does that mean your dh has just left it laying around?

Kbyodjs · 07/12/2021 14:59

Hmm good reason why you shouldn’t open someone else post

girlmom21 · 07/12/2021 15:00

I don't believe you thought that was perfume at all...

Starcaller · 07/12/2021 15:01

You could do what Charlotte from SATC did with the porn mag and stick your face on it somewhere Grin

JuneOsborne · 07/12/2021 15:01

Are you bothered if its for him? And how will you explain the snooping?

The best thing to do, in a healthy relationship (now that you've already snooped!) It is to be honest. I snooped! I found this. Let's have a chat about it. Oh, and sorry about the snooping, but at least it's all out in the open now!