Airport collection AIBU?

[SadlyMissTaken]

I've been abroad for two weeks. I live 1.5 - 2 hrs from Heathrow by tube/train. DP twice mentioned over phone he might come and collect me as I was getting in v early so no traffic. He said he would text to let me know. I told him now he had brought it up I would be upset if he didn't turn up (got in today, Saturday and he has nothing else on). He said he wasn't guaranteeing.
Flight landed earlier than schedule. No text from DP. Tore through arrivals to see him. Not there at exit. Eventually called. No answer. Called again. Still in bed and apparently pissed off I woke him up. Am furious. He says he made clear it was a maybe. AIBU?

He should have only of offered if he meant it. How long is the drive?

You both are.

He made it very clear it was a maybe, he should have texted to say he wasn't coming.

Tearing through arrivals to see him when your flight got in early and being furious is overly dramatic.

Yanbu. Ideally he would have said yes I think a no is not unreasonable if he had other plans/ big night out night before. But a maybe and being pissed off that you called is very shitty.

Sound over dramatic but I remember being in tears when ex dp wasn’t at the airport to pick me up. I had lost my phone so no way to contact. He eventually turned up he’d gone to wrong terminal!

He should have been clear on yes or no.
But, I think its unreasonable not to pick you up, seeing as he was obviously not busy.

Don’t spoil the return with a massive fight. There was poor communication on both your sides. I’d be pissed off too but 1.5-2h is a long drive if there are other options as well. How did you get home in the end?

Sorry but this is really princessy IMO. Nobody owes you a pick up when you live in London, not even your partner.

DH would always pick me up and vice versa without question. I'd be annoyed if he had kept suggesting it but then not bothered to confirm he wouldn't!

I didn't ask for a pickup and didn't think about it before he raised it. It is a 40 min drive. No big night before.
13 hour flight. I went back on the train. Took me 1 hr 45.

He said he wouldn’t guarantee.

He's a pillock.

I wouldn’t have expected to see him there at all after him saying “maybe”. That’s far too flimsy a plan. I’d have told him “that’s fine, I’ll get the train home” so we both knew where we stood.

Fwiw I’d be pissed he couldn’t even bother to give you a straight answer let alone coming to get you. I’d be questioning the relationship.

I might pick you up from the airport is worse than useless. Give me a yes or a no (I typically didnt collect DH but work paid for his taxi, DH usually collected me and the kids because that sorted carseat issues). But we knew what was happening.

That's just rude. He should have at least communicated with you so you knew the score as soon as you landed he wasn't coming.

He sounds lazy.

I would have wanted to know one way or the other before boarding the plane at the other end. He is a nob for getting your hopes up but you are being unreasonable to have expected him to be there when he hadn't said he definitely would.

YABU to expect him at the airport when you hadn't confirmed it between yourselves.

How does the saying go.......... never treat someone as a priority if they treat you as an option.

Unless there was a valid reason why he needed a sleep-in, I'd reconsider my options with this 'partner'...

(In what way is he your partner? I don't think he sees you as his partner!)

It does sound like there was poor communication from both parties but I’d be really annoyed too if my DP didn’t pick me up under similar circumstances. It’s not princessy, I’d pick him up if the roles were reversed, surely that’s just part of being in a loving relationship?

He said he would let me know though. No text on landing so I assumed he would be there

@SadlyMissTaken

He said he would let me know though. No text on landing so I assumed he would be there

He said he'd let you know, why would you assume no message meant he was there? I'd assume no message meant he wasn't there!

He's just not that into you. Dangling the vague promise of a lift is bad, but being annoyed you woke him up is just soooo cocky!

How does the saying go.......... never treat someone as a priority if they treat you as an option.

Yep.

@SadlyMissTaken
Personally I would have assumed the opposite. No text = no pick up

How long has he been your partner?

He said he would let you know and wasn’t guaranteeing it. I’d have taken that if you didn’t get a text on landing that he wasn’t going to be there

@MrzClaus
Exactly