IN wanting to set up a Mumsnet No Man's (Mum's) Land between BFers & FFers?

[Iklboo]

We're NEVER going to agree on this subject so I'm setting up a nice quiet bunker somewhere in the middle entitled

"I DID WHAT WAS BEST FOR MY BABY AND I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS LA LA LA LA LA"

Not being flippant, disrespecful, rude or anything like that. Just neutral.

polly, I can't agree, it does make a difference.

seriously, it was precisely because of what i went through with bfing that i vowed not to go against my instincts on that score again. feeling like i'd got back onto a more 'natural' (my quotes, not everyone would agree obv) course again with BLW really helped to repair my hurt over bfing. why do you think it's like russian roulette (which is after all a game that kills people)?

Erm, research would beg to differ about there being no difference the effects on long term health between bfing and ffing.

it made a Big Fat difference to me that i couldn't BF. never mind dd...

I reckon everyone simply does their best. That's it. That's all everyone or anyone can do for their children whether it be BF or FF.

how does it make a difference?
Children are the same whether you do or you don't. Do what feels right for you, as a mother. If the mother is happy, the babies are happy!

i didn't do my best. i did as i was told.

polly, are you serious? are you new?

sorry. joke backfired there. I'm doing BLW. My mother really does think I'm dicing with death every time i give dd a stick of carrot.

no difference at all?don't be ridiculous.

polly you need to re-phrase..

what you did doesn't seem to have made any apparent difference to your three children. studies with larger samples of children show different results to your..study.

oh my god, not the old happy mummy=happy baby agan.

Polly, I really don't want to get into a debate about whether or not it makes a difference on this thread of all threads but just read this That is some of the differences it mkes, then listen to people like Aitch who didn't for whatever reason bf and felt bad about it, that's physical medical differences to baby and psychological differences to mother.

Yes, am serious. Because it's truE!

BTW that was the first link I had in my bookmarks, I know there is a better one somewhere that tells you how much difference it makes dependant on how long you feed for but I can't find it!

erm, i formula fed both my babies, but i know full well there are more benefits to breast feeding than formula... and emotionally, it can make a huge difference too

lol, you listen to your mother BWM. and then ask her when you started on finger food? (i bet it was six months... after three months of spooning). i did kinda assume you were joking, my post must've come out more serious than i intended.

That whole Happy Mother = Happy Baby argument is a load of pants IMO (nothing to do with BF or FF, it just is). I might be happy taking coke every night or farming DS out to strangers so I could go to the bingo, but it wouldn't make my baby happy.

QED about mums getting accurate information regarding their choices of feeding a baby.

Decades of aggressive marketing have led to misinformation.

Agree nine, also think it is the laziest thing people troll out on mn.

some of us aren't happy ffing though. We did it because we thought we had to, because someone told us we had to or because we were desperate and afraid and didn't get the help we needed. Where does that leave our babies - no benefits of breastmilk and an unhappy mother?

For more of us formula wasn't a positive informed choice and being told it doesn't matter that we didn't bf is as hurtful as being told we just didn't try hard enough.

I'm going to the bunker now. It's safe down there.

Definitely winkywinola, that is the real problem with breastfeeding versus formula feeding, no-one really wants a row, we know the reality of it and just think everyone should know all the facts too, without having to go searching for them.

Obviously the support for feeding baby either way comes into it too, but if the info was accurate people might look further for help once they started to struggle.

God only knows how I wish I'd known what I do know with dd, and even ds who I successfully breastfed for nine months.

My goodness, Polly, that's awfully emphatic when you appear not to be basing your statement on anything beyond personal experience.

A stressed, upset bf mother may not be as beneficial as a calm happy ff mother. And an upset ff mother may not be as beneficial as a happy bf mother. That's all. BF is not the be all and end all, neither is FF. It's not rocket science. How old are your kids? do you have the proof of the pudding yet? Calm down and do what feels right. I am neutral on the subject - don't try to chastise me.

neutral lol.

cliche away polly.