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IN wanting to set up a Mumsnet No Man's (Mum's) Land between BFers & FFers?

246 replies

Iklboo · 14/12/2007 13:59

We're NEVER going to agree on this subject so I'm setting up a nice quiet bunker somewhere in the middle entitled

"I DID WHAT WAS BEST FOR MY BABY AND I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS LA LA LA LA LA"

Not being flippant, disrespecful, rude or anything like that. Just neutral.

OP posts:
PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 14/12/2007 21:49

how about this for chastisement? oh do stop being so stupid, polly.

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 14/12/2007 21:49

Oh polly, please do not use the 'how old are your children' line, it's as bad as the 'you don't have kids so you don't know' crap I hear bandied aroundas a way of someone saying they're right.

I'm sure I said my dd has things my ds does not, the only thing I did different was breastfeed ds. DD also overeats, through being told how much to eat and when rather than being fed on demand, she was poorly more often as a baby etc. Now it might not be life or death but there is definitely a difference.

So yes, my children are old enough to tell.

HabbiChristmasToBu · 14/12/2007 21:50

I don't think anyone is trying to chastise you, polly, and I think that no-one would disagree with your last statements. However, the way your earlier ones were worded suggested that, all things being equal, there was no difference between bf and ff, and the research disagrees with that.

If my daughter lives to be 100 and never gets sick it'll be proof of nothing. One person is not statistically significant, so I take large scale studies to be more "proof of the pudding" than personal experience.

camillathechicken · 14/12/2007 21:50

no matter how neutral you are, it is simply not true that there is no difference between FF and BF!

it is not chastisement to point that out, it is factual.

i formula fed both mine, but i support women to BF as well as i can in what i do, and i realise how badly i feel now about not breastfeeding

and why did i not breastfeed? no support, no information, no idea where to get help.

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 14/12/2007 21:50

plus, do you have the proof of the pudding yet? esp considering you're the one going against the Actual Research.

pollypumpkin · 14/12/2007 21:51

yes neutral, because if you read my earlier comment you will see I have FF and BF and all my dc are equally healthy and equally successful. If you are suggesting that I am not neutral, perhaps you would like to tell me whether you think I am on the side of BF or FF - because I am certainly v. interested to find out!

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 14/12/2007 21:52

polly, I don't know about neutral, how about dillusional??

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 14/12/2007 21:53

we're not talking about sides, we're talking about research. a sample of your two kids hardly compared to over 15,000.

camillathechicken · 14/12/2007 21:54

but it isn;t about sides !! BF is proven to be a better way to feed your baby. end of.

but how women feel about how they fed their babies and their experiences are incredibly important. and saying it doesn;t matter,or happy mum / happy baby takes away from a lot of the emotion about how you feed your baby and how important it is to many women

WinkyWinkola · 14/12/2007 21:54

Hokay. But to attack Polly or anyone with insults like stupid etc isn't going to change anything.. . . . . . .. ... .. . Merely confirm the rigidity of views.

Evidence based on widespread longterm research speaks for itself.

pollypumpkin · 14/12/2007 21:55

Well, you are entitled to your opinion/s. I am completely neutral on the subject. I enjoyed BF. When I couldn't do it, it was upsetting. but not the end of the world. My DD3 goes from strength to strength and I hope all your dc will too. Goodnight all.

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 14/12/2007 21:56

i hardly think that a troll is going to change her views. she's managed to read this thread and comes on here with this insulting crap.

HabbiChristmasToBu · 14/12/2007 21:56

Polly, can't you accept the difference between opinion and research? Why are you avoiding this point?

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 14/12/2007 21:56

Polly, it isn't opinion, try that link I aveyou earlier, hit research at the bottom. Theres plenty of it there.

camillathechicken · 14/12/2007 21:58

night polly.....

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 14/12/2007 21:59

so maybe your 'neutrality' comes from your unwillingness to accept that you nourished your first two children with a better 'product' than your third, then? that's not neutral, that's denial. and i can understand why you feel that way, but it doesn't disappear the actual research.

fishie · 14/12/2007 22:02

polly you have not told us how you fed your babies.

TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 14/12/2007 22:03

apparently she bf the first two but ff the third.

SueBaRoomForAMincePie · 14/12/2007 22:08

Oh, it was all going so well last time I looked.

I ff my fourth child because I wanted to take drugs.

Austin · 14/12/2007 22:20

why does it have to be a fight? i tried with both and ended up ff. am i in no-mans land?

VVVExcitedAboutChristmasQV · 14/12/2007 22:25

oh crikey.

BeeWiseMen · 14/12/2007 22:28

austin if you feel ok about it you're in no mans land. If not you're in the bunker with me. There's wine .

SueBaRoomForAMincePie · 14/12/2007 22:29

I'm not that bothered about no-mans land, I think there should be copious amounts of BF support available, but I've come to terms with my choice to FF my last...

... yet I am drawn by the promise of wine...

pollypumpkin · 14/12/2007 22:32

Where were you earlier??!! I just thought i'd pop in here to give balanced view, Then got accused of all kinds of things. No normal people seemed to be around. Oh well.

Austin · 14/12/2007 22:33

i feel fine about it....

until I come on here

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