To expect my DH to get out of our bed?

[PurpleDaisy2114]

DD is 10,with additional needs. She has been in a lot of pain yesterday and today with muscle strain in her back.
She wanted to sleep in our bed tonight.DH was adamant in saying no- said it's the only thing he insists on,it's our space.
DDhas slept on the sofa, lying next to me most of evening.To me,she's poorly and wants her Mum.
I just think he is being selfish. I've come into her room and am in her bed instead.

YABU sorry I agree with him. Nothing wrong with going into her bed with her though.

YANBU. Tell DH to grow up. Can't he sleep in her bed and you and DD can sleep together if she's poorly?

YANBU

YABU if you can go into her room do that.

Only 1 person displaced then.

The other way displaces everyone except you.

YANBU. My husband would 100% leave for one of my kids to sleep with me I'd they needed to.

YABU

YANBU she is already in pain, and he thinks her sleeping on the sofa or I assume squashed somewhat in a ?single bed with you is OK?
You and your daughter get to be uncomfortable so that he can have the comfort of his own bed?
What an arse.

Interesting thanks

YANBU.

She has a queen bed so it's not too squashy

Yabu

She was settled and comfy

Yabu

I generally dislike having a child in with me and in principle I’m with your husband but for a child with additional needs, in pain, he’s a heartless one. He should move himself into her bed and let you share with her. I understand completely why he doesn’t want to share with her but leaving you squished on a sofa or single bed with a child with a bad back while he luxuriates in the big bed to himself would really upset me.

I think if her bed is big enough for you and her to sleep comfortably in then YABU. But if it’s small then YANBU

If you're already in there, why the need for him to move, can he get a good night sleep in her bed, does he have to work tomorrow or can he have a relaxed day? Would you 'get out' at his demand?

I don't know which way round is the YABU but she should be in her own bed

I’ve also got a no kids in my bed rule. And you say it’s the only thing your oh insists on. And your alternative was your daughter to stay in her own queen sized bed which you shared with her. This is a complete non issue.

Ah ok, if she has a queen sized bed so you can comfortably share in her room then that seems a reasonable compromise. I’d assumed you meant you were sharing a kid sized single bed.

YANBU I’m really shocked at some of the replies here. She’s 10, not 2. She’s got a muscle strain no idea why that means your husband needs evicting from his bed so she can get in??

@brambleon

I think if her bed is big enough for you and her to sleep comfortably in then YABU. But if it’s small then YANBU

The op has said her daughter has a queen sized bed! I’d see her point if they were both having to sleep on the couch instead of the daughters actual bed

YABU that should have said.

Also sleeping on the couch won’t help a sore back, she should have been in her own bed anyway.

She has a queen sized bed? In that case I'd expect you to go in with her

I've come into her room and am in her bed instead.

That is the most logical thing to do.