To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

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To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

I'm in Ireland. Art for first baby. A watch for the second. It was a thing for my husband more than me.

@MistyFrequencies

I'm in Ireland. Art for first baby. A watch for the second. It was a thing for my husband more than me.

That's not normal in Ireland, that's just you.

I don't think it's a thing

I'm in Scotland and they are not a thing among my friends, I think they are tacky. Surely the baby is the thing to be excited about, not a new watch or whatever?

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

I'm also in Ireland and have never heard of it here.

I remember my dad buying my mum a gold watch after the birth of my brother 37 years ago. I know of many women whose husbands bought them Eternity rings.

Never heard of it

I think it's probably normal for a husband to gift his wife a present after she has birthed their child but I think the actual term "push present" is American.

My husband bought me a rocking chair and foot rest for #1 but I've made if clear I'd prefer jewelry for #2 🤣

My husband got me a box of chocolates but that's more because I couldn't really move out of bed

I jokily asked for a push present and my husband informed me that the baby is the present

I had mine by emcs so presumably didn't qualify. I did push for 4hrs but failed at the final hurdle so the only prize I got was a baby. And a packet of caramel chocolate digestives.

The term is horrible, but it's been pretty normal to give an eternity ring on the occasion of the birth of the first child.

People didn't seem to feel the need to band on about it, or give it a wanky name until recently

I'm in Ireland. Art for first baby.
I didnt know that was a thing, but that's exactly what he got for my mum when I was born. She was doing a clear out and gave it to me a couple of weeks ago.

I think the term is American but it has been a 'thing' for many cultures worldwide. I'd certainly expect one. Yes it's commercialised and all that but so be it.

Northern Irish and never heard of it/seen it.

The best "push present" I can think of would be a present, enthusiastic, committed, considerate co parent who pulls their weight through the early months craziness of new babies.

Oh I didn't mean everyone in Ireland gets Art for first baby or that it's some Irish rule but when I re-read my post it does sound like that. .. it's literally just what I got. I think it's more common to get a ring actually.

I got an eternity ring on a anniversary

Rather uuugh phrase too.

Do we really have to be overtaken by American phrases here - "excited for" everywhere is bad enough.

Fuck that. I just wanted wine, chocolates and a breakfast in bed for the next year or two.

The term push present is gross.

I got an eternity ring the Christmas after DD1 was born. We usually just do token gifts. Bought out of joint funds (everything is joint here) and caused no financial hardship. I know it's the done thing on here to sneer at them, but I don't think a special present to mark my contribution to the family (pregnancy, EMCS, breastfeeding, maternity leave etc etc etc) is so strange.

WTF is a push present?

It’s a horrible phrase but I think lots of husbands/partners get their wives presents of some kind after the birth of a child.

DH unexpectedly gave me an eternity ring just after the birth of DD1. I got eff all after giving birth to all of the others.

My husband brought me grapes and The Guardian; he ate the grapes while I read The Guardian.