To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

[Yummymummy2020]

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

@Strokethefurrywall

Why does everyone automatically assume that if a husband gives a gift then he’s going to duck out of all parenting duties? And frankly, viewing a gift after the birth of a baby as demeaning and patriarchal is churlish and immature. Why shouldn’t a woman receive a token gift (whatever it may be!) for turning her bod inside out? We give gifts for birthdays for Christ’s sake, that’s even less of an achievement! If a partner wants to acknowledge the effort, pain, trauma and whatever else a woman goes through becoming a mother then bring it on! From flowers, takeaway, champagne, diamonds whatever else, why would you turn your nose up? The only ridiculous thing is giving it a label…

Well said.

I don’t have anything against a push present but I would feel a bit embarrassed telling people if I received one 😂 ! I don’t know why.

I feel honoured to have experienced pregnancy and labour , something my husband will never experience. I mean , it sucked lol but I’m still honoured !

I think the term is crass but the sentiment is not. And it's clear that most of the posters who are horrified or looking down on the idea of a gift from new dad to new mum is that they're just a tad salty...

My husband bought me lovely new pjs & dressing gown for my hospital bag before the birth, and a Kindle for our firstborn, so I could catch up on my reading during all the hours spent breastfeeding. And every single morning he would bring me tea & toast in bed before heading to work, for the first 3 months at least, which was amazing after a traumatic emergency csection!

With baby no.2 he bought me a new phone as he knew I wanted better camera quality for photos of the kids, and for no.3 he arranged a surprise dinner with all my closest friends, cleaned & cooked prepared everything as he knew I was feeling a bit sad and lonely knee deep in babies & toddlers, he took the kids and left us to enjoy the day

@coinkidinks

I think the term is crass but the sentiment is not. And it's clear that most of the posters who are horrified or looking down on the idea of a gift from new dad to new mum is that they're just a tad salty...

My husband bought me lovely new pjs & dressing gown for my hospital bag before the birth, and a Kindle for our firstborn, so I could catch up on my reading during all the hours spent breastfeeding. And every single morning he would bring me tea & toast in bed before heading to work, for the first 3 months at least, which was amazing after a traumatic emergency csection!

With baby no.2 he bought me a new phone as he knew I wanted better camera quality for photos of the kids, and for no.3 he arranged a surprise dinner with all my closest friends, cleaned & cooked prepared everything as he knew I was feeling a bit sad and lonely knee deep in babies & toddlers, he took the kids and left us to enjoy the day

Salty - as in bitter and upset? No, I’m neither, I just don’t like the idea of a ‘push’ present as a ‘well done, woman, for producing a baby’. Buying each other presents is absolutely fine, of course it is - just no need for the twee label imo. It’s up there with - date night/play date/baby shower/etc.

@coinkidinks yes !! I agree . It’s the term I hate but not the sentiment . I love gifts 😊