To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

[Yummymummy2020]

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

I find all the American "traditions" around pregnancy and birth pretty weird and a bit fetishistic to be honest. That includes "push presents" (grim), baby showers and gender reveal parties. None of them have any real basis over here in the UK, but as the latter two are catching on then no doubt the former will as well.

Never heard of it. But I’m old and didn’t have a partner when I gave birth

What on earth is a push present?

Is this something else Hallmark have invented to make the gullible buy cards and tat?

I don't like the name for it but it is a lovely thing to do.

I thought an eternity ring was traditional after the birth of your first child. I got one.

It was never known as a push present, but I got an eternity ring as is traditional.

I agree Push Present is a nasty term, but buying a gift for the mother of your child is lovely.

@MistyFrequencies

I'm in Ireland. Art for first baby. A watch for the second. It was a thing for my husband more than me.

Yet where I'm from in Ireland it is considered bad luck to receive a watch as a present from your significant other.

My push present was erm my baby!

My first boyfriend's brother gave jewellery to his wife after each child. Straightforwardly working class west country family. Seemed to be expected.

I got a goose. Not joking. I loved her!

@TooBigForMyBoots

I agree Push Present is a nasty term, but buying a gift for the mother of your child is lovely.

Thank you for putting it much more succinctly than me

My granddad bought my grandma a string of real pearls after she had their first baby. I think it's an excellent idea, the more so because I inherited the pearls.

I think the term 'push present' is appalling, though.

Push present? So do you not get one if you had a CS?

Prince Phillip gave roses and champagne to Princess Elizabeth when Charles was born. It’s hardly a new thing or even worse on MN an imported American thing

I've had a present with all 4 of my mine though I think it's get more popular the last 10 years.

@Polmuggle

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

Yup. Also in Ireland, but had DS in the UK and have lived in lots of countries with friends and acquaintances having babies without ‘push presents’. Archaic misogyny, fortunately not widespread.

@Polmuggle

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

Or, y'know, it's a gesture of gratitude and recognition of what the woman has done. There doesn't need to be any misogyny involved.

Wow, I only got a Chinese takeaway for dinner when we got home that night, which to be fair was lovely at the time. Oh and a baby of course! I've heard of push presents in America, but not seen it done here.

The phrase 'push present' might just be the worst phrase ever 🤢

I got a watch from my husband each time, although once because my watch broke in hospital. The funny thing is he would have been quite snobby appalled to have it referred to as a push present.

Agree, never heard of push present in my decades of birthing but did get a domino's in bed!

@Polmuggle

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

It’s hideous.

It's a horrible turn of phrase. It's a horrible concept. Tacky as hell.

@Polmuggle

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

This.

It's really tacky and smacks of misogyny.