To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

[Yummymummy2020]

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

My husband ordered me mam soothing breast pad thingies. Legend

He also brought me lunch in bed every day the first week.

God knows what I'd have done with jewellery. If you couldn't eat it I was interested in it when bf.

Those people saying it's just for social media/ to show off, i think that's a pretty mean assumption.
Of course it may be for some people but it wasn't for me. I don't have Facebook or Instagram. Apart from mumsnet now, nobody knows my husband got me art after my first baby. It hangs on our wall but no one ever asks why we bought it.
It was a nice gift, he was in awe of what

Posted too early. But the overall point was made I think.

I don’t think it’s in (insert country) thing - it’s a thing for the gram. Anything to boast, show off, and get a few more likes! Pretty pathetic.

And yet people have talked about their mothers and GMs getting a gift....long before the advent of social media. I got a present pre- insta, i didnt ask for, or expect it and my DH has no social media so he wasnt influenced by anyone.

@bridgetreilly

It’s an influencer thing.

It's really not since a gift after a birth has been around a lot longer than the ridiculousness that is influencers. Some who are barely old enough to influence their own minds.

I didn't push as my DC are adopted but DH did buy me a beautiful little Tiffany heart pendant with a tiny diamond on it for my first ever Mother's Day after my DS arrived. I'd suffered a miscarriage on Mother's Day three years before and he wanted to mark the day with a special gift.

It's not a thing where I live but my dad gave my mum a pearl necklace after I was born. I later inherited it and wore it at my wedding. It is much cherished.

@Antsinyourpanta of course getting a gift has been around for centuries. The term “push present” has not - it was started on social media but all the hey hunzzzz

I'm in the north and it's pretty commonplace to receive a push present and I think it's a lovely thing to do. It marks the end of the pregnancy and it's a thank you from the partner for their lovely new baby and everything the woman has been through to get them there. The second time, I had an elective c section and my husband got me AirPods to take in to hospital with me.

I've only ever heard the term push present in mumsnet as this type of thread comes round periodically.

I was given an eternity ring after my DD was born, nothing after DS.

We chose the ring together and DD was with us. She's my only DD and I hope she'd like to have the ring for herself one day.

I don't think something being a thing with your friends makes it a thing here.

My husband bought me a Costa coffee and a balloon…

All this stuff is so demeaning, “Well done, little girl, you made a baby, here’s a trinket.”

Listen to the Parcast Conspiracy Theory Podcast about De beers and the push for diamond engagement rings. This is just another marketing thing, we are being manipulated. It’s like baby showers, just sells more baby stuff.
It’s not really happening if I can’t buy something to prove it.

Never knew it had a name but I know that my brother (not in the UK) gave his wife a gift to represent the birth of each of their three children over 30 years ago.

Never heard of a push present but each of our children were marked with a beautiful piece of jewellery which will be given to each of them to pass on.

I never realised some thought presents were due for pushing a baby out. What century is this.

@Mybalconyiscracking

My husband bought me a Costa coffee and a balloon…

All this stuff is so demeaning, “Well done, little girl, you made a baby, here’s a trinket.”

Listen to the Parcast Conspiracy Theory Podcast about De beers and the push for diamond engagement rings. This is just another marketing thing, we are being manipulated. It’s like baby showers, just sells more baby stuff.
It’s not really happening if I can’t buy something to prove it.

Certainly seems like that. Pat on the head, here's your gift.

The best "presents" are gestures that dont cost any extra. We don't need more stuff, but social media etc is there to encourage us all to piss money up the wall buying more.

Give me the husband that does all the cooking/cleaning for weeks while you recover.
The one that takes the baby out in the pram to get them sleeping while you rest.
The one that helps at night.
The one who brings you a cup of tea in the morning.
The one who paints baby's hand for a handprint card on mothers day.

Time & thought are worth so much.

The one who paints baby's hand for a handprint card on mothers day.

Assuming he doesn't do what DH did for DD1's first Hallowe'en and painted her face with food colouring because we didn't have facepaints. He was thinking 'it's non-toxic' but he then discovered it didn't wash off so we had a green faced baby for several days.

Deepabeeskit it's not one or the other. My husband does all of that. And I got a gift to mark my babies birth. Gifts that will be passed on to them eventually. People making that a bad thing is so odd to me.

@JaninaDuszejko that’s a brilliant story😂😂😂 I can see why he used that logic, shame it wouldn’t come off for days! 😂😂😂

I don't think it's a thing either, sounds very cringey to be honest, is there nothing people won't use as an excuse to buy/receive presents now?! 🙈
I would neither expect nor want a "push present".

To be fair, I would welcome a tummy tuck as a push present!!

@Youdoyoutoday me too😂😂😂

Why does everyone automatically assume that if a husband gives a gift then he’s going to duck out of all parenting duties?
And frankly, viewing a gift after the birth of a baby as demeaning and patriarchal is churlish and immature.
Why shouldn’t a woman receive a token gift (whatever it may be!) for turning her bod inside out? We give gifts for birthdays for Christ’s sake, that’s even less of an achievement!
If a partner wants to acknowledge the effort, pain, trauma and whatever else a woman goes through becoming a mother then bring it on!
From flowers, takeaway, champagne, diamonds whatever else, why would you turn your nose up?
The only ridiculous thing is giving it a label…

Never heard of it