To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

[Yummymummy2020]

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

There is no need to call it a “push present” though . Obviously, you can buy your wife a gift any time and for any reason you want - there is no law against it!

I had 4 DC and received an item from Boodles each time . Two of these I wear everyday even now and I love them all.

People buy gifts for all sorts of occasions - anniversaries, graduations, get well soon, thank-you, sorry your leaving, religious festivals and birthdays. This is a birthday when you think about it. But regardless, if it makes people happy, I can’t see the problem or how it’s ‘cringe.’ Blimey.

My husband got me a gel pad from Mothercare that you froze and put in your knickers. After a 32 hour labour, episiotomy and ventouse, it was the only present that would have been acceptable.

He's definitely a keeper!

When I was a child I used to think that it was called a Maternity ring

Got a pair of diamond earrings after the birth of our second child, was my DH's idea, meant to signify my two children as two diamonds. It was a lovely gesture, nice gift, I wear the earrings very often. It didn't occur to me that it could be a misogyny in any way, and neither was it referee to as a 'push present' (hideous term imo).

I have never heard of a ‘push present’. Although, DH did buy me jewellery after the births of each of our two sons.

@CurlyhairedAssassin

My husband got me a gel pad from Mothercare that you froze and put in your knickers. After a 32 hour labour, episiotomy and ventouse, it was the only present that would have been acceptable.

My husband is of the same ilk. He hand crafted stacked some old tiles a catheter rest at just the right height so I could stand in the shower without it pulling on me. Best and most thoughtful present.

It's not a thing but has become a thing thanks to social media. My dh gave me present before or just after giving birth, he didn't call it push present, he's not on social media so wouldn't even be aware it's a thing, he just bought me something because he felt it's the least he could do after I've been carrying and then birthing baby

DS's father bought me a McChicken sandwich and fries on the way home from the hospital after I gave birth and was discharged 3 hours later, does that count 😂

I’d never heard the term and don’t remember getting a specific present (although we were young and skint so maybe that’s why 😂). I think the idea is quite sweet, even if the name is quite tacky!

It’s an influencer thing.

I sent mine out for a latte, does that count? I’d been in hospital on bed rest for the preceding 8 weeks, I wanted a decent coffee far more than I wanted a diamond ring at that point.

It’s an influencer thing.

Is that the new snobbery "It's an American thing"?

...he just bought me something because he felt it's the least he could do after I've been carrying and then birthing baby

I think that's the sentiment for most parents @skyisblue21. Not showing off on SM.

I got a partner who went out of his way to do 50/50 on the childcare and life front, alongside his very busy job, making it possible for me to do the same.

I just find it really weird. Why create unnecessary pressure? My partner bought me so and so because he loves me this much and all that crap!

My colleague was desperate for a Pandora bracelet when her son was born. And very happy when she saw the Pandora box. The husband had bought her the stud earrings instead. I don't think it went down well!
My dad gave my mum a ring with tiny diamond in a V shape when I was born. My name begins with V

It's a tacky commercialisation of yet another special occasion. Gross.

It is an American thing, basically it’s a present given to the mother by partner or family for having a baby.

South east England here- my group of friends (real girly girls) all asked for eternity rings as their "push presents" (all had babies aged 30 and we were all married at the same time too.

Because my friends were doing it- my husband and I joked and he bought me a bottle of very expensive champers - with a brown postage label hanging off saying "thanks for the baby" 😃

Second babies, all coming this year- the push presents they had were new shoes! Again, I am the last to have my second (and third as it's twins) so joked with my husband and we will be getting another bottle of champers to share 😃 - probably some fish and chips too!

It is a thing, I have seen it on social media a fair amount.

@Yummymummy2020

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

I thought it was a UK thing never heard of it before

@Pixxie7

It is an American thing, basically it’s a present given to the mother by partner or family for having a baby.

Grown up in US and literally never heard of this though. Is it really American?

Not a great term but it's pathetic how some folk manage to turn a kind gift into something it's not. I despair!

@AuntieStella

The term is horrible, but it's been pretty normal to give an eternity ring on the occasion of the birth of the first child.

People didn't seem to feel the need to band on about it, or give it a wanky name until recently

This is what I was brought up with. Engagement ring when you get engages, wedding ring at the wedding and eternity after first baby.

I don’t think it’s in (insert country) thing - it’s a thing for the gram. Anything to boast, show off, and get a few more likes! Pretty pathetic.

Its NOT a thing