To have been unaware push presents are a thing here

[Yummymummy2020]

To be clear, I have never expected nor overly wanted one, but currently group of friends are in a baby boom and all six got push presents after the baby was born from their husbands and said it was the done thing, I’m just wondering aibu to think this is just an American thing or am I the one that isn’t up to speed on current trends(if so I’ll be requesting mine be backdated😂)

DH bought me an eternity ring when we found out I was having DS. We weren't married (but were engaged). I didn't get anything after he was born though, it didn't occur to either of us.

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

Only on MN could a present be a seriously gross expression of misogyny.🙄 It was more likely a gift that the wife could leave to her child or sell if something happened to her husband.

I bought myself a new car. 😌

I'm American and I've NEVER heard of a woman having a "push present".

It could be a generational thing though.

Baby Showers we're about it when I was younger (I was born in 1970) but it was the millennials with "gender reveals". Maybe people in the past did give gifts but the name itself, maybe new.

I dunno 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yuck. (Both the practice and especially the name.)

You know what would be a good present? A lie in

The term is gross but my grandmother got a nice piece of jewellery after each of her children. She was vair posh. But wouldn’t have called it that.

I got nothing for the first baby.
For the second he stopped on our way home after being discharged and bought a bunch of flowers in the supermarket.
He also had lit the stove so the house was warm for me and baby. Then he went back to work.

Did is 19 and Dh bought me a gift in after she was born.

It certainly wasn't expected or known as a push present.

After a long time of failed FTC, then finally a pregnancy and then a long drawn out failed induction and c section before his little girl arrived he was just a bit overwhelmed and over excited I think.

He bought me a beautiful gold bangle (which I still have and wear often) and Dd a lovely full outfit - probably somewhat impractical and not really every day wear. But he was just excited and wanted to show me how happy he was.

It was a lovely gesture and most certainly not something either of us planned or expected.

I got an eternity ring for DD and a replacement engagement ring for DS. Weren't called push presents at the time and DS was delivered by EMCS anyway. Was DH's idea, not mine.

I joked with my DP about this before DS was born, he was adamant it was not a thing, but then its suited him to say that!

Never heard of it.

It seems a bit illogical to me, to spend on an unnecessary gift whilst preparing to cope on SMP.

I got told the baby was my present. To be fair parenthood was my idea and he wasn't keen at first. I did get champagne, chocolates and flowers, the house cleaned from top to bottom while I was in hospital for a couple of nights. I was the main earner so not an ideal time for jewellery with watching the budget while on mat leave.

They’re not a thing.

An eternity ring is the British traditional gift on birth of first born. I've only come across push presents from watching the Yummy Mummies series on Netflix which is Australian.

Going shopping for my present tomorrow! I didn’t push so we’ve called it a birth present instead!

Don’t care if anyone claims it’s misogynistic, I mean everything on MN is anyway.

I really hate the term ‘push present’ but I think it’s nice for partners to get new mums something thoughtful in recognition of the event. I got a good necklace with all of our initials on it and I wear it almost every day.

I didn’t get any after birth presents except a takeaway… I did get a homeschool teachers gift of a lush ring though, happy with that 🤪

I would never expect one and I’d hate the thought of my partner thinking he must hit something when money is so tight for us right now. Push presents are up there with baby showers for me, it’s a no.

How nouveau-riche!

I've no idea how this is a thing.

When I had my dc we were budgeting to afford maternity leave and childcare, I can't imagine how a gift.for an adult woukd be a priority.

I’m American and nobody I know has ever had a ‘push present’. Perhaps something that’s made to seem bigger than it is on television. Sorry if that doesn’t fit the ‘where does all this American rubbish end!’ rhetoric.

All I asked my DP for after having my DD was a big ass bottle of champagne. He bought me one as well

@Polmuggle

It's an archaic and misogynistic practice, based on the premise that the woman has done her duty by serving her husband with an heir.

Seriously gross.

Or in an alternative universe it’s a man buying a nice gift for his partner to say thanks for putting up with the dredge that is 9 months of pregnancy and I think you’re amazing for what you’ve been through?

The father buying the mother a gift is not a new thing. Calling it a push present is a recently imported Americanism.

@MistyFrequencies

I'm in Ireland. Art for first baby. A watch for the second. It was a thing for my husband more than me.

I've heard of this. It's v middle class though. Some of my cousins received presents along these lines, but I never married, never mind to a decent generous respectful middle class man inclined to follow social rules!