To think 2 hours is long enough for drinks with friends?

[Finallybroody]

I am out tonight with 2-3 friends for a couple of drinks. Meeting at 7:30. One of us isn’t drinking at all and I’m not a big drinker either. It’ll be lovely to have a chat and a catch up with a couple of gins but I am absolutely shattered after a long week at work - AIBU to leave at around 9:30? I always feel guilty leaving after such a short amount of time especially if I am first to leave but I am craving my bed I’m only 34!

It wouldn't be for me, but you do you

No. Not unreasonable. Just mention it when you arrive. I find that helps stop the requests of ''stay for one more, come on'' rather than when I just suddenly say I'm heading home.

Why do you need anyone's permission to leave, just do what you like

I don't drink but I'd have only just got warmed up at 9.30

Wouldn't be long enough for me. Why not leave at 10 looks a little better.

I don't think you really like these people if you'd rather go home to bed at 9:30.

There are occasions when I want to leave after a couple of hours, but not catching up with friends I'm looking forward to seeing.

Blimey, when I was your age I’d be just going out at that time! However, if you are that tired then just say so and leave when you want to.

I think don't limit yourself. You might find that you're having a great time once you're there. It sounds as though you're expecting to clock-watch the entire evening and just be waiting for an 'acceptable' time to leave. I sometimes dread evenings out I've pre-planned as I'm tired from the week and just can't be arsed, etc, but have a great time when I'm there. Enjoy!

I find time goes really quickly when having drinks with friends. Two hours isn't long enough for me

On a Friday night with no work the next day, it'd be too early for me. Would you really be going to bed so early?

Saturday night even!

You're not even there yet and you're already planning your exit?

If you're planning when to leave before you've even got there, maybe you should just stay in?

Do you need to fix the time in advance? I would just leave when I was tired, whether that was 9.30, 11 or 2am

YABU

If you want to go home by then, go home. It'd be too early for me, though. Especially on the weekend.

Why don't you just see how you feel at the time? Radical idea, I know.

If you are decent friends with these people maybe you will find you want to spend more than 2 hours with them. Likewise they will understand if you want to bail early if you are tired.

It does sound like you just don't want to go tbh.

I don't think you really like these people if you'd rather go home to bed at 9:30.

Nonsense. I'm going out with friends in a couple of weeks and I'll be going home at 10. I have a 4yo and breastfed 7mo at home. It's hard to even get out for a couple of hours but because I like my friends Im making an effort.
Op said she's had a hard week at work, it would be easier for her to cancel but im assuming she's not as she does like her friends.

Bit weird to fix a time to leave when you haven’t even got there. Don’t clock watch, just enjoy your evening with friends and head home when you’re tired and/or things naturally wrap up. 2 hours isn’t very long though. If I actually like the group then I tend to find 2 hours fly by!

Do you have to decide now? You might get there and have such a good time you don't want to leave!

I find people like you so annoying.

You haven’t even gone out yet and you are already planning to go home.

I wouldn't bother going if I were you, very depressing to see someone going home to bed when the Saturday night is just starting. Meet them for a coffee some morning instead.

I‘m 100% same as you! I love sleep! I‘m 34 too. A quiet life is all i‘m after nowadays 😇

@Ohanaa why does it annoy you?

Why not just see how you feel when you're there rather than setting a time and clock-watching?