To think 2 hours is long enough for drinks with friends?

[Finallybroody]

I am out tonight with 2-3 friends for a couple of drinks. Meeting at 7:30. One of us isn’t drinking at all and I’m not a big drinker either. It’ll be lovely to have a chat and a catch up with a couple of gins but I am absolutely shattered after a long week at work - AIBU to leave at around 9:30? I always feel guilty leaving after such a short amount of time especially if I am first to leave but I am craving my bed I’m only 34!

2 hours would be super for me too @Finallybroody ... nothing wrong with giving yourself a schedule for heading home.. leaving room for manoeuvre .. 🎉

Why are you planning your leaving time before you’ve even arrived?
If you’re having a good time, stay on longer. If you’re not, go home 🤷🏻‍♀️. 2 hours wouldn’t be enough for me, but I love catching up with friends and don’t get to do it often enough due to childcare.

@shouldistop why bother coming out if you are already planning to go home and the time.

Such a Debbie downer on the night.

I’m twice your age, OP, and nothing would induce me to leave so early. Going out for a few drinks with friends has been off the table for so long it’s time to make the most of it now.

FGS not another name put down. what is it with some people.? op wants to go home early her choice, she wants to have soft drinks her choice.
others can do what they want, bif you might find you will stay on regadless op. Have a great time !

Definitely not long enough but I do drink and I'm a night owl. I'd happily stay out until the early hours.

I had lunch with friends today. Ages 30-50. 2 hours was plenty long enough.

@Notimeforaname

No. Not unreasonable. Just mention it when you arrive. I find that helps stop the requests of ''stay for one more, come on'' rather than when I just suddenly say I'm heading home.

I agree with that.

You might find you perk up a bit when you are there but if not, two hours is enough.

@PurBal

I had lunch with friends today. Ages 30-50. 2 hours was plenty long enough.

That's lunch though. Going out for lunch has different expectations than going out for drinks.

I’ve got a 4 year old. I’m a single parent. I work full time. If I even GET out it’s a bloody miracle. But you best believe, I don’t care what time we go out, I’m not staying out past 10, unless DS is staying at grandmas

YANBU! Do what you like, if you are tired your friends will understand.

Leave when you're no longer enjoying yourself because you're too tired. Don't put a time limit on yourself, you may find that you'd rather stay.

I would think that’s fine. I would just say beforehand that you will have to leave around 9.30pm.

I’m around your age, with a 1 year old that’s literally only started sleeping a bit in the last few weeks. With a years sleep to catch up on I’m shattered by 10pm ( Ds still waking early).

If they're friends they'll say they're sorry you're feeling tired, but it was nice to see you for a bit anyway, and that they hope you have a good rest tonight.

If you think they're not likely to say that, don't go.

@TheFoundations

If they're friends they'll say they're sorry you're feeling tired, but it was nice to see you for a bit anyway, and that they hope you have a good rest tonight.

If you think they're not likely to say that, don't go.

Totally agree - be truthful. You need your sleep whatever age you are!

I think it depends on the people you're meeting. Recently I went for drinks with a mate I had got back in touch with after ten years. It was fun but after about 3 hours I just wanted to get into bed with my husband. I've got young kids though and knew they would want me if they woke otherwise I might have stayed longer.

Depends. When I have catch up we need a good 4 hours at least so we tend to head out early and go home early

Leave when you are ready to leave but if I was going for a catch up with friends I would be looking at about 4hrs as a base line.

How does OP not like her friends because she wants to leave by 9:30 🤣🤣.

It sounds fine. You know when you're ready to go.

Is say it’s ok if it’s a meal etc and if the others know upfront it’s an early night. Otherwise they might be expecting a night out and be disappointed.

My comments is because it’s such a small group of 3 or 4. In a bigger group it’s less important if you leave.

2 or maybe 3 hours is generally plenty for me. 9:30 or 10 is plenty late to be out. I have never understood the draw of fighting exhaustion.

Just see how it goes. Know you can leave whenever you want but there's no need to impose an arbitrary curfew.

I'm an all or nothing type, when I'm out I'm OUT. Mostly these days I prefer to stay home completely though.

I'm someone who has to be in bed by 9 so for me I would understand. No matter what I'm doing by 9pm I want to faint because I'm so tired but then I also have 2 toddlers soooo 😂

Too early for me. 10 is acceptable.