To have said no to this boy taking DD to the park?

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About a month ago, DD (almost 3) made friends with a girl at the park, she's about the same age, she was at the Park with her uncle (about 15/16). Since then, whenever DD sees the boy she says hello to him or waves. Yesterday, I was with DD and we saw the boy and the little girl, DD said hello to both of them and then the boy told me he was taking her to the park and asked if DD wanted to go with them, I said no but cue a massive tantrum from DD.

I told my DH and he said I should've let her go as i would know where she was and that I'm being overprotective by saying no, but i don't even know the boy, I only know his name and his age!

Aibu?

YANBU. 2 three years olds who don’t know each other well and are likely to be over excited is a lot to handle especially for a 15-16 year old.

And I wouldn’t let my 3 year old go with anyone I didn’t know.
You are not overprotective at all

I wouldn’t have let her go either. You don’t know him at all, never mind enough to let her go with him.

You are definitely not being unreasonable!
Of course only trusted people should be looking after your 3yr old in the park, especially at this kind of age where they are prone to running off. You barely know this person!

I'm usually pretty relaxed about these things, but i agree with you. As you said, you know nothing about him at all, so you can't send her off with a virtual stranger.

Yanbu. No way would I have let her go.

YADNBU

Your options as I see it were either to go with them or say no. Can you imagine phoning the police and saying your three year old was missing after you let them wander off with a teenager you don't know!

It’s not just the boys age, it’s that you don’t know him.
A 15 year old well known family friend taking 2 3 year olds to the park would be risky enough if they took off in opposite directions but you would be mad to let your DD go off with someone you don’t know, whatever their age and sex

Over my dead body would my three year old have been going anywhere with a 15 year old boy I knew nothing about except his first name. Even without the really unlikely but sinister outcomes, what happens if she wanders off? Needs the toilet? You go to get her and she’s not there? He lets her do something dangerous?

Absolutely no way.

Fuck no.

Why the fuck is DH ok with the idea of your DD being out of sight with a stranger?!? The actual fuck!

It was very sweet of him to offer but no, I wouldn’t have let mine go either.

Hell no! That is classic abuser behaviour, befriend someone with a young child via their own relation, gain trust and then move in for their sick pleasure.

Given that children are more likely to be abused by family or people known to them you'd actually be less irresponsible to let your daughter wander off to the park on her own than let her go with this potential predator.

Definitely not unreasonable. You've only bumped into this person at the park so you don't know them at all. Is your DH being all affronted because he thinks it's about them being male rather than because they are essentially a stranger?

YANBU. Not a chance I'd let my 2 year old go off with someone unless I fully knew and trusted them.

Wouldn't be letting her go anywhere with DH either if he thinks that's ok and you are being overprotective. Fuck that.

I agree with you. It was nice of the boy to offer and I hope you said that, but you can't let your very young child go anywhere with someone you don't know and a young boy shouldn't be responsible for a young child he doesn't know. What if she ran off or fell and banged her head?

Good god no, 2 three year olds are a lot for anyone to handle and you don't know him at all. Was there a reason you didn't just say you'd both go along with them for a little bit though?

Nope, and not because he's a 15 year old boy it's because he's a stranger and I wouldn't send my kid off with a stranger under any circumstances

No. I would have thanked him and told him it was a really kind of him to offer.
I wouldn’t have let my child go.
Don’t worry about a three year old tantrum.
The young lad won’t have realised that his offer would potentially cause a tantrum but that’s ok, it sounds like he was just being kind.

No I wouldn't allow this. He's probably a really sweet boy trying to be nice but you don't know him and you don't know how well or not he'd be able to look after your dc

Not a chance in hell. I have serious doubts about your husband's judgment.

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Nope, and not because he's a 15 year old boy it's because he's a stranger and I wouldn't send my kid off with a stranger under any circumstances

This too! I babysat for four children aged between 0 and 6 when I was 14/15. It was a doctor and his wife and they seemed happy for clueless me to look after their brood! It’s because you don’t know him.

I think it's natural he asked but even though I'm relaxed I'd probably say no as she is so young.

If you wanted to be open minded you could get to know the boy and say if you knew him a bit better then yes in future. Surely it's nice to get to know local families

No way would mine ever have been allowed to go anywhere with a teenager (or anyone really) that I didn't know.

Your DH is an arse for even suggesting that he might be OK with this and it would cause me to question how much he could be trusted to look after DD on his own.

I'm pretty relaxed with stuff and it was almost certainly nothing more than a kind offer but no fucking way