To ask MIL to remove FB post?

[Gecko16]

The other day I sent two photos of our baby in a private message to my partner, which he then forwarded to his mum. A few days later she posted them on Facebook. To be fair, he said that she did ask him first, however he said yes without checking with me. I myself haven’t posted any photos of our baby on social media yet, and didn’t feel happy about these particular photos being shared. They’re not photos I would choose to share myself and were really just meant for my partner. No big reason, they were just of silly moments with my daughter that I thought my partner would appreciate. AIBU to ask for the post to be deleted?

Its awkward but I would have a conversation with her and say that you don't want the pictures posted and your husband was wrong to say yes.
Better still, get him to have the conversation.

I had this conversation several times over the years as we had a strictly "no kids photos on social media" policy. It's a privacy issue and not for us to decide what pictures our kids post out to the world.

I've asked a relative to take down a pic of DS. Thinking back, I don't think I was even very polite about it. Oops.
I've also had two sets of parents (within my family) tell me not to post pics of their DC. No problem. Over the years, one set posts pics all the time on various SM sites, the other set have decided it's OK if their DC is in a group shot. Not sure what difference it makes but it's their choice.
Ask your MIL to take the pics down but offer to take some pics of her with your DD that she can post and share with her friends.

I don’t think it would be unreasonable to ask at all. You’re obviously not upset thinking that she has done something wrong and I think she should understand if you just explain to her that you would prefer not to have those photos on social media. She shouldn’t be offended since you are only going to ask her nicely. If you explain it I don’t see that the problem is at all :-)

Your Dh did say she could. Maybe you could just say you don’t want those pics on show but compromise and give her another couple that you’re happy with , that she can post?

Just a teeny but confused about why it's not ok to share a photo you took. These days absolutely any pictures can be shared with or without permission, often without anyone knowing so anything you take has the potential to be shared.

Now if it's just that you don't want any photos of your daughter on social media at all not even your own pages then you need to be clear about that with everyone asap because people are proud and want to share her with the world and will unless you say no.

If it's just those particular photos and you would be fine with different ones... Why is that? Because if they aren't ones you would show then are they ones you should take? I'm not talking about anything rude, just that in a world where your photos can be stolen or shared anywhere if you have worries then you need to think about it.

Unless your face is in them too, asking them to be taken down is strange as mil asked and got told yes. You do have the right to have photos with you in removed.

If dad is happy to share why aren't you? (not necessarily wanting answers here - more for you to think about) speak to your other half about it, tell him honestly what's making you feel this way and how to go about this in the future.

He obviously loved the pics because he shared them.

Hard as he said yes but maybe have a chat about what you do/don't want sharing
My friend will only put pics on FB of her children from the back or will blur their faces and I've noticed her mum does the same, nobody shares any images of them where their faces aren't covered

@panamapattie you are 100% right about the attention seeking.
My whole pregnancy my own mother did not check on me or help with anything. She argued with me about names, godparents and who will be involved in my babies life. All huge stress on me while pregnant.
At my 20 weeks scan they found an issue and asked me to come back a week later to see a consultant. At this point i hadn't even heard from my mam who lives a 2 min drive away for over 7 weeks. The night before i met the consultant my mam announced my pregnancy on her FB, when i had told her not too!! My partner didnt post it on his and i dont have social media.
The next day i got bad news (all good now and my little man is fine). I spent 2 days telling my mam to take the post down even though it was too late and everybody seen it, she had over 200 likes and over 150 comments but i still insisted she take it down. My son is 3 months old now and i have banned her from ever posting anything about him on social media

I dont get why people say its not a problem-you have no idea of her settings if photos are public or private its exactly how paedos find pictures when peoples accounts arent secure

YANBU to be upset and to ask her to remove them, but she didn't do anything wrong as she did get permission from your partner. I'm sure she will if you explain things to her