Who's being U, me or DP

[MaryB90]

DP goes to the gym every day for over two hours plus sun bed after, different times every day but usually sometime in the morning.
We have a workman putting a new floor down in the kitchen and lounge as we speak, DP knew my plans for today, I was going to meet a friend who lives an hour away and was going to leave at 10:30am.
He's just announced that he's going to the gym, he told me to lock our dog in the bedroom and leave the workman home alone.
I'm not comfortable doing that, so told him I'll cancel my plans or leave later if my friend is OK with that.
He just got angry with me!

He's gone to the gym and left me annoyed. It could just be my pregnancy hormones.
So who is BU here, me or DP?
Please don't hold back, talk sense into me.

2 hours a day plus sunbirds?? Oh god.

Sun beds not sunbirds!!!

WTF does he do for a living that he hangs round hte gym so much? I wouldn't have cancelled my plans so he could do that.

He is unreasonable using a sunbed. Hasn’t he heard of skin cancer?
< misses point entirely>

Have I time-travelled to 1984? Do sunbeds still exist?

He’s definitely being unreasonable!

2 hours a day plus sun bed?

The actual problem is you’re having a child with a stupid person.

He's a twat. Is it your first baby? Be careful as it sounds like you'll be doing 90% of childcare and housework.

What job does he have where he can swan off for 2+ hours daily and do you genuinely believe this will end when you have the baby.

You've got much bigger problems on the horizon than him wanting to leave builders alone.

Gym and sun beds. 🤮

He knew about your plans. He could have easily gone to the gym at another time during the day, when the workman was gone. Why did you immediately feel the need to deflate and cancel your previously made plans?

@Anoisagusaris 😂 yes that's right, not an error in my OP 😂

@PegPeople

What job does he have where he can swan off for 2+ hours daily and do you genuinely believe this will end when you have the baby.

You've got much bigger problems on the horizon than him wanting to leave builders alone.

This.

@Navilana I can go later in the day providing my friend is okay with me being late. If she isn't then I will have no choice but to cancel

That's ridiculous. It would maybe be OK to lock the dog and leave the workman if he was rushing off to an emergency. Not to go to the bloody gym and use a sunbed. I bet he plans to continue with this when the baby's here too.

I'm just here to find out more about the sunbeds.

He sounds like a twat

Also missing the point of the thread wondering what job he does to give that amount of flexibility and also to wish you luck when the baby arrives and he’s still swanning off like a selfish man child

Yes this is our first baby and I wouldn't want him to stop going to the gym completely. I understand it's his hobby so it's fine with me but I did tell him I would like him to tonne it down for at least the first few weeks once baby is born.
Let's be real here, I'm being naive aren't I

There are lots of jobs where as long as you get your work done and manage your deadlines then the company doesn’t care how you spend your time.

What sort of dig can be left in a bedroom?
Was he going out for 2hrs.?

I would get the car keys and leave, tell him to sort it out himself as you have plans you're not changing.

@MaryB90

Yes this is our first baby and I wouldn't want him to stop going to the gym completely. I understand it's his hobby so it's fine with me but I did tell him I would like him to tonne it down for at least the first few weeks once baby is born. Let's be real here, I'm being naive aren't I

I’m afraid so. He needs to tone it down full stop not just for a few weeks.

how on earth is this going to happen when you have a baby OP. He has an obsession with the gym and sunbeds

It’s worrying that you even have to ask if you are unreasonable. Are your expectations of your partner so low that you can’t see that he is the unreasonable person in this instance?