to be annoyed at DH for this?

[AngryLittleMummy]

I am furious. Earlier on DD (2) was messing about with the remote controls (we have 3, one for tv, DVD, sky remote) anyway, he managed to turn on the dvd player and on came a bloody blue movie, I was horrified. OK I know DH watches it now and again (never when I or the kids are around thats for sure) and it doesn't really bother me BUT to leave it carelessly in the player is downright stupid. He could have at least hidden it. He gets this DVDs from his pervo mates at work.

Can you imagine if my parents or his parents were there when this happened or worse still a visitor? Could have been a health visitor checking the little one.

I am currently not speaking to him for this and threw his dvd in the bin (cracked it in half first and its not even his) ha ha.

AIBU?

Oh and porn is not the same as parents having sex. In the former scenario a woman is being paid to have her body used and exposed. In the latter there are two consenting parties who are showing their love and affection for one another.

Yes but how old were you when you were exposed to porn as a child?

What about couples who make porn? Which do you class them under? Pervs or a loving couple who just enjoy knowing other people are "getting off" to them "getting off"

And yes, seeing a two second glimpse of porn IS the same as catching your parents having sex, it is, afterall, sex at the end of the day.

Or am I missing something?

Oh and I've just noticed how much info I seem to have on porn... lol Ahh well.

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Four. Barely cogniscent. I had no idea what I was seeing but it disturbed me a lot.

What difference does that make ELF? Do you have some argument that justifies allowing a child to see porn provided they are a certain age?

Elizabetth, please don't project all your hang-ups onto every child in the world that ahs ever managed to accidentally see porn, there is a great difference tgo being exposed as a norm and accidentally seeing a bit of it.
The OP's DD was probably wondering why mummy was rushing to turn the TV off and snapping the DVD than what the people on the tv were doing!

AngryLittleMummy, please do not be worried about your daughter because of some of the silly comments made here about how it will affect her, I'm sure she will be absolutely fine.

It was out of line for her dh to leave it in the dvd player, I'm sure he's learnt his lesson about that. However ALM destroyed someone else's property out of ANGER. I cannot believe anyone is defending that.

They aren't my "hang-ups" as you so disgustingly put it VictorianSqualor, they are my experiences.

If idiots want to keep pornography in the house where their children will find it (and they will find it) they need reminding that pornography is harmful to children. Premature sexualisation is damaging.

you may feel that it is disrespectful, but that should not mean that you can be disrespectful back ! If you dont explain the rules you cannot punish when they are broken.

Well, firstly, I would imagine that ALM turned the TV off so quick that the child bearly registered what as on the television.

Secondly, there is a difference in memories of what happens at two and four - ie not many people have memories of being two, so the child in my very simple view probably will not remember.

TMMJ - How do you know that when people have walked in on their parent's their under the covers having close hugs?

How do you know mum wasn't dressed in bondage gear having a good ol nosh on her man's gear while displaying to the world where it would go afterwards? - OVER THE TOP I KNOW BUT STILL YOU GET THE PICTURE

TMMJ - by your reasoning when dh found I'd been emailing another man he should have been allowed to wreck my computer. (good job my dh is a bit more grown up than ALM)

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Yes I have, I've done it...then someone told me how appauling it is for someone to behave like that. Someone told me I control how I behave. Someone told me that regardless of how angry I am I do not have to react.

"Secondly, there is a difference in memories of what happens at two and four - ie not many people have memories of being two, so the child in my very simple view probably will not remember."

I've got memories from when I was two. Also just because someone doesn't remember something doesn't mean it didn't have an effect.

Or are we going to put our toddlers in front of "Anal Teen Sluts 43" (yes that's the kind of thing those lovely guys who definitely aren't pervs are watching) because it won't do them any harm because they won't remember it?

Themildmanneredjanitor

re your post (and I dont want a fight!) my DD walked in on me and DH a few weeks ago, I am not going to go into details of my sex life, but I guess it depends on what TYPE of pron there was in the DVD; some is very very hardcore, which yes, would be different to walking in on "mummy and daddy having a cuddle" but some is just two people having sex, nothing "hardcore" or anything different to what my DD witnessed.

maybe elf was giving a BJ, enjoying some spanking etc!! we've all caught our parents at it, and I too saw porn as a young child, not 2YO though, I can't actually remember anything from that age, I haven't been affected by it at all.

ELF sorry to use you as an example, no offence meant

I think breaking the DVD lets the guy know how seriously AngryLittleMummy takes what he did. She obviously puts her lo's wellbeing before his right to leave hardcore porn lying around the house.