to be annoyed at DH for this?

[AngryLittleMummy]

I am furious. Earlier on DD (2) was messing about with the remote controls (we have 3, one for tv, DVD, sky remote) anyway, he managed to turn on the dvd player and on came a bloody blue movie, I was horrified. OK I know DH watches it now and again (never when I or the kids are around thats for sure) and it doesn't really bother me BUT to leave it carelessly in the player is downright stupid. He could have at least hidden it. He gets this DVDs from his pervo mates at work.

Can you imagine if my parents or his parents were there when this happened or worse still a visitor? Could have been a health visitor checking the little one.

I am currently not speaking to him for this and threw his dvd in the bin (cracked it in half first and its not even his) ha ha.

AIBU?

you are not unreasonable, but i think calling your DHs mate a pervo shows you don;t like porn and you are not happy having it in the house per se.. i think a lesson has been learnt.. DH should not leave his porn in the DVD player, you shoudl check it before people come round, just in case.. your DD will have had no idea what she had seen, i imagine it was a few seconds only...

the not speaking to him is childish

talk to him and explain how you feel about this and why you are upset

YANBU

if I were you I would be most cross about his carelessness.

I can't say I like watching it myself but know DH does now and again and it doesn't bother me too much (maybe just a little bit) but imagine the embarrassment if my parents saw that they are often visiting.

well then you need to check teh DVD player before your parents visit..

YANBU about not wanting the kids to see it
but YABU about breaking the DVD and not speaking to him

yanbu for not wanting a perv for a husband.

YANBU - he should take a great deal more care.

Is it only my bloke that watches it then donnie? Judging by your comment.

I hardly think watching porn makes her dh a perv (it's not my bag, but many many people freely use it)

thats what I thought h

no, it is not just your bloke

i don;t actually have the energy for why porn does not equal pervert debate right now

YANBU in the least, What has he said about it?

YANBU - I'd be livid - cant see porn has any place in a happy marriage, and would be livid he'd left it around for kids to find - yuck

lol lulumamma

kimi he did aplologise and was very embarrassed about it, especially as the little one saw it. He knows i am not too keen on porn.

He was angry about me snapping the dvd in half though, there is a queue of men at work waiting to watch this film apparantly and its not his film - oh dear what a shame eh?

actually, ALM

you broke something that was not yours to break, so i actually think you are in the wrong.. you overreacted, and your DHs mate is out of pocket now, regardless of whether you like porn or not

Well YANBU to not want dd to see it and he shouldn't have left it in the dvd player, but breaking it is a bit OTT imo, especially as it's not his.

Yes I certainly wouldn't want to get on the wrong side of you AngryLittleM

I am with lulu

and as i said YANBU for not wanting the kids to see it

but breaking something which belongs to someone else and not speaking to you DH is childish and not solving the problem

I agree with Lulu, personally I think you should pay DH's mate for the damage to his dvd.

Oh well tough I say. His perv mates should't be distributing this kind of stuff in the first place. I am amazed at how many blokes at DHs work watch it .

Now that's going too far. Her dh can pay him

Why should her DH pay for it, she's the one that did the damage.

so , do you think your DH is a perv, or just his mates?

you are in the wrong

if a girlfriend had borrowed a pair of sexy shoes off you, or a basque, and her DH disapproved and ruined them or binned them, you;d be furious and want to be reimbursed , if someone has differing sexual tastes, it is not a reason to destroy their property