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DH golf weekend at the same time as my Covid vaccine

222 replies

Bakinggiraffe · 03/05/2021 20:43

Well, I found out today that DH booked a golf weekend for beginning of July this week. I am due to have my 2nd Covid vaccine (AZ) on that Saturday. I suffered some side effects after the first doze and am shocked that he thought it was ok to go away and leave me to look after two children (10 and 13yrs) on my own. He said that I was overreacting and suggested that I changed the date of my vaccine. He was not very happy when I suggested he changed the date of his golf trip.
What would you do in my place? Am I overreacting?

OP posts:
1Morewineplease · 03/05/2021 20:44

Yes, I think you are.

DahliaBlooms · 03/05/2021 20:45

Yes, move the vaccine forwards or back a week, it's easily done.

MegBusset · 03/05/2021 20:46

Yes, you are unless there are SN which make your DC harder to look after than most 10/13yos? Surely by that age they need minimal supervision of a weekend?

Findahouse21 · 03/05/2021 20:46

Yes, massively over resting unless there's a significant backstory. Surely the children can look after themselves if you need to spend a couple of hours in bed. I thought you were going to have triplet toddlers

PickAChew · 03/05/2021 20:46

Second dose is much easier.

Your kids, sn excepted, are old enough to cope if you're not 100%. How do you think single parents manage? Have some easy to prepare food in, just in case.

Lazypuppy · 03/05/2021 20:46

10 and 13 year old are perfectly capable of looking after themselves if you are feeling ill after the vaccine. YABU

Arrowheart · 03/05/2021 20:46

You are way over reacting.

jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 03/05/2021 20:47

Massive over reaction op

Wrenna · 03/05/2021 20:47

Major side effects that prevented you from caring for the kids? If so yanbu.

Dinnerfor1 · 03/05/2021 20:47

Yes you are overreacting. A 10 and 13 year old surely don’t need a high level of supervision?

Hereforthedramaz · 03/05/2021 20:47

I'm sorry but yes, I think you are.

I had fairly bad side effects from the first dose (but not that required anyone to look after me).

And for reference, and of course everyone is different, but I've had the second dose now and no side effects at all. I had heard most people don't react to the second if they did to the first but I have no idea if that's absolute rubbish!

UrsulaTee · 03/05/2021 20:48

You’re being a drama queen

Shopliftersoftheworldunite · 03/05/2021 20:48

YABU.
You’re an adult. Just get on with it.

Mellonsprite · 03/05/2021 20:48

I think you are over reacting, I had a v strong reaction to first dose. I actually felt like I had Covid symptoms again for a couple of days, but virtually no reaction to second dose. I had a very slightly sore arm that’s all.

Coldwine75 · 03/05/2021 20:48

You are massively over reacting !! The kids are old enough to look after themselves if you are feeling a bit rough !!

Teabaghag · 03/05/2021 20:48

Most people don't have side effects from the 2nd jab.

They can move your appointment easily, just phone them.

user1477249785 · 03/05/2021 20:49

OP your kids are totally old enough to fend for themselves and even look after you if needed. I'm in my own with kids the same age and just has my first dose. I felt ropey for a day or two but we managed and they brought me tea in bed and cooked dinner.

pastabest · 03/05/2021 20:49

Don't be silly.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/05/2021 20:50

They’re old enough to pitch in and look after you if you’re poorly. I’m sure they can feed, clothe, wash and entertain themselves and sling you a sandwich, make you a cuppa if you’re laid up.

When did he last have a golf weekend? When did he last see those friends?

Things are finally starting to open up if you’re in the U.K. and it’s good people are making plans to catch up with friends and spend money.

You’ll be fine! The kids will be fine. He’ll have fun. You can book your own weekend after.

shouldistop · 03/05/2021 20:51

Surely your 10&13yo can manage? And even bring you a sandwich and cup of tea if you're feeling rough?

1Morewineplease · 03/05/2021 20:51

Would you expect your partner to take time off if you had a flu vaccine? Or , if you're going abroad, yellow fever? Typhoid?

It's just a jab with, maybe, a few minor side effects.

IggyAce · 03/05/2021 20:52

My dcs are similar ages and could totally manage to fend for themselves, so unless they have additional needs you are over reacting.

CosmicComfort · 03/05/2021 20:52

I think YABU. It’s a vaccine. If you feel rough you deal with it. Odds are you will be okay, might feel a bit crap but nothing more.

I had to do 3 long days at work after my second vaccine, felt a bit shit but I wasn’t given a choice about date or time and needed to get it done so didn’t want to make a fuss and try to change the date. I didn’t feel great but I got through it, so will you.

AnneFuckingKirrin · 03/05/2021 20:52

Oh come on, how much looking after do a 10 and 13 year old need ?
I’d you feel like crap they can look after themselves while you doze on the sofa. Just get them to make you cups of tea and then order a take away instead of cooking.
I had side effects from my first dose but absolutely nothing from my second - not even a sore arm. You might not even feel ill again.

Howyoudoingirl · 03/05/2021 20:52

You might be fine this time but if you feel rough buy in a bunch of snacks, let them have unlimited screens & order a take away.